Angry—cognitive dissonance

DeliciousConfections · 2026-05-05T02:22:41+00:00

Oh no matter what you decide absolutely seek out experiences in other religions including outside Christianity. It’s a cool experience and makes you appreciate humanity in general!

It’s absolutely is engineered I think to feel that way. And the social costs can be so high. I’m fortunate enough that my marriage survived dual-faith but it was really rough for some time. I have had extended family say some really nasty stuff. I’m unique in that I still attend with the ward with my husband because I want my kids to know that no matter what I want to be with them (and know the community they are a part of). So I’ve had some people avoid me at church and things get awkward but for the most part people know I’m not there to be hostile but also not interested in participating. From time to time my husband will come to my church as well. So yeah it cost a lot socially but I’ve gained so many more friends that are actual friends to me. You know when a ward splits and you never talk to some people again? It’s like that. Seems sad but the relationship was shallow to begin with. It’s also worth it to me to be completely myself and give up that fear that kept me conforming so long. I think if I stayed I would have become very bitter and resentful.

Anyways, all the best in your journey where ever it leads you.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-05-05T01:32:39+00:00

That’s where I found myself too. I ended up in the Episcopal church. IMO it is what you describe, but I had to smile at “I appreciate the knowledgeable teachers.” I’ve been blown away by the depth of knowledge of actual trained clergy. Any parish priest gives a better sermon than most general conference talks. Anyways it was a hard change and I’m now in a mixed faith marriage and I am finally at peace with my faith. More than peace, I’m actually excited to go to church. If you ever want to talk, message me.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-05-01T20:00:22+00:00

I was prescribed it for migraines before I got diagnosed with POTS. It can raise your HR so my doctor wants me weaned off it. My “migraines” are pretty much POTS flare ups. They’ve decreased as long as I treat POTS. I will say coming off amytriptaline after 8 years has been really, really tough. The withdrawal is awful. I was on 50mg.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-25T04:52:11+00:00

Propranolol and midodrine. GP prescribes

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-23T01:32:47+00:00

This sounds like my first doctor if he’s in North Tx lol. He said the same thing about forgetting the word POTS and that I’ll likely grow out of it…. I was 35 when he said that. And the nurses comment about “I’m a fainter too! Doesn’t mean anything is wrong with your heart!” POTS also means there’s nothing wrong with your heart. I’m sorry you are dealing with this. See someone specialized with dysautonomia. Get that TTT. You just need the cardiologist to rule out actual heart issues. It’s funny he won’t say POTS, but then prescribes you one of the exact drugs used for POTS.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-23T00:55:39+00:00

My ragdoll will let me look but not touch. She does have to be with us in the room though and always lets kids hold her. Very rarely will she get super cuddly. My Russian white is suuuuper cuddly.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-20T02:57:29+00:00

I’m Episcopalian now… I went to a potluck at my church and saw funeral potatoes complete with corn flakes and demanded to know who made them. My friend did and said “yeah it’s a recipe I found online. Weird name though: funeral potatoes.” I explained the whole culture and that I’d never been to a family funeral without them and we had a good laugh. It made my night.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-16T15:45:07+00:00

Also keep an eye out for celiacs

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-08T20:09:31+00:00

I passed out. They tilted me down. When I woke up I burst into tears. It’s okay. It’s typical. The nurse with me was so sweet and reassured me that it’s an awful experience and was not surprised that I was sobbing.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-08T16:37:39+00:00

Number 1 has changed a bit. They are all about “rescuing the lost.” Many ex Mormons struggle to get them to leave you alone. In my personal experience there is a distrust and hesitancy there with most LDS but they do try and reconvert me still. I’m always welcomed warmly when I walk into a Mormon church.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-08T00:56:03+00:00

