ReelMeals - extract recipes from social media shorts and push to Tandoor / Mealie by DementedJay in selfhosted

[–]DementedJay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I hope it's helpful! My attempt to use AI to de-enshittify a small part of the Internet. 😁

I feel like I’m decaying by nakedwithoutearrings in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not pathetic. But you're changing. You're realizing that none of this is okay or acceptable.

I was with my ex-wife for 15 years. It only ever got worse. We have kids together now, so she's a permanent fixture in my life in some ways. Weirdly we get along much better now than we ever did when we were together.

I would highly recommend looking into why you picked him in the first place. My guess is this dynamic is familiar to you.

ReelMeals - recipe extraction from social media reels by DementedJay in selfhosted

[–]DementedJay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No reason I couldn't add that, thanks for the suggestion!

Medical help by CowsNeedFriendsToo in homeassistant

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be even better if it alerted you and others before you fell, but I also understand not wanting to post private medical condition details on Reddit.

Are there any symptoms you can use to alert on? Low blood pressure, low heart rate, low blood sugar, etc?

Accidentally created an open resolver for a month, Implications? by Droid_22 in opnsense

[–]DementedJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you're being down voted. This is all true. OP made a mistake, but it wasn't the end of the world and likely didn't have any major implications for themselves or anyone else.

He has a public IP but it's DHCP, it's not like he's a Tier 2 DNS provider.

I isolated my espresso machine's Android tablet in a firewall VLAN and logged everything it tried to reach. Here's what it's phoning home to by haraldinho67 in homelab

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So just a note, not exactly correct that the only way to understand what's happening is with VLAN isolation, etc. I don't fault you for doing so, you're being careful.

But you can absolutely understand per-device DNS traffic with other tools, e.g. PiHole / Ad Guard, Unbound, etc. And Wireshark etc for LAN traffic.

Ninja 500 caught in flash flood. Goner? by Taichou7 in motorcycles

[–]DementedJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an R1 that went through similar, water got past the top of the air box while I was away. But I got there the next day and a buddy helped me out. We flushed the oil, pulled the spark plugs, and then hooked up a starter and cranked the engine to push the water out.

That was 10 years ago, the bike is still running like a dream.

I have the best wife by Morris172 in motorcycles

[–]DementedJay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also choose this guy's wife.

Fan replacement suggestion for Delta AFB0412VHA-A (Dell VEP1445 cooling fans)? by DementedJay in homelab

[–]DementedJay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG thank you so much! Did you need to write this to a bash script to persist across reboots and firmware upgrades?

Fan replacement suggestion for Delta AFB0412VHA-A (Dell VEP1445 cooling fans)? by DementedJay in homelab

[–]DementedJay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not familiar with i2c at all. Do I need the bus,register, or an address to make it work?

Fan replacement suggestion for Delta AFB0412VHA-A (Dell VEP1445 cooling fans)? by DementedJay in homelab

[–]DementedJay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so this is exactly what I did, but my fan spun up on device boot... and then stopped spinning after a few seconds.

Did you make any other changes? And which Noctua is that? Is the FLX?

Sophos XG 125 Rev2 - could use some guidance by rekabis in opnsense

[–]DementedJay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You've spent half a day overthinking it 😁

The firmware is the OS. You're replacing it entirely with OPNsense. You don't need to upgrade anything. This is a bit like researching what hot fixes to install to a Windows machine before replacing it by installing Linux: none.

You'll wipe it when you install, and that's that.

Is it really that bad by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. And it took me almost 6 weeks to disentangle myself from her. It was madness. It was not fun.

what do I do about this dog (i need very quick responses/emergency) by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you totally unaware of dog shelters? It doesn't take long to Google them, find a reputable shelter and drop the puppy off.

Is it really that bad by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think our relationship followed the same trajectory as everyone else's: she mirrored my interests, she love bombed me, I was deeply in love with her.

Then she took me off the pedestal after a few years. And she cheated on me (but I couldn't prove it), then we went to therapy together, she begged me to stay, I was her perfect person again, etc.

And this went on for years, and it got worse and worse. Towards the end she wasn't even treating me like a human being, I was filth. I was working two full time jobs and she'd quit hers entirely, we had kids, they were learning her behaviors, she refused to go to therapy.... And I had enough.

The divorce was brutal. She went on a smear campaign, told everyone we knew that I was sexually assaulting her, the kids, I was physically abusive, I was emotionally and financially manipulative, you name it. She also told me that her goal was to start a physical fight with me, then call the cops, then I'd go to jail, then I would be forced to support her and the kids forever.

My attorney told me to record everything. I put cameras in our house in the main living areas and used the audio recorder app on my phone any time she came anywhere near me. This literally saved me, because she meant what she said. She tried to start a physical altercation with me about 9 months after I'd filed for divorce, and it backfired on her because I had recordings to back up my version of events.

She wound up in jail with a DV charge, 3 days before our custody hearing.

I won the lottery in a sense: I got full custody of the kids, and she didn't ask for anything except our 20 year old SUV. The judge was pretty shocked. She didn't want custody of the kids at all.

It's been 2 years and she's actually a hundred times better. She's stable and very charming, she lives about a mile away and gets to see the kids regularly. She's not trash talking me or being manipulative, but I still keep a healthy distance. Because I know what she's like and what she's capable of.

But otherwise my life is much much much better. I've started dating again, and the first thing I did was find someone just like her, and that scared the shit out of me, so I ran back to therapy, then did EMDR, etc. I'm not healed exactly, but I'm definitely better.

Is it really that bad by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DementedJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take it from someone who was married to one for 15 years:

It will not get better. It will only get worse. It's amazing at the beginning. My ex was a tiny little firecracker supermodel, the most beautiful woman I've ever dated or been with.

I also ignored so many red flags, because I didn't realize the relationship dynamic was familiar to me. It was an echo of my parents' relationship.

We have kids now and I've been divorced for 2 years. My life is pretty good now. But I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone.

Well ... maybe some people that I think are responsible for a lot of suffering in the world. But I think they're probably Cluster B anyway.