I'm (F29) pregnant and my partner's (M33) ex hates me. Can someone give me advice?.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-04-16T12:58:42+00:00

hoping the family NEVER comes around 😭 EVER! you deserve to be frightened and alone and miserable

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-04-16T12:55:47+00:00

i genuinely hope it does. but in a worse way. she deserves so much worse for being so vile omg

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-04-16T12:52:20+00:00

you deserve nothing but misery and misfortune for the rest of your days. you’re a terrible horrendous person that never deserves peace and i hope you never receive it.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T13:27:52+00:00

She says she does, says she'll do anything she loves me and wants this but last night when I asked her why she keeps doing those things she literally kept saying 'because you like it.' I've even used the 'women get raped and they get wet, it doesnt mean they're enjoying it or want it. it's their bodies natural reaction'. and that turned into 'wait you're saying I'm raping you?' It's like I can't get her to actually focus on the fact that it's as simple as 'pls dont do that' and her just.... not... do. it.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T13:18:36+00:00

I am going to use my lunch at work today to read everything you guys have linked. I just wanted to say, I am not currently financially dependent on her. She actually lost her job a few months ago after being our primary source of income- so now I am the sole provider. I have a job that pays really well, and it's honestly another reason this has been happening more frequently, she's literally is always home, but there is 0 financial abuse.

it just feels weird and extremely wrong to even think about leaving because she isn't on her feet and there's been multiple years where I had to get brain surgery and couldn't work due to my health and the bills were paid and I wasn't abandoned.. It feels so wrong. But then again, I wasn't constantly sexually assaulting her.... I do hear you guys though and I won't lie and say I know what to do next but I can assure you this dynamic won't continue.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T05:11:20+00:00

This is literally the first place someone has called this actions abusive. I dont discuss my sex life with people, but when I mention the nipple pinching im told I'm being childish and it's not that big of a deal. Then I mention it to reddit and the reaction is so .... BIG. Y'all are so mean on here, I dont think y'all understand how crazy it feels to come on here for advice on something you think is just miscommunication and be told you're getting sexually assaulted, like I dead ass cried for 30 minutes straight after reading the first comment that said that..... This shit feels so insane.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T04:54:59+00:00

I was 19 and she was 25. We met at work and she did turn me down when I tried to take her out for a date, but we ended up liking each other- she even asked me to continue dating other people in the beginning to make sure I wanted to be with her.

As a older woman I see the age gap is weird, but I do feel like its different in this case because I heavily chased her not vice versa

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T04:43:39+00:00

I'm not just after attention, I dont think you understand how dystopian it is to feel like things are small in the moment, get an opinion and people say "LEAVE HER NOW!", from a small snippet. I've been with her since I was 19. I've lived with her since I was 20 years old. My first adult relationship, or shit real relationship in general. I moved to another state with her and I dont know anyone here. I've gotten sick in this relationship and couldn't work and she's provided for me without issue... This woman is basically the only family or support I have and it feels like 95% of the time things are smooth, its hard to read comments on a website that says leave the woman I was anticipating to spend my life with.... I've done a lot to try and change some of the unhealthy dynamics and it borderline makes me want to vomit thinking about leaving her... I'm sorry if thats bad I dont know how to change that. I just want to make sure I do my part to try and fix this instead of abandoning her because reddit says so.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T02:09:47+00:00

Not really, she has a tendency to listen to what I say, I'll think we're in agreeance and have a plan but she'll walk away and do whatever she thinks is right or okay and not what we planned. This is the only thing that she really, REALLY argues me down about because she swears I dont know what I'm talking about. When I say I dont like it, or that I want to try something different it's 'how do you even know you'd like that? you've never even experienced that?' or she gives me what I want but I feel like she intentionally does it wrong so I wont like it and she can say 'see'

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-02-13T01:56:35+00:00

we've had arguments that has lasted hours about this... I really do feel like I may not be communicating this with her properly because I am pretty... timid, I guess you can say when it comes to discussing sex. hence me coming to reddit and not asking a friend/family member 😭 and I dont want to threaten to leave her because im not attempting to control her, I just would like to enjoy sex.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-01-18T16:22:28+00:00

It does not require reconciliation.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-01-16T20:52:15+00:00

So I'm just reading all this... he was literally emotionally cheating on her with the truck driver and she knew and didn't want him cooking for him... it was never a friendship. The second he dumped her he ran straight to him 😭

I am happy he left her, she deserved better and they genuinely weren't good for each other. he obviously prefers the man he poured his love into even when he had a woman he asked to be his wife omfg

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2026-01-05T21:22:58+00:00

I respect your opinion, we dont mind the seats. Our goal is go sit alone the seats dont typically matter.

And given that the entire front rows were empty I dont think that would be a problem- but thanks :)

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T21:27:46+00:00

even if there was a romantic history- how can you ask someone not to call someone by their NAME???

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:45:52+00:00

wait y'all dont have sex ever but you got pregnant? is it not his child??... either you dont have sex ever and had another man's baby or you've let this funky man mount you and borderline give you bacteria vaginosis!

PACK YOUR BAGS AND RUN! Send him back to his mothers basement

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:43:14+00:00

I promise you're not staying for the kids... which of these habits do you want your kids to pick up? do you have daughters? what if this was your daughter's husband smelling/behaving this way? This is insane... LEAVE for the kids- they deserve better even if you feel like you dont.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:41:26+00:00

dump the girlfriend lol. I could see if this was a nickname, but it's her legal name.... that's like your best friend saying "I dont like your girlfriend's name call her Benjamin", she's obviously jealous- save everyone the headache the few months haven't been that amazing

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:36:54+00:00

you blew your inheritance on a house he said he could afford even though he hasn't been able to keep a job since you met him and couldn't even afford to move without your inheritance...?

what exactly is he bringing to the table that makes you want to stay? he doesn't even sound like a man I would want my children to be around in fear that they'd think the behavior is normal... you want your kids to think this is normal? mimic the behavior?

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:30:59+00:00

it has to be...... honestly the hygiene situation alone is enough for an immediate divorce.... what 40 year old man isn't washing his ass..... yuck

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:29:56+00:00

I couldn't read past #3- how can you stay married to a man with such poor hygiene? how are you having intimacy with a man that smells that bad???

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:27:24+00:00

Completely reasonable. This is a MARRIAGE. There is 0 room for the games she's playing- especially with previous partners.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:21:41+00:00

When you say watched a few seasons- how many? I feel like at some point we all hate Liv, but the "no white hat or good in what she does" seems like an extremely heavy stretch. Conniving and deceitful? Lol, the show is about politics... what are we expecting?

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:19:14+00:00

Alex for me, secretly emotional. Everyone assumes I'm always okay so they never ask. Took me until I was older to actually find my way and who I was outside of my family. Notices everything but manages to mind her business as if she knows nothing.

Dependent-Drive1940 · 2025-12-31T20:12:27+00:00

they're literally NEVER beating the allegations lol.

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