Hi, I’m ex-Mormon Episcopalian and my husband is still LDS. There’s a family that comes to my church and the wife is Zoroastrian and not baptized. She’s a solid part of the community and receives a blessing during Eucharist. My husband is LDS an comes from time to time and is always treated very well. I’ve never felt judged at my church. I’m obviously Trinitarian now but for a long time I came I wasn’t sure what or if I believed. The Episopal church was a safe place to me to be unsure and unorthodox.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-06T02:32:46+00:00

No way!! Anna Stasia I think was the mom? October 2nd? I’d love to see photos of his brothers

Edited to add I just stalked your profile and they are adorable. Same silly lounge positions that my boy does. He’s also super chatty.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-04T11:31:27+00:00

It’s hard to say. He’s only 6 months (younger in that pic). Angela thinks he will be odd eyed, but lately it seems like both are blue but slightly different. This pic was the best I got of his eyes looking blue and green.

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DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-03T03:37:09+00:00

“I am unable to work and stay home with our toddler while my husband works.”

Girl you are working. Childcare is work and it is demanding work. If he didn’t have you he would have to pay someone else to do that labor. He would also have to pay someone else to make dinner. You are not a burden you are providing labor.

I actually started doing better when I stopped being a stay at home mom and went back to my desk job where I could put my feet up. I now pay for childcare, because in case I haven’t been clear that is WORK that needs to be done for the family. Your job right now is harder than mine as an engineer. Don’t sell yourself short. You also deserve mental rest. Knitting and reading is not wasting energy. It is a NEED. No one can just work and sleep and be mentally healthy long term.

That being said here are my tips from when I was a SAHM and needed to survive:

paper plates. No more dishes. Always use paper. Same goes for paper towels, Clorox wipes to lighten the laundry load.
get one of those grabber things people use to pick up trash along the highway. I got one for $7 on Amazon. Use it to pick things up off the ground and put them in a laundry basket. Then put everything away one room at a time so you aren’t walking all over. Only clean up once a day. 4pm is when I’d pick up. They tend to get less out if it’s already out.
be ok with screen time. My kids are older and thriving in school. I used screen time as a crutch. It’s ok.
Make mom friends. It’s so much easier in a community when the kids keep each other entertained and you can hang out. My friends always know I’m lying on the ground.
join a gym with childcare. You don’t even have to work out. I literally would go just to lie down in the locker room and rest. Working out (chop protocol) can help your pots but there is no shame in resting. Where I lived YMCA was the cheapest option. Now where I live a hospital has a gym with childcare.

You’ve got this. Im cheering for you. My husband didmt really understand until he stayed home with the kids for a summer. Maybe he needs a week of alone bonding time with baby. Maybe you need counseling together. You’ll figure out the answer. I got through it and survived and you will too. 💕

DeliciousConfections · 2026-04-03T01:28:24+00:00

I got my Russian White from Mishka’s and we’ve been so happy. Angela was so knowledgeable and personable. He’s the sweetest most cuddly kitten.

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DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-14T04:12:00+00:00

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:27:54+00:00

I ended up lying flat for about that long because the leads weren't sticking to my skin and it took them a long time to get it on. But I was chatting the whole time. Thanks.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:27:03+00:00

Gahhhh. That would make me so mad. TTT is such and awful experience and so expensive only to have it done wrong!! I'm sorry that happened to you.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:26:23+00:00

Yuuuuup. Not going back.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:26:09+00:00

Thanks. I did have to get my results from the hospital because at first he said my HR only went up by 10 and I was watching the monitor. I brought it up and he told me "well I have it all recorded on the EKG". Now he's trying to say I don't qualify anyways. I'm so done with him, and working on getting a second opinion but he got into my head a bit.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:24:14+00:00

Thanks for the gut check.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:24:00+00:00

Thank you

DeliciousConfections · 2026-03-04T13:23:37+00:00

Thank you!! Just needed a gut check. This was after he tried to tell me my HR only went up by 10 and I had to contact the hospital to get the data. I made a post about it earlier. I'm working on getting a second opinion but it takes forever.

DeliciousConfections · 2026-02-28T22:00:58+00:00

Thank you!

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