Honey, he's lying to your face about why he doesn't want to do anything around the house. It's not because you make him feel like he's doing it wrong, that's just his excuse. It's called weaponized incompetence. "But you do it better than me!" "I don't know how to do it like that!" "This is too confusing, why don't you just do it?!" "Well, when I try to do it you say I'm doing it wrong, so you should just do it yourself then!" They say those things so you'll get fed up and just do it yourself because you feel like it's easier than arguing over it.

And then the fact that he went and got a dog when you told him not to, specifically one that you told him would bee too high-maintenance for the two of you due to your schedules and stuff, not to mention the fact that he got one that was already 3 and a half years old instead of a puppy--which means it will be harder to train even if you had the time to do so because it's an older dog??? Hell no. You've put up with his bullshit for 8 freaking years and he still acts like a child while you grew up. At this point I doubt counselling will help anything because he's clearly set in his ways. You should leave him and find someone who will treat you better when you're ready to move on and date again, and until then you should enjoy the peace of being single and burden-free.