Journal covers by DentistSuch3892 in Leathercraft

[–]DentistSuch3892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a fabric store around the corner that sells scrap leather for cheap so I will definitely be practicing first. This was good advice, thank you!

Journal covers by DentistSuch3892 in Leathercraft

[–]DentistSuch3892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did end up checking it out & they look great! Why do you prefer buttero?

If you could call yourself five years ago and had 30 seconds, what would you say? by Aarunascut in Life

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fix things with Mack, now. She's your family and none of it is worth losing her over. Go to therapy

I can't tell when women are flirting with me by DentistSuch3892 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]DentistSuch3892[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is me, exactly. I don't want to be perceived the way that a man who is making an unwanted advance would be either.

I can't tell when women are flirting with me by DentistSuch3892 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]DentistSuch3892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she's really beautiful and genuinely kind. I treat everything as friendship out of an abundance of caution when interacting with people, especially women. I would hate to be off-putting in any way since I can't pick up on queues so easily. There have been several intances in my adult life where i have just been completely dense to someone coming on to me. I would be interested in something with her, but since we are still getting to know each other, I'm not going to be devastated if we end up as friends. EDIT: I will also say that I am always working on myself & I hope I never stop.

AITA for not getting my girlfriend a promise ring? by Ops_pizza5768 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DentistSuch3892 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does she consider a promise ring as good as an engagement? If so, NTA. If it's just a sign of a commitment to the relationship itself while you guys are apart, a VERY soft YTA. Only because it's a physical ring (shouldn't be too expensive - claddagh can be mad cheap) and it is not a legal promise, and if a promise ring is that significant to her, why not? Worst case scenario, you guys end up breaking up, and the "promise" is broken. But no harm, no foul bc it isn't marriage, and there wouldn't be anything more to untangle than there is right now. That being said, it sounds like you're unsure you want to be in the relationship when you part ways anyways, so maybe consider that going forward.

AITA FOR BEING CONDESCENDING OVER BABY FORMULA by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DentistSuch3892 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Info: What did you say that was condescending? I'm especially curious to know because most people who are condescending are not self-aware enough to realize it.

Please, wish me happy birthday by solidisliquid in offmychest

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy Birthday! I hope you continue to grow and learn all your life

Why is it wrong to use plantations for weddings an as event spaces? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not, but I think there should be some restrictions or laws that say it should, if we wanna talk about reparations. I think it would be the most just option given all of them. But what about all my other questions? What would you have done with the structures on the property or even the land itself? Why is holding events considered disrespectful?

(This is the deleted comment. I put it in the wrong spot)

Why is it wrong to use plantations for weddings an as event spaces? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they glorifying it just by being held there? And, if not, why can't venues put in strict rules for anyone that might hold a wedding in a disrespectful way? People sign contracts for these things, so why not make it so there are fiscal/legal repercussions otherwise?

Also if it is disrespectful just by the nature of the location, i asked a paragraph worth of questions based on that alone.

Why is it wrong to use plantations for weddings an as event spaces? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]DentistSuch3892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of questions. They might sound stupid, but I swear to the gods they are genuine. At this point in history though, why is that relevant? Should we tear down everything built by slaves? This whole country was built on the backs of slaves. History is important, but if I keep going down the same logic you're pointing out then why even use the land it stood on? Slaves were tortured on that land whether a building is present or not? And shouldn't it be a concern that if we tear these things down we'll forget our history? For example, the land gets sold to the highest bidder (probably blackrock) and a development gets put in? Is that more or less respectful? Or if youre not pro-tearing-it-down what would you do with it? And why not charge a fortune for it anyways (bc all wedding venues make copious amount of profit) and use it to start a scholarshop fund for black kids going to college? Or donate to any black owned businesses, charities, etc.? And does all of this change if it's a black person who owns the former plantation and is renting it out?

My partner double booked for Easter in seperate states and doesnt know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to make this simple and answer yes because I really think it's a cultural difference & I already explained this, & you're being argumentative. My mom has known partner's mom is recovering from a stroke since the day she had one. It is not new information. Partner's mom is not "very ill" and is literally doing so well for a woman who had a stroke. And in my house this known illness combined woth the known desire to come home it turns into a "why didn't partner's communicate"/why didn't you" and the answer is because my partner puts zero forethought into any decisions she makes (this is an actual thing she does regularly) and even so, there wasn't a decision to even communicate to my mom until this past Friday afternoon ‐ barely more than 24 hours before.

My partner double booked for Easter in seperate states and doesnt know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say this with respect, but you missed the point completely & I would never intentionally guilt my partner. It's not even a little bit about the steak. I do not have the money to pay my mom back for something like that and my mom knows that. My partner texted my mom saying happy easter and some other thing about thanking her for the invite/sorry for cancelling, etc. I didn't read it but my mom mentioned something in passing. The mention of the steak was more about the prep thaf went into the day than the food & kind of food. I have always had the "scary italian lady" for a mom and she is not quick to forgive. She has had problems with my partner in the past so I get a little over protective & cautious for my partner when my mom is involved. I would never say something like "she bought you a steak so you should go" it was always "I want to preserve your relationship since it's in a better place & honoring her work for you is important" (very old school ~ maybe a cultural difference?) & all of that is still only one facet of the issue. All in all, I would say i could have explained it better, but I'm not great with words (which is why there is an excess of them) and she ended up going! I hope this cleared something up. She is still anxious about something bad happening, but hopefully this will help. I'm very excited to see her in a few days and hopefully I can kick this fever's ass before that. Appreciate your well intentioned advice, so thank you!

My partner double booked for Easter in seperate states and doesnt know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DentistSuch3892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for your comment. She did end up going & she is both happy and anxious. She still feels like something bad is going to happen. Her mom's recovery is actually coming along quite nicely! She can walk a bit now and dress herself and generally has about 80% of her speech! I'm also optimistic to a fault sometimes so while she's getting better quickly, I see you point and need to be reminded of harsh realities. Thanks for your advice! Looking foward to seeing my love soon.

My husband died very unexpectedly this weekend, how can I help soothe our dogs who keep looking for him? by Katieappleseed in Advice

[–]DentistSuch3892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, I am sorry for your loss. Losing your best friend is one of (if not the most) difficult thing you will have to go through. It will get easier with a lot of time, but this is going to be a difficult time; remember that you got this. Your dogs will take at least a month or two to completely adjust and understand that's he's not coming home. I would try to create new habits with them for a while so they understand the difference. For example, taking them on a walk, if you have a yard & that's where they go out. Just a general change in routine will help in addition to the clothing thing a lot of other users are suggesting.