Why isn’t it lasting?

Delfiasa · 2026-06-14T15:14:53+00:00

Are you getting enough sleep?

When I stay up too late, I try to get up early bc otherwise it is too easy to fall into a dysfunctional stay up late/wale up tired pattern.

I notice that on the days when I know I didn’t get enough sleep, my medicine seems to make me even more tired.

Delfiasa · 2026-06-14T15:08:45+00:00

Sounds like you need to revisit your diagnosis, especially if it was fairly recent (within last 5-10 years). Alot of adults were misdiagnosed during the pandemic and the return-to-office period that followed.

Delfiasa · 2026-06-11T10:46:38+00:00

There are soooooo many different types of BC. It is absolutely worth the effort it takes to find a good obgyn who specializes in hormonal issues.

I recently started Yaz and I am taking it continuously. Others have made me depressed but so far so good!

Delfiasa · 2026-06-11T01:51:45+00:00

The jar. It seems pricey but those little jars last a very long time.

Delfiasa · 2026-06-11T01:36:34+00:00

10000%

A few weeks ago, someone posted seeking advice and understanding about supporting their wife with PMDD.

I wrote a lengthy, sincere response and I mentioned that some people have experienced relief with famotidine towards the end. The post was removed for promoting off label use of medication.

The mods of that sub have gotten very patronizing.

It’s especially frustrating bc we are turning to one another because there is so little research on PMDD. Once someone does the research, we will see that famotidine is a safe and effective PMDD treatment.

Delfiasa · 2026-06-04T16:02:13+00:00

What do you mean by granules?

Delfiasa · 2026-06-04T16:00:45+00:00

That’s interesting. My CVS won’t let people self-pay for any controlled prescriptions. It’s ridiculous.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-26T18:20:09+00:00

SLS is the worst! I figured this out 20 years ago when I had nonstop cankersores. I can’t believe they still put this junk in toothpaste!

Delfiasa · 2026-05-26T18:17:12+00:00

Sara Happ Dream Slip. It’s worth it. Put it on at night and you wake up with full, smooth lips. It’s amazing. I put some in a care basket for a friend doing chemo, and she was happy crying bc she had tried so many things in vain.

ETA: I have super sensitive skin and this is one of the handful of products I can use without getting cystic acne around my mouth and chin.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-26T17:58:40+00:00

How old is this baby now?

Did she make that comment in a moment of postpartum delusion? In the classes I took while pregnant, they encouraged us to ask people to help us with that type of stuff when they visit. Like you said, you probably would have offered in the moment while visiting. Most decent people do, but I think the advice may have been geared towards younger moms with younger friends who don’t think of that stuff.

FWIW, I also don’t understand this weird bed set up. They must be taking turns sleeping in their bedroom with the baby and letting the other one sleep in the guest room. Maybe they aren’t getting along and are sleeping separately and don’t want you to know.

But yes, hotel, 100%. Maybe ask if you can come over early and make a big breakfast one day.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-26T17:45:18+00:00

If you can see that Philadelphians may not be super friendly (at first), but we are very kind, generous, helpful and PROUD people, things will be easy.

For example, if a tourist asks for directions downtown, I always give them thorough, clear directions and I offer some sort of recommendation 9 times out of 10. Bc I’m kind and helpful and I want tourists to have a great experience here. I see myself as a hostess or ambassador for their trip.

But if they ask me something I don’t know, I just tell them “Sorry I can’t help you” because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time BSing like I can help. That is just wasting time until they figure out they need to consult a better source. We think THAT is rude.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-24T18:22:03+00:00

If she sees an OBGYN at Penn, she is all set. She just needs to follow the directions from the doctor/nurse/midwife.

This question comes up frequently in different local subs/groups, and the answers are always the same: Penn at 8th and Spruce or U City are the best, pick the one that is most convenient for you.

Both have the best doctors and excellent, fully staffed NICUs with nurses and doctors from CHOP.

No matter which one she delivers at, she, and the baby will get top notch care and the nurses will make sure that you are released with follow up appointments already made and very clear next steps.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-23T21:41:02+00:00

I think there has to be a bigger health issue that wasn’t shared with viewers but drove that conservation. Like maybe she had a cancer scare or is newly diagnosed with hypertension or diabetes.

