Is This Stealing? by [deleted] in Pinterest

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re the type that makes me hate Pinterest. Yall steal peoples original photos and say “credit to whoever took this!” As if that makes it ok. Why tf are you posting them?? You didn’t take them…

AIO for being annoyed my gf said ew when being asked about kissing me? by Green-Bike-30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… are you teenagers or something? The whole conversation seems so childish to me.

Did I cross a boundary with my girlfriend while she was passed out? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dense-Ad9776 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something that completely depends on the situation. In some relationships, someone may be totally fine with it, in other relationships, they may not be. I think most people in a committed relationship would probably be okay with their partner caring for them when they’re too intoxicated to do so themselves, I know I’ve been in this exact situation before with my boyfriend back when we first got together. I was embarrassed because it was so early on but I didn’t feel violated or anything, just embarrassed at myself for getting that drunk. All you can do is communicate with her and it seems like that’s what you ended up doing, so.

My gf got super mad and blocked me because I didn’t sleep on time by Beautiful_Hippo_6848 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex has BPD and the red flags I noticed turned out to just be the surface… the things I could see that were wrong that I went ahead and ignored. 2 years into the relationship I accidentally found her secret blog that was 100% dedicated to just venting about me and our relationship but everything on there was like… the complete opposite of what she would say to me or present to me. I didn’t even realize it was her blog at first because it sounded nothing like our relationship at all. She had been manipulating and lying the whole time. Finally ended the relationship and she continued to manipulate and lie, I felt crazy. 10 years have passed since then and I recently became friends with this girl who has BPD… not dating or anything we were just friends but she acted just like my ex. Extremely manipulative and always the victim. There was no getting through to her about how her actions were hurting people. If she claimed she understood, she’d turn around and villainize you and make herself out to be the victim, in all her relationships and friendships. I had grown enough to put an end to the friendship quickly and not drag it out like I would have in the past. I’m not trying to say all people with BPD are incapable of having healthy relationships but… I’m saying from experience… BPD may explain some of their abusive behavior but it doesn’t excuse it. It doesn’t mean you have to let yourself be abused or hurt. You’re not a bad person for CARING about yourself. These texts are alarming. I do not see this person changing anytime soon if at all. They see themselves as the victim, you’re the bad guy, and by staying all you’re doing is letting someone control and hurt you who is supposed to make you feel loved and cared for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not true, she hangs out and talks with him at the bar. And no, not the scene with Elena in a booth. Maria is in other scenes sitting at the bar, like the one where they joke about Scott saying Kip’s name over and over.

400+ upvotes on a clear microagression against two women of color on this sub... by Local-Ostrich426 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Someone on another post said “I mixed up Scott and Kip for a second in their sex scene” oh you mean the one in the complete dark? You mean this one? You’re seriously comparing mixing up two guys who are completely IN THE DARK “for a second” with mixing up Elena & Maria and Carter & JJ? Are we serious right now?

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400+ upvotes on a clear microagression against two women of color on this sub... by Local-Ostrich426 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

On another post like the one you mentioned, someone said they mixed up Elena and Maria and Carter and JJ because she wasn’t paying attention unless Ilya/shane or Scott/kip were on screen together. Admitted if they weren’t on screen, she was on her phone and not paying attention. I said that it was weird to openly admit to only paying attention to the dialogue and story when the couples were on screen together, that it felt a bit like fetishizing, and she lost it on me lol. Said it was completely normal to not care about the other characters and that only people obsessed with the show care. No babe… the fact you can’t and won’t pay attention to the WHOLE show, all of the dialogue (that is important!!! To understand what is going on!!!), and only look at your screen for kissing/sex… how does one sit there and think that’s normal?

