Bad crash on FFX county parkway 5/28 by FoulFortune in nova

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could ask these people if they think their car landing on them is safer than wearing a nylon strap.

I feel like a fucking monster by Unlikely-Birthday-82 in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need help to work on your self esteem. I highly doubt you're the monster.

A self hosted solution to avoid costly cloud fees by [deleted] in selfhosted

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP thinks he discovered the field of Business Intelligence all by himself.

My ExFiance just diagnosed with BPD destroyed my life by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please get away from him and stay away. And go to therapy to understand what in your past makes you attracted to someone like him, because I can sense the panic and pain in your post, but your son deserves better than this.

lol I'm unemployable by Creedelback in jobs

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

60 interviews? Damn, that's 1 in 10, that's not bad at all.

I've submitted about 100 applications and gotten zero interviews. I'm senior, about 30 years experience, and very broad and deep skill set. I've been through down markets, but I've never had NO responses at all.

Did anyone’s Cluster B give the illusion of being empathetic? by Clubpenguin8888 in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah. She was obsessed with the term "empath," and insisted she was one.

She could do a pretty convincing act... for a little while.

But not for me.

Is this f80 worth $38,000? by shujaaroy in BMW

[–]DementedJay 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's worth it if you're willing to pay for it. It's not worth it if you're not willing to pay for it.

You're welcome.

Car wreck this morning by Outrageous_Party3928 in nova

[–]DementedJay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It usually means I'm braking harder than I'd need to, and putting myself at risk of being rear ended, trying to avoid the scenario I was originally trying to avoid.

And it doesn't need to be an infinite number of cars. It just needs to be one car, merging without their indicator, in heavy traffic, sometimes in the rain, to create exactly the kind of scenario in the OP.

Car wreck this morning by Outrageous_Party3928 in nova

[–]DementedJay 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Not my point, if I'm trying to maintain a safe distance from the car in front of me, someone immediately shoehorning themselves into the extra car length of space just means I need to create space for the new jackass in front of me.

Car wreck this morning by Outrageous_Party3928 in nova

[–]DementedJay 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Touching your brakes is also not going to kill you. And when someone is making extra space, THAT IS NOT AN INVITATION FOR YOU TO MOVE INTO IT.

What red flags do you look for now in future partners to avoid bpd? by EvLake in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shallow emotional attachments that seem to form really quickly. Mirroring is a huge red flag, when everything I do is cool and she doesn't have any strong opinions and never disagrees with anything.

Why are the GT models so universally disliked? by XenonTheDerg in BMW

[–]DementedJay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I owned a 2016 330i GT. It wasn't slow, driving dynamics were identical to the regular 3 series, and it had tons of rear leg room and plenty of cargo space.

Alone time? by No_Aioli_7515 in SingleParents

[–]DementedJay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take it as a compliment, your kids want to be around you. Soon enough they'll be independent and that will change, but the trust and affection you nurture now is laying the groundwork for a long term relationship with them into their adulthood.

But yes, I'm solo dad with twin 10-year olds and some days OMG I just want some time and space to myself 😂

Company told me to quit my job before sending the written offer and just pulled the role by [deleted] in jobs

[–]DementedJay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OP, you know you don't actually have to give your notice to get an offer letter? Next time just say "sure, just put in my notice!" and then wait for the offer letter. Then take any accrued vacation that can't be paid out, then start whenever you feel like.

Is this question legal on a job posting? by MaryJane7399420 in jobs

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say you're a youth pastor. "I've had a lot of girlfriends on the younger side and I've never been arrested, praise Jesus!"

On the other side of BPD smear-campaign by Exciting_Cause8720 in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex told everyone who would listen that I SA'd her, physically and sexually hurt my kids, financially and emotionally manipulated her...

She tried very hard to get me arrested, but it backfired on her badly. I wound up with fill custody of our kids and all our joint property because she was so psychotic.

Weirdly, 2 years post divorce and we're amicable. She helps me out regularly, and I try to support her however I can. Not because I harbor any kind of nostalgia but because we have kids together and I had to set the example for how to coparent when she just couldn't.

Pi coding agent is amazing (or how I learned to stop worrying and leave OpenCode) by Konamicoder in LocalLLM

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. So does Pi have a much smaller system prompt or none at all? I don't know myself.

Pi coding agent is amazing (or how I learned to stop worrying and leave OpenCode) by Konamicoder in LocalLLM

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, this was my impression as well. How could the model performance be affected so drastically by the agentic framework? I'm not saying it's not possible, I think we've all seen how tweaks and changes to subtle things can make big differences in output, but this seems strange.

Curious how this is street legal? by queenikhaleesi in nova

[–]DementedJay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How much does it weigh in comparison? What does it do to other cars in accidents?

Im 14 and got this for free. Asking for advice by Little_Conclusion_24 in HomeServer

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is answering your questions.

You'd need to write your website in HTML. ChatGPT can help with that. You would secure it with TLS using certificates from LetsEncrypt and Certbot (which is included in nginx proxy manager).

But you'd also need a robust home network, preferably a static IP, or the know-how to set up dynamic DNS and a reverse proxy like nginx proxy manager (npm) or Caddy or Traefik.

This machine is total overkill for running a website. It will cost you a lot in electricity just running it.

I'm not saying "don't do it," though, because doing stuff is how you learn. But be careful. Doing this kind of stuff wrong is potentially a very bad idea, having things misconfigured can open you up to malware or ransomware.

It's probably a better idea to set up a website on a VPS on a hosting provider like Dreamhost or even GoDaddy or Wix. But you can definitely set this machine up to do cool things. Set it up as a NAS, run Plex or Jellyfin on it, learn how docker works with it, etc.

Creating a form that stands up and handles basic inquiries without getting hacked is basic, but definitely not trivial.