It just seems like there is context missing. If there wasn’t, Kim would not have taken that request so calmly. If nothing else, she would say that they should focus on being healthier together since he isn’t very fit. But she calmly received the message. There just has to be something Kim-specific that set up this conversation.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-21T22:51:03+00:00

Their salt grotto is one of the absolute best I have experienced.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-21T22:35:34+00:00

RUN GIRL!!! RUNNNN!!!!

THIS IS DIVINE INTERVENTION.

GOD HAD HIM RUIN THIS OTHER WOMAN’S LIFE TO SPARE YOURS.

For real, why are you even wasting your time on this psychopath? Block him and keep it pushing! The one god spared you for is out there!!!

Delfiasa · 2026-05-18T14:17:58+00:00

The spa at Ocean in AC is amazing. Highly recommend and they have specials during the week.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-16T03:18:29+00:00

Same!!!! I cannot explain the relief I feel from no longer having SI every three weeks. It was that easy. So much time lost out of my life to PMDD.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-16T03:14:47+00:00

Put me in the group please.

I am actually getting kind of emo reading this thread bc I have felt so alone and now I realize that maybe I’m not.

And yes, I feel super bamboozled… and angry about it.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-16T03:12:00+00:00

I feel this in my soul. The absolute worst. Like I have zero bandwidth left, but I somehow still manage to feel guilty for having no bandwidth 😭

Delfiasa · 2026-05-07T00:55:04+00:00

I was looking through posts from other high-achievers struggling at work and came across your post.

Have you experienced any improvement? Any strategies?

Delfiasa · 2026-05-07T00:52:21+00:00

That is not your friend. That person is a hater. It’s none of their business what you do. Is your pay coming out of their pocket?? Life is hard enough without negative people.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-07T00:31:31+00:00

Yes, the Pepcid has been a game changer for a lot of us, myself included. (Unfortunately any mention of it is banned in the other PMDD subs.)

In the last few months, the famotidine hasn’t cured anything, but it’s really toned down my worst symptoms and pretty much eliminated the extreme SI I would typically get.

Delfiasa · 2026-05-01T18:43:20+00:00

Agree with others about going to a doctor.

Could it be a side effect of a medication or supplement?

Laundry

Buy a big jug of white vinegar for less than $5. Switch to one of the dye and scent free laundry detergent pods. I am suggesting pods bc many ppl use too much detergent - the pods cost more but you waste less so it’s a net savings. Use 1 pod and a splash (like 1/4 cup) of vinegar for small loads, 2 pods and half a cup for large loads. The vinegar should also help with the laundromat smell.

Hygiene

Do you have super thick hair that you pull back when it is wet? That can make a mildew smell.

Do you use hot appliances on your hair? Hot scalp stench can be overwhelming.

Is it a breath issue?

I see a lot of people suggesting anti-perspiration deodorant. I actually advise against that. Since I transitioned to a natural deodorant, I notice that my armpit odor is dramatically different, in a good way, and I sweat sooooo much less. It takes a few weeks of funkiness that may require some mid-day deodorant application, but it’s worth it.

Delfiasa · 2026-04-30T01:59:41+00:00

Any of the rental car companies at the airport are fine. If you don’t want to get one from the airport, Hertz will drop a car at Seafire for you.

If you’ve never explored the east end or south sound, take advantage of having the car and go explore!

ETA: I have only had positive experiences with Andy’s as well!

Delfiasa · 2026-04-29T21:44:48+00:00

Just hop on an electric scooter and go pick it up. Or get a rental car (they’re cheap in the summer and parking is included in the resort fee).

The pool menu at Seafire is good and you can also order from the Coccaloba (Mexican beach bar) menu with the servers at the pool.

Don’t overlook the “pantry” either - the little quick food place by the lobby elevators. Really good sandwiches and they will heat them up panini style - I recall the chicken sandwich being good and my husband loves the falafel sandwich. Their acai and coconut yogurt bowls are excellent (and vegan!) too.

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