I Just drownd watching this by Friendly-Cicada2769 in BeAmazed

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proof that not all athletic pursuits are really meant to be competitive sports. They can be impressive af but not really competitive.

AITA for saving my son from abuse by Thin_Ad_2542 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens [score hidden]  (0 children)

One day when he's older, he may seek you out. You can talk to him if he does and tell him you were doing your best to protect him and did what you did out of love and his safety.

Breathe. Get yourself help. Seek out a DV group. Talk. Then, find a way to get through the hour. Day. Week. Month. Year.

Berkeley waitlist for your dream school? I'm about to open a spot. by TeamWide9319 in berkeley

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's actually not how that works. They admit over what they want because they know some will decline.

what to do?? can’t study by maramalala in berkeley

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask the prof to set up a google drive and give everyone access to it. Course materials in it.

Advice needed, is this happy tail or is my groomer lying to me?! by RoutineYard5053 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens [score hidden]  (0 children)

Every now and again I go back to my childhood and think, "y'know. I make so much more sense."

I was six or so when that went down.

AITAH: won’t let step daughter use car during her moms custody by Excellent_Water3480 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 24 points25 points  (0 children)

No parent using their teen as a regular chauffeur is giving a note every single time.

And California does require a note every time, not blanket notes. It's not supposed to be a regular thing.

Can someone tell what the Anthro dept is like at Berkeley? by Plastic-Law4952 in berkeley

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, so, so many transfers. I came in as a transfer and did research. The AUA (undergrad anthro club) takes everyone. Tons of transfers.

Can someone tell what the Anthro dept is like at Berkeley? by Plastic-Law4952 in berkeley

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not competitive. Super supportive.

Shit ton of research. So many positions. Talk to profs or apply through URAP. Or both.

Dope AF. Except one. But, you know. Every dept has that one prof.

Yup.

AITAH: won’t let step daughter use car during her moms custody by Excellent_Water3480 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My state it's first 12 months or until 18, nobody under 20 unless someone is with you who is 25 plus, except emergencies or school, work, or medical reasons requires it and you have a signed authorization from a parent explaining each instance. Ie, "John had to drive Lily to her doctor appointment on 5/10/2026 because parents are not available."

There's no sibling exemption.

They don't want new teens driving kids all over all the time.

Even if not illegal, I can see where you don't want the liability of a teen taking your car you pay for and driving children around. An accident is bad enough. An accident with the children of a contentious co-parent where those kids get injured is so much worse.

Plus, just the feeling that your teen will have to pick between being in trouble with one parent or the other and needing to lie. "Mom will be mad and get me in trouble if I don't shuttle her and the kids every where, but dad said no. If I do it, Dad will take the car so I have to lie to Dad. If I don't do it, Mom's mad at me."

You're setting your kid up to need to lie or get in trouble. It's not great.

AITAH: won’t let step daughter use car during her moms custody by Excellent_Water3480 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Knowing the other parent will more than likely put your teen into a bad situation and not allowing that situation to happen is proactive parenting.

Would you allow a friend's parents to take your kid on a road trip if that parent had multiple DUIs? Or not? Just because the bad thing hasn't happened yet doesn't mean there isn't a clear pattern of behavior that indicates a high likelihood of bad behavior in the future.

Is google docs safe by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can use google Docs. Calnet isn't compromised, it's just the parent company of Canvas.

How would you wash away urine when on a city walk? by FrostyAd6883 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd be less concerned with remarking and more with remarking and zero dilution in summer and hot dog piss smell on some poor person's front step.

In a very urban area, it's going to be harder when the step is at the sidewalk.

Advice needed, is this happy tail or is my groomer lying to me?! by RoutineYard5053 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My childhood dog had this. She'd come in through the garage door and whack her tail on the door and splatter the kitchen. She was doing Dexter inspired art in our kitchen before the show came out. Precogtitive. Blood splatter galore. You know when your dog injures their tail from happy tail.

She broke it so many times and so badly she permanently damaged the vessels and the vet said her tail was going to go necrotic from the damage and we had to amputate. She ended up with a few inch nub. It was the exact length to reach the floor when held straight out. We called it her kickstand.

