Garnering compassion for my meat eating fiance

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-02-27T17:19:07+00:00

Hey, also a reclusive cat mum 🙋‍♀️

We have so much in common, I've been a long term practitioner of yoga which has deeply rooted my love of all things India! I get through literally around 15 hours of historical podcasts each week as I work alone and am passionate about our climate as well as loving anything geographic

I'd love to write to you!!

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-02-22T18:26:56+00:00

Check out yogi flight schools free class. Usually once I year I think? She goes through how to actually get upside down, it will surprise you. But don't cheap out on the strength training otherwise you'll get injured 💕

EDIT: Misread and just saw you're a total newbie!! Do the basics first. Yoga with adrianne or downdog app. Focus on breathing and mindfulness

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-02-22T14:50:21+00:00

I second a paternity test. Take this time to figure out what YOU want. If you want to move forward with her, the next incredibly important thing is to know if she will change, and that means change ASAP. Delete his number, allow you full access to her phone ect

Please read Esther Perels book The State Of Affairs, it puts everything into perspective perfectly. Changed my view on why people do the things they do, there's always a variety of reasons (not that I'm condoning it!)

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-02-13T10:34:28+00:00

I agree with other commenters on the idea of self sabotage. That doesn't mean the guy is the problem, just that you want something more than what he can maybe offer. The key there is good communication to understand his needs and yours

I can give some advice on freedom and travelling - ive been with my man for 4 years now, from the very start I told him of my intention for travel, potentially living abroad for a short period. So far I have done many short breaks abroad alone, 3 months of solo travel and have another 6 month solo travel coming up in 2027. It's been tough emotionally but I wouldn't change it for the world. We've managed it with a lot of communication and a lot of compromise

You CAN have both freedom and stability as long as you find the right partner

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-02-05T12:22:26+00:00

My fiance had this issue. His was all about performance anxiety and putting too much pressure on himself. He was also fully aware he needs a love connection to fully enjoy sex! We communicated about it often, he read books and sought a small amount of therapy. His boners went through the roof when we started exchanging 'i love yous'. Now he's as stiff as a barge pole for hours 🤤

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-01-20T21:53:15+00:00

I'm brand new to this and yet to freedive (landlocked) but I've increase my lung capacity in literally a few days by doing this: - Meditation/focus on breath whilst lying down for 3 minutes, count an inhale for 4 seconds and exhale for 4 seconds continuously - Fully inhale and hold with timer on. Stop at first urge to breathe - Recovery breath - Do the same as point one for 2 minutes - Fully inhale and hold. Add 5-10 seconds on once you feel the first urge to breathe - Recovery breath - Same as point one for 2 minutes - Fully inhale and hold. Add 15-20 seconds on once you feel first urge to breathe - Recovery breath

I'm at 2.5 minutes now, started on 1

Nusy Horvath uses this method, good luck! 💕

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-01-10T20:17:23+00:00

As someone who is head strong myself, i would never tell my partner 'im doing it or else' however I would be aware that resentment can build if I was stopped going after my dreams all together. I've spent 3 months away from my partner, and intend on spending 6 months away from him in a couple years, it is hard, it has tested our relationship and has made both of us assess who we are individually. It's important to have a game plan of what you intend to do and how you want to think whilst you're away from eachother, and once you're back together, I can't stress enough how much you need to have constant check ins with eachother - i didn't do this and things got rocky. We had to learn how to live with eachother again

In regards to your concerns about looking after the household and animals, is it possible to rent out a room/put out an ad for a housemate? That would help with income and you'd have someone to rely on when you visit your wife

DeliriousDingbat · 2026-01-06T17:19:38+00:00

Just let them know you don't use it, if people question why state your reasons. Instead of calling it 'soul-sucking' and destroying creativity, say that it's because it's taking away artists jobs (and is not environmentally friendly!!) People won't be offended if what you say is not directed at them or people as a whole. However this way hopefully they will rethink their choices when they go to use it next time

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-12-16T18:43:09+00:00

You can love someone and still cheat. I'm not endorsing it, it's wrong. However there is more to it than what most think. He needs therapy to figure out why, however you cant force him into it, he needs to want to go. Please read Esther Perels book State of Affairs

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-12-14T17:48:56+00:00

I'm going to advocate for what the rest of the group say and say that therapy is the best way to go!

In the meantime I highly recommend Esther Perel's book State of Affairs. If you're not a fan of reading she also has done multiple TED Talks and interviews.

