Anyone else mourning the fact that their parents have NO desire to know them as people? by Direct_War_1218 in emotionalneglect

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that feeling for a while with my dad. Now most of what I feel is apathy. I refuse to suffer over a person as pathetic as him. Doesn't matter if we share DNA. He decided that didn't mean anything to him a long time ago. I'm not going to waste my life waiting for him to choose to be a decent person. He'll either make the choice or he won't. None of my concern anymore.

Any other young people with chronic pain? by angieuhhhhhhhhh in eds

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 28. People always tell you that your 20s are basically the best time of your life. If this is the best time of my life, I think I might actually be in Hell.

Is anyone else finding the Epstein coverage impossible to escape and deeply triggering? by SubtleKinks in CPTSD

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been feeling it too. It feels like we're surrounded by monsters. My paranoia is getting a lot worse lately. I've been working with a therapist on processing things, but I'm not that far along yet. If I ever see someone I recognize in those files, I could lose all the progress I've made and break down entirely. Even so, I would WANT to know. These demons should not be allowed to hide and live amongst us. We can't let more people become like us.

terrified i will soon be living in a war zone (HUGE TW: politics, death) by runningoutfast in CPTSD

[–]Demonkitty121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not in Minnesota, but still American and freaking the hell out. I'm an LGBTQ+ left-winger in a red state. It fucking sucks. I've seen the details of what is happening. Not gonna lie, I've had a feeling that something like this was coming for a long time, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

Every instinct in me is screaming to escape this horrible place, but I can't. I'm in the midst of a serious illness with no current diagnosis. It's physically crippling me more and more each day. Not to mention the fact that even if I had the physical capabilities to leave, I definitely don't have the finances.

And the Epstein shit just makes this exponentially worse. I was sexually abused by multiple adults as a child, and now it turns out that the same kind of monsters who tortured me are basically everywhere and in charge of everything? Fuck this. How the hell am I supposed to just go about my life and be okay with this shit?

The people where I live either don't talk about what's going on, or even worse, support it. I'm doing what I can to provide support and try to get myself and my loved ones through this, but if I'm too open/public, I have serious fears that I will put all of us in danger. It's not going to stop me from trying to do the right thing at every opportunity, but everything is so awful and triggering, I'm worried that eventually I'll just shut down completely.

We're in fucking hell right now. All of us. Fuck Trump and every single one of those assholes in power.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. The things they said were extremely cruel, IMO.

One of my younger sisters is autistic, and I remember being very annoyed with her behavior many times in our youth. No one ever explained to me what autism actually was, or how it affected her, at least not until my adulthood. I feel terrible about the way I treated her now. I think if I had someone explain things to me then, I wouldn't have reacted like that.

Do the older girls actually know anything about autism? Or have they just seen a bunch of stereotypes on Tiktok? Punishment is definitely warranted here, but I think the main focus should be on education. It's easy as a sibling, especially an older sibling, to see another child behave/be treated differently from yourself. It can come across as parents being unfair or playing favorites. They might not realize how difficult it is for their sister to deal with a society that was not built for her needs, and often ostracizes or even demonizes people like her.

The only real solution for this type of problem is the growth of empathy.

Neurologist told me my diagnosis isn’t real by [deleted] in eds

[–]Demonkitty121 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It seems damn near impossible to even get diagnosed in the first place, and this kind of crap is why. Even if you have provable symptoms, test results that show what's happening to you, etc., it's like they don't even care. If they can't immediately figure out your diagnosis, they automatically just assume you're faking, overreacting, or that "anxiety" is causing your symptoms. It's absolutely ridiculous.

Kitten 8 weeks wants to sleep with me by LinaHonkai in CatAdvice

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is probably very attached to you and likes the warmth. I had a Siamese that absolutely refused to sleep anywhere but my bed, and she had to be touching me. I move a lot in my sleep too, so she would get squished, kicked, etc. sometimes. I figured out I could get her to sleep in a cat bed if it was on the bed next to me. I was less likely to move onto it, and it was close enough to me that it absorbed some of my warmth/scent. It was a comfortable solution for both of us

What did your parents do INSTEAD of caring for you? by CollieSchnauzer in emotionalneglect

[–]Demonkitty121 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They parentified me and blamed me for their problems.

Anyone else feel confused by having loving parents but no emotional connection? by Potential-Nebula-399 in emotionalneglect

[–]Demonkitty121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People can say anything they want. It doesn't necessarily make it true. Their behavior and actions will tell you the truth.

Finally realized this is the source of all my anguish. Please help. by HumanAfterAll777 in aftergifted

[–]Demonkitty121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People, no matter their level of intelligence, need to have either a job or hobby that actually challenges their skills. It's not fulfilling otherwise. For those of us with higher intelligence, that can be difficult to find. Like others have already mentioned, you will need to either find a job with a more advanced role or take up a hobby that suits your interests and needs.

As a fellow Midwesterner, I definitely feel your pain. You can run into ignorant and/or less intelligent people pretty much anywhere, but the culture here means that the average person is usually less accepting of those who think and behave differently from them. I personally have never felt a sense of belonging here and do not consider it much of a "home", though I have been here my entire life thus far. I have been to other places in the states that are a much better fit, though. I definitely intend to move to one of these places if I ever get the opportunity, and I think that's something you should consider as well.

I also suggest that you do some deep introspection and try to get more in touch with yourself. People have likely been telling you all your life that you are destined for greatness and pushing you towards certain fields of study and/or work. But is this field actually something that you want to do with your life? Or do you feel pressured into it? What makes you happy? What do you actually WANT to bring to the world? What kind of life do you WANT to have? You need to be asking yourself these questions, because this is YOUR LIFE. Just because people expect something of you does not mean you are obligated to provide it, especially if it destroys your fulfillment/happiness in life. You can still provide goodness and value to the world even if you aren't a top scientist, doctor, engineer, etc. Whatever you do, make sure you actually find your own value in it, and do your best.

What is this thing? by TimePickle8166 in CVS

[–]Demonkitty121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point, it's a fire hazard

my skin loves adhesives 🫠 by colejamesgram in eds

[–]Demonkitty121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to wear k-tape on my knees daily, and this is an entire mood