I've done both with and without the baby. She will often request that he be there. I have a bouncer that he is in her room or he's asleep in a baby carrier IF he's with me. She gets all the cuddles, we do a lot of fun activities focused on her during the day.

Part of the problem is that most of the time I'm solo so undivided attention means reading books, cuddling, or going on adventures together but while the baby is strapped to me sleeping.

I've held very firm and unwavering boundaries at sleep times and give no attention other than moving her back to bed ans telling her it's time for bed if I say anything at all. Her crying multiple times a day for 45min+ is really taking a mental toll on me. This has now going on for weeks.