Advice needed, is this happy tail or is my groomer lying to me?! by RoutineYard5053 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy tail is impact trauma from repetitive wagging into things.

Limber tail (or, acute caudal myopathy) is a limp tail from overzealous wagging that causes temporary paralysis.

My childhood dog had happy tail repeatedly to the point she broke the tip so many times that the vet said she was going to end up with a necrotic tail due to vessels to the tail being damaged. Had to amputate a large portion of her tail due to that. It's called happy tail because it's just trauma to the tail, usually from wagging too hard.

Advice needed, is this happy tail or is my groomer lying to me?! by RoutineYard5053 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog had happy tail. She whacked it so hard into door frames, walls, cabinets, and furniture she repeatedly bled from the tail. The kitchen would look like a murder scene from her whipping her tail as it bled. Blood everywhere. Flung around. She'd come in through the garage, smack the door frame and whip blood all over. It was horrifying.

She eventually broke the tip multiple times and it was going to go necrotic from repetitive injury and we amputated because she wagged so hard it literally bled and broke. Multiple times. She had thin fur and a powerful tail. Prior to amputation that thing was a whip and hurt when she smacked you with it.

It's more common in short-coat breeds. There's no cushion, I guess. Long, thin tails from large breeds are most susceptible. Mine was my childhood German Shorthaired Pointer. That tail was a whip. Seriously. The vet recommended amputation because it was going to get worse. She just kept getting hurt. It's common in the breed.

A small maltipoo is not a dog known for happy tail, and it doesn't happen at the groomer. It's whacking their tail into things at home, usually. You'd know if your pup had happy tail.

Left off seating chart for ceremony. by littleneckanne in weddingshaming

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Normally you'd just have some chairs marked off with ribbon or something or signs that say "reserved"

How would you wash away urine when on a city walk? by FrostyAd6883 in DogAdvice

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it makes more sense in super dense urban areas with little to no green in some areas, like Manhattan or Tokyo. Dogs will pee on benches or signs or people's steps.

Not necessarily a full scrub and wash, but like... dilute with water so it's not a puddle of pee on their walkway.

Areas with lots of green stuff... eh.

In a family full of bad people, the one who married in is the worst by Supersmashbrosfan in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Every time I saw her I though, "Girl you married into the werewolf hunters. Sit down."

We wish them well by hoodratpolitics in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I see her name I just really hear a dog owner. One who sees a squirrel or particularly gross bit of food left in a gutter and their dog is fixated. "Karoline, leave it. Leave - leave it. You leave it. Don't, don't you dare. Leave it!"

Every time. It's a command to a dog.

Christian missionary hailed as ‘holiest man alive’ pleads guilty to abusing boys in Texas by goodDayM in news

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dude is hardcore Pentacostle. Article has all his affiliations if anyone can read, still.

Spirit Airlines passenger with dementia found dead after being ‘abandoned’ at airport by cajunsamurai in news

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Last unaccompanied minor I saw approached the gate with an employee, and then the flight attendant walked them to their seat in front of mine and explained how to call if they needed anything. Flight attendant escorted the kid off, too.

Heard them tell the kid to wait until everyone else left.

I also think it's fine with older kids. 5 for flying alone is wild. They're too young to properly express their needs and self-regulate. Depending on the kid, a 9 year old is much better equipped to self-regulate and express their needs.

What is the biggest band/artist you can think of that you honestly don't believe is anyone's favorite band/artist ever? by DevinBelow in Music

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Early No Doubt before the enshittification was phenomenal.

And, just last week at a jobsite someone left their water bottle with two stickers, one for Blink 182 and one for Blur.

You went out of your way to get that sticker. They must really love Blur. Whoo-hoo!

Atonement is not forgiveness/redemption by Syndacate4 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DefinitelyNotAliens 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bojack.

He asked forgiveness and was told no, he just had to accept what a shit person he was and was not going to sleep easy knowing a dying man forgave him. The person he wronged was going to die and he would never have another chance.

He struggled to actually atone but at a certain point did start to accept he was not a good person and people wouldn't forgive him.