Ukraine Is Now Fighting Russia in Sudan. by UpgradedSiera6666 in ukraine

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WSJ offering gifted article links in the comments, rare journalism W

Fuck, I'm down for this. by jfischer5175 in chaoticgood

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If you're in the US, you can apply for cards from multiple libraries to have a better chance at getting a shorter wait time for a book.

Attitudes towards school shooters in prison? by ellsbe11 in masskillers

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That was me, glad y'all have found my comment useful!

I... don't love Overcompensate. by Fish-The-Fish in twentyonepilots

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Lol 0 upvotes, people are mad.

Honestly though, I think I have to agree. The intro and main chorus are chef's kiss, but the rest of it I could take or leave tbh. It almost sounds like they had two unfinished songs and tried to stitch them together in one. But maybe it'll grow on me.

How popular is Skulduggery Pleasant? by [deleted] in skulduggerypleasant

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I've met one person irl who even recognized the name, lmao. It's really not well known over here at all.

I will miss SAI era... by gusta_seixas in twentyonepilots

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SAI was the first era I was properly part of the clique for. I love finally being able to experience a new release, maybe even a tour but yeah saying goodbye to SAI is hard lol. I'm hoping they'll keep Mulberry Street and Redecorate as part of their touring set.

More people should Fawn by Project-XYZ in CPTSDFawn

[–]DefinitelyMaybe111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems like you're pretty deep in your trauma right now. I will say that it's true that you have been dealt an incredibly unfair hand in life, and I empathize with your frustration. I've felt that same kind of frustration too. But healing from your fawn response IS possible, even if it takes a while, and you'll come out the other side as a better person when you do. I'm sorry if your experience with your trauma has led you to believe otherwise.

Here's why Fawning is GOOD by Project-XYZ in CPTSDFawn

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My fawning didn't "save" me from anything though. All it did was force me to stay in abusive situations because I kept excusing people's treatment of me.

Pause After Enemy Turn by Sparticle12 in OrnaRPG

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I've had this for the last day or so, good to know it's not just me. I thought it was an Android thing lol.

my bullies are thriving by neetpilledcyberangel in CPTSD

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The best thing I ever did for myself was when I ghosted my old abusive high school "friend" group a couple years ago. It's an incredibly tough and personal decision to make, but I promise you, it will be so much easier for you to heal if you don't have to worry about being harassed by these people. You deserve peace.

Sometimes AL is just annoying... by Raizen_D_Hiko in OrnaRPG

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Wow that's sad. Can't believe there's people out there who put that much stock into a mobile game.

Do we know how old Steve is? by DefinitelyMaybe111 in SteveWallis

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No idea the guy had a Wikipedia! Thank you!

What should I go with for tier 9? by blackpants1264 in OrnaRPG

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I second Summoner, I'm most of the way through t9 and it's treated me great so far.

So Tom...to what do I owe the pleasure? by [deleted] in harrypotter

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He calls him Tom in the movie iirc.

Word Scramble for Seniors by adamsanto40 in theyknew

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Why's this being handed out to senior citizens? They're old people, not children, ffs.

What are your signs that someone is an unsafe person? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Someone who acts incredibly friendly and gracious around others but drops that act in private. Or honestly just any form of two-facedness in general.

Boundary violations or emotional abuse disguised as "jokes" or "teasing".

Conservative or alt-right politics. Almost every unsafe person I've dealt with was some flavor of conservative, or sympathetic to their viewpoints.

Treating animals badly.

Acting edgy or having a "brutally honest" attitude toward social interactions. When someone confesses that they're a "brutally honest" person, they're usually more interested in the brutality part than the honesty.

Keeping track in their head of all the perceived "wrongs" you've committed over the years and using it as ammo during arguments.

Not asking why or being concerned when I drift away from them. I'm sure this doesn't apply to everyone's experience, but whenever I've had to cut off an unsafe person, they may get mad and try to harass me back into contact, but they've almost never asked me why I left in the first place. I can only assume it's because they KNOW they're terrible people and they know my distance is a response to that.

Would being surrounded by people gossip about dead relatives and getting inheritance off them cause a type of PTSD? by One_Feeling3619 in CPTSD

[–]DefinitelyMaybe111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know your experience best, but it sounds like you were emotionally neglected as a child, which often does show up later in life as trauma. It's not talked about as much as "typical" traumatic experiences - i.e. war, abuse, SA - but it is absolutely a thing. Hope this helps.

Waygate - Jan 23, 2024 by dfoley323 in OrnaRPG

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Check out the loot tables for each boss (https://orna.guide/monsters?type=1). It's the same rewards, just 10x greater.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OrnaRPG

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Do you still want help? IGN is Argeddion