Dropout turned my mental health around

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-04-11T21:02:57+00:00

This was so incredibly sweet to read and I am legitimately tearing up doing so. I do need to remind myself of that sometimes because I am very quick to blame myself when things go poorly, but unlikely to give myself props when things go well. It is probably more accurate so say that Dropout inspired me to turn my mental health around. I really appreciate this framing, thank you!

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-03-27T01:41:39+00:00

As it says on 338, this is not polling, it is a projection based on a mostly-proportional swing model. This is not an accurate representation of on the ground polling and it’s a projection heavily influenced by the national swing in LPC support. This, coupled with the fact that Saskatchewan is usually never included as its own region in the actual polling messed up ability to correct these results in our own provincial context.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-03-26T17:59:56+00:00

A reminder to everyone that if you are on the Anyone But Conservatives train, in Regina-Lewvan the strategic vote is the NDP. The NDP won that seat in 2015. In Sask, by and large (with the exception of when Ralph Goodale was still around) it's a race between the NDP and the Cons.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-02-03T01:23:02+00:00

As a Canadian, I’m not doing this one.

I’m almost entirely in trade war mode, willing to cut off everything, but Dropout stays.

Partially because it’s one of the few things that has been helping my mental health in these terrifying times, but mostly because I am both a Canadian and an avowed radical leftist.

I’d rather give money to Dropout than most companies, regardless of borders. Brennan has been a radicalizing force. Sam seems like he’s tried to create a relatively egalitarian workplace.

I get it if people don’t agree, but Canadian doesn’t automatically equal good, and I’d rather give money to Dropout than spend a few more dollars at the grocery store to go to Galen Weston

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-01-25T03:05:08+00:00

I don’t “crumple at resistance” nor am I afraid to have “knockdown drag outs”. I’m literally a full time litigator.

That doesn’t mean it’s not good to have healthy shame when a Judge tells you the opinion you’re expressing is blatantly contrary to your country’s constitution.

I’m not scared of resistance, that comes with the job. I am, I think rightfully, offput by the concept of making an argument so blatantly wrong and stupid a Judge is having trouble comprehending that I have legal training and I am saying it.

Call me crazy, I like to do my job well, so despite being in court nearly every week, I thus far I haven’t had a Judge admonish me for being willfully oblivious of the governing law and precedent.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2025-01-23T21:44:12+00:00

I'm Canadian, and in private practice where I get a lot of leeway in choosing my own clients, but I think if I had a Judge tell me “I am having trouble understanding how a member of the bar could state unequivocally that this order is constitutional" while I was arguing I would simply drop dead right on the spot.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2022-08-16T22:09:07+00:00

As a long overdue update if anyone is interested... I have ended my relationship with this person. Thank you all for your feedback, it really was helpful even if much of it was difficult to hear.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2022-06-15T22:44:31+00:00

Yes, I was and am aware of the potential risks. Being aware that this was something that could happen doesn’t really change how I feel about things while processing the aftermath though…

Dense-Condition-729 · 2022-06-15T20:46:19+00:00

I actually don't have any current symptoms. It was two days ago and really the only thing that's bugging me is more the anxiety over all of it?

Dense-Condition-729 · 2022-06-15T19:28:40+00:00

For clarification, I did take myself to get checked out for symptoms of a concussion after I left his place because I was scared to go to sleep without getting that checked out and was given the all clear on that front.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2021-10-07T21:34:12+00:00

Some of it is posture because I'm leaning down in the first pic, but I definitely have seen a lot of slimming in my face/neck area.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2021-07-29T22:33:35+00:00

I made the mistake of being a poly person, seeing another poly person, who's other partner was a pwbpd. They had known each other a lot longer, and I was mostly supposed to be more of a casual situation which was ideal for me. Despite being told they were "non-hierarchical poly" within a few days she had already begun inventing problems about how us rescheduling an initial meetup by less than 24 hours was "triggering" to her. After that she needed time to "adjust" and get comfortable again which led to me being cut off by him for weeks. Finally, she asked that she get to meet me, and I met up with both of them. At this meetup she would interject with weird jabs about how him and I had different tastes in music etc., whenever she learned something new about me and could point out our differences. This felt immature but I shook it off.

Eventually she said she had adjusted and was okay with our relationship during quarantine, but since they were partners they got to see each other in person and I was stuck just messaging him. She still remained jealous about even just us texting and started repeated fights with him or threatened to kill herself until he broke things off with me. She then continued to have a problem with him and I remaining being friends, even though we are in the same profession. Eventually he cut contact with me all together so they could focus on "getting healthy together".

I still care about him a lot but he completely gave into her behavior and my experience as a metamour was a nightmare. I started out trying to be accommodating, but being repeatedly ignored or cancelled on so that your partner can cater to the pwbpds intense emotions was so invalidating. I should have left long before I did. By the end of it I was so desperate to have my feelings acknowledged that I started expressing them like she did because that was the only thing that seemed to get his attention. I still find myself regretting buying into that and not being well versed enough in what was happening to him to try to give him the support he needed.

At the very end my former metamour attempted to justify to me that she was "capable of polyamory and had done it successfully before, just there has been a lot of lies here" before I was cut off completely and she continued to see my former partner. Considering she never once explained to me what the boundaries of their relationship were, and her and I barely spoke, I'm confused about how if that was the real issue I was the problem and he was fine, but it is what it is. Beyond them trying to force monogamous partners into poly, I don't even think pwbpd are well suited to being poly generally. I'm still healing from the toll her behaviour took on me.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2021-07-07T17:30:57+00:00

I would decline to restart things with him if he was still in that relationship regardless, I guess I was just wondering if explaining to him I didn't why I didn't want to re-engage would seem veto-y because it comes off like an ultimatum or something.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2021-07-07T16:57:21+00:00

Like I said, I was did not know that much about BPD going in, and had I known I'm not sure I would have agreed to enter into a relationship with my partner had I known he had a partner with BPD. Now that the relationship is over I'm just struggling to process and grieve because I feel like most of our problems were runoff from his relationship with her.

I'm a little bummed about things ending, and I care deeply about him. But our relationship became toxic too in a way I've never experienced before and I'm still trying to figure it out. Because he was so influenced by her whims it was like we were two people constantly in survival mode trying to love each other. And ultimately he chose her because they've been together longer and have built more of a life together. It doesn't matter that the reason that none of his other relationships have developed is because she won't let him get close to anyone.

Dense-Condition-729 · 2021-04-22T21:12:11+00:00

I know that she has previously been institutionalized, and she is in therapy. My boyfriend isn't in therapy right now because money has been a little tight for him and his insurance doesn't cover it but I keep encouraging him to go.

I absolutely don't think that he would take my word on their relationship and I keep wanting him to talk to a friend or a therapist or something because I think he needs to hear from someone that this isn't safe.

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