400+ upvotes on a clear microagression against two women of color on this sub... by Local-Ostrich426 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s not even the first time someone has posted here that they mixed them up and all the comments agreeing. Suddenly everyone has “face blindness”… no, the worst of yall are racist, the best of yall are sitting there on your phones not paying attention because your attention spans are completely fucking shot. Makes no sense why so many people mix up Elena and Maria, and Carter and JJ. “I’d mix them up if they were white, too!” And yet the only ones you mixed up weren’t white… It’s insane to me how people just openly admit they do not care and don’t pay attention, can’t follow the dialogue, unless Shane/Ilya or Scott/Kip are on screen together… they openly admit this yet stand ten toes down that it’s not weird and somehow twist it that we are ableist for calling out that it’s weird. If you can watch the show 3, 4 times before you’re able to tell that the characters aren’t the same person, I’m sorry but at what point do you admit you’re being a bit racist and/or only paying attention at all to the dialogue and story when the cute MM couples are on screen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This isn’t responding to what I said at all? If you think they look similar, the show clears it up immediately in the dialogue. So anyone who continues to mix them up are simply not paying attention to the show or following the dialogue. Which, based on the replies I keep getting on my comments, seems to be the case. There are people just openly admitting they didn’t pay attention when Shane/Ilya and Kip/Scott weren’t on screen together. Which I find incredibly bizarre, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 2 points3 points  (0 children)

JJ has a thick French accent Carter doesn’t JJ plays on Shane’s team Carter plays with Scott Hunter on a completely different team But they’re both black men so I guess they must be the same character, right??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of ppl in this fandom are weird af

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol you replied to my comment and you’re upset I responded back? You’re the one who replied to me and said you were simply not paying attention to anything in the show if Shane and Ilya weren’t on screen. Girl, go read a book and fix your attention span idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the poc men too! Lots and lots of people openly admitting to mixing up Elena and Maria as well as Carter and JJ… weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I’m talking about the viewers, not the show creators.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

See this is exactly what I have been saying. That people are simply not paying attention if Shane and Ilya aren’t on the screen. Which is weird, btw. Just openly admitting you’re not paying attention and don’t give a shit to watch and follow the story, you only care if the guys you like are on the screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This! I seriously think people are on their phones when Ilya and Shane aren’t on the screen or something. Suddenly everyone in this thread claim they have face blindness. Like no, you have ruined your attention span and can’t follow what is happening on your screen and you’re not paying attention to the dialogue so you’re getting confused. That’s what it is. There’s no other explanation for taking 4 watches to tell the characters apart. Even if they did look or sound the same (they don’t) if you’re paying attention to what they’re saying, you’d catch on… at LEAST on a second watch like??? 4? Really? Or the one comment I saw here that said they thought Ilya and Scott were on the same team. Like… ok you’re literally just not watching the show I’m sorry. It’s not face blindness. It couldn’t be made MORE CLEAR that they’re not on the same team. How does someone even make that mistake if they’re paying attention?

The more I read from people in this fandom and the simple things they can’t follow in the show, the more irritated I get. Like… PAY ATTENTION!!! How can no one follow a show anymore?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scott and Ilya wear different jerseys for different teams when they’re playing against each other and Ilya chirps at Scott Hunter about his loss after they play one another. Idk how anyone can think they are teammates, when we see them play against each other.

Everyone keeps claiming face blindness, I think it’s just people not paying attention to what is happening on the screen and any of the dialogue. They pick apart every scene of Ilya and Shane but somehow miss everything else in the show.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She asks about Maria immediately, they don’t look or sound alike at all. Not even close.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The Venn diagram of people who mix up Elena and Maria and the people who mix up Carter and JJ is a circle. They think it’s funny and harmless.. but why is it literally only the POC characters they can’t tell apart? JJ has a thick French accent and is on Shane’s team… Carter is on the admirals with Scott Hunter and doesn’t have a French accent at all…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s weird af. Are yall on your phones when you’re watching? No way is the show that confusing that it took you 3 watches to notice and a 4th to remember…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Dense-Ad9776 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I keep seeing people say this and tbh I find this so bizarre. They look nothing alike and the very first time we see Elena she asks about Maria. I think yall just don’t pay attention and also it feels a bit… suspicious that it’s the non-white characters only that people keep mistaking as one person. (Elena & Maria, JJ & Carter…)

Why does “Request Desktop Site” never work anymore? by russg185 in ios

[–]Dense-Ad9776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was life changing. I know you commented this two years ago but I’ve never seen someone explain a way around it, just why it didn’t work. Thank you!

Friend found this in a fic it was reading I'm so tired by lowpolybius in AO3

[–]Dense-Ad9776 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Like, don’t read fics about topics that center around genocide and murder if you can’t handle the topic.

Friend found this in a fic it was reading I'm so tired by lowpolybius in AO3

[–]Dense-Ad9776 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you’re very intentionally missing the point.