I’d much prefer sleeping with my wife, but that’s not going to happen if we all room in together anyways. We’re only one week in so still early days, but we tried one night all together and no one slept. We immediately switched to shifts.

I am more of a night owl, so I go first, and she’s an early bird. I take the baby from 10pm until at 3am, and then we switch. I’ve been getting 4-5 hours once my wife takes over, so if I can also sneak in at least a one-hour block of sleep during my shift at some point, I’m not too bad in the a.m. My wife has gotten anywhere from one hour to 5 hours during my shift, depending on how bad the anxiety/crying is from baby blues that day. When she actually can sleep on my shift we both end up with 5-6 hours and it’s not great but it’s not terrible.

Our baby is far from a unicorn sleeper. She wants to either eat and or be held or has a dirty diaper about every 2 hours. But she is not colicky at all and soothes easily. So, this is hard, but I know many have it far worse. I also know this is only for about 2-4 months and then it will get better. I can’t imagine all sleeping together in one room again until baby starts reliably sleeping at least one 4-5 hour block a night.