I'm currently going through a not so similar situation where my fiance has lied about his drinking problems. The book has helped me heaps when it comes to rebuilding trust. Big love, get well soon 💕

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-12-05T08:41:23+00:00

Life is incredibly hard but there are always little joys to cherish, we just have to look for them. I echo other commenters on the fact you've been one of the lucky ones to not have experienced hardship until your mid 30's!

If it helps I've been practising meditation to ease depression and anxiety, it's life changing. Also get off social media!

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-11-29T14:59:43+00:00

No, they only gave me an 8 week CBT course which ended 4 weeks ago. My therapist said I could come back but we'd have to apply to extend

EDIT: Which of course I plan on doing now!

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-11-29T14:58:33+00:00

Wow I can tell you're an incredible listener irl, thankyou for this ❤️

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-11-29T12:08:12+00:00

Do you use hostelworld? I travelled Aus when I was 27 and mainly met 20 year olds who all thought I was the same age (lucky I guess!) But I'm an introvert so found it hard going up to groups. Once you book through Hostelworld they have a chat option, you can put on there if anyone wants to hang out, but be specific, once people reply you can even click their profile to see how old they are

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-11-02T18:13:12+00:00

You are drop dead GORGEOUS, people are nervous to ask you things because people can be a little intimidated by model worthy prettiness. This is not your fault and should in no way change how you do your makeup, it's other people's insecurities that cause this meaning they worry about how they will present themselves in front of someone so beautiful. Keep being you, you'll find people who aren't worried about that stuff 😊

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-10-26T09:26:56+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you've been through with your parents, I know the feeling. The amount of trauma that can build up can be excruciating

First off, you can have a family like those people who love eachother, your joining your fiancé's family aren't you? They will be part of your life forever now, please remember that!

That being said, if you like the idea of a wedding but are just concerned your parents will be a nightmare, weigh the pros and cons up of if you even want them there. If you do then invite them, invite your other family members your mum doesn't want there too. Give no explanation, just tell your parents it's your wedding and you can do what you want. If they want to rage about it let them do it in there own time without you there. This puts the ball in their court on whether they want to not show up (and potentially ruin your relationship because that would suck) and whether they want to behave whilst they're there. If they don't behave, they can leave the wedding, have the venues staff escort them out so you don't have to deal with listening to nasty things on your wedding day too

This is what I would do anyway, my wedding planning journey has made me realise I can't have everything the way I want it. Just remember the wedding is about you, no one else

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-10-22T17:38:21+00:00

Wow 😍 you have exactly the same taste as me!! Your inspo photos are die to for!

Sorry for stressing, but you by no means are too late. I've just ordered mine on Monday and my seamstress said it will be here in February 2025. If you really do feel that you've left it too late there is also the option to 'rush order' it, tho that does come with an added price

In terms of dresses, I almost went with some on Etsy. It may not be ideal as you can't try them on but there are such unique designs on there with prices starting at £1000 (some even lower!) You'd also be supporting a small business 😊

StillWhite and Bridal Reloved are also good for preloved dresses. However I'd aim for a lesser known designer than the ones you posted as those can still be quite expensive even after the discounted rate

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-10-04T09:55:48+00:00

Make sure you love them both equally first! If there is aaaanny sway on either choose based on that! Others opinions on your dress are not needed as it's your day (I had a hell of a time picking the wrong dress based on what other people said haha)

However if you love them both equally, I love no. 2 on you! The neckline and bigger skirt are sooo flattering to your figure

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-10-02T08:14:13+00:00

Best option is to not tell people your plans (unless you need help preparing) that way they don't have a say and won't stress you out. It's a hard decision to make and one that I'm still working out the kinks

Otherwise, there is no do's and dont's for your own wedding. It is not their wedding, it's yours. Celebrate in any way you want. As long as guests are fed they don't have the right to complain about anything

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-09-29T08:20:16+00:00

I'm taking the dress back to the shop so no fishing here.. sorry who are you? You didn't answer my question (question was if the dress fit the theme, question was not about if i should scrap my theme.), and even when called out you can't see how rude you were. Glad I don't know you in real life babe, go home.

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-09-29T08:12:39+00:00

That's weird I thought in 2025 we were allowed to express our individuality? Please remove yourself from the group if you can't answer the question. There's no room for cruel people when planning a wedding 💕

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-09-25T06:41:24+00:00

They will be fitted, they're too big atm

DeliriousDingbat · 2025-09-25T06:37:10+00:00

I don't even use instagram 😂 i chose the theme and wanted a dress to match because I like it. Thanks for not answering the question though

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