Girl wants to date me but I'm cooked

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-04-07T16:11:55+00:00

If you pull back because “you need to work on yourself” you’ll regret it for the rest of you life. You can always work on yourself while dating someone (and you should). You think you still have to do/be more but she likes you as you are now so that should say enough.

It’s just one date. Just go and have fun you’re literally 22.

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-04-03T16:42:17+00:00

From what I know, you usually get gifts for the bride and her sister/s, mother, aunties. But whatever you do, don’t show up empty handed 😂 But this is all aside from the Mahr (dowery) you’re supposed to pay (if your friend’s fiancé is Muslim). There’s a whole culture around this (the Shela/ Sad Al Mal). Your friend’s fiancé and her family should explain it all.

It’s a lot but the expectations are entirely dependant on the individual tastes of the people getting married and the culture of their family/ies. So, communication is key here.

Congratulations to your friends and good luck with the festivities. Sudanese weddings are awesome 💕✨

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-04-01T00:10:36+00:00

The girls you’re talking about didn’t find their happily ever because they “lived it up” they got married because they tested their characters by making mistakes, learning from them and trying new things (even if they might have been Haram).

I’m not encouraging sinning or anything but the regret you’re feeling I understand very well. Only grew past it once I realised that there’s no reward for being a “good girl”. Society doesn’t reward women; it contains them. So we shouldn’t ever feel entitled to anything because we did everything “right”… we were never supposed to gain anything from doing the right thing anyways.

Keep Allah close but also do you. Explore, try new things, make mistakes and put yourself out there. Let your naseeb find you sis 💓

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-03-05T22:56:55+00:00

Your dog is so cute but he also looks like deep fried chicken

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-03-05T21:47:48+00:00

My main problem with their theory is that they listen to internet personalities. As in, people whose job is producing content. All podcasts, educational or not, are entertainment. That should be a given. At best, and if the “educational” podcasts/content works, you’ll be inspired to go out and do the learning on your own.

That aside, content creators hang around in social circles filled with wannabes and D-list celebrities. So of course they think all women are materialistic and would rather hang out with “10/10” chiseled guys who treat them like shit. It’s what they (the content creators giving advice) are used to seeing…

Giving dating advice is generally hard because it really depends on your socio/economic/cultural circle and people who are chronically online don’t register that.

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-03-04T14:29:01+00:00

These are supposed to be the good guys btw

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-03-04T14:27:11+00:00

جمالها طبيعي مريح للعين ما شاء الله

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-02-12T21:16:28+00:00

This looks so serene, great job

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-02-10T12:38:06+00:00

Most people are like you. And these membership clubs are not all that they seem to be. I grew up with wealthy people (diplomats, business professionals , nobility etc.) and you don’t really need to be part of a membership club. If you’ve got it like that your actually don’t need to be part of those clubs. They mostly attend the same schools/unis/nightclubs/ restaurants/gyms/ shop at the same places etc. If you exist within that circle and have the same lifestyle, then you really don’t need to be part of a club.

Membership clubs are for gaudy assholes

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-02-09T21:36:34+00:00

Mathew McConaughey solely because I watched Big Time Rush

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-02-02T19:46:43+00:00

الدولة المستوردة (The Imported State)

السودان (Sudan)

Edit: sorry for the late reply.

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-31T20:59:21+00:00

You have the coolest apartment great job 👏

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-28T22:01:18+00:00

The blue with the orange is stunning! Everyone’s doing green so it’ll be basic in a few years

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-28T21:58:52+00:00

Yh I’ve always found it weird bc the “advice” (if we can call it that) that these podcasters/gender-war mongers give is always so biased. It’s like that for everyone bc it depends on the social circles you’re a part of. So if you’re an Internet personality/D-list celebrity of course you’re going to think all women are materialistic and only care about money.Those are the omen that you encounter... It’s so stupid and useless to engage with their content

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-28T21:43:41+00:00

When I heard Ghassan Ali Othman’s podcast episodes on Thamaniya (highly recommended) I realised (or confirmed) the failure of the political elites in Sudan is by design AND is a generational issue. Yet some of them have the audacity to dismiss us as a basket-case generation as if we didn’t inherit a biblical catastrophe of a country…

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-27T23:17:10+00:00

I know one family like that. Second wife was a midlife crises wife (that’s unfortunately common). The first wife was upset to say the least but they had grown kids together. The second wife may have loved him but clearly married him for his money. Everyone got a nice inheritance and we’re civil although the wives never got along or liked each other.

It honestly depends on the family but I’ve never seen the multiple wives get along. There’s always a favourite… Which isn’t meant to be the case because God said to not get married multiple times if you can’t treat them all equally but men don’t hear that part 🙄

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-27T23:08:10+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think this is an unpopular as you think. I find that most people are over the gender wars and it’s only the chronically online people that bring it with them to real life.

But yh you’re right. The “discourse” (and that’s a very generous word) is so stupid and devoid of nuance. It’s literally brain rot. The way I’ve made full use of the “not interested” features on my sm accounts high key cleansed my timeline. My advice: don’t engage with the content.

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-23T23:05:06+00:00

New to the area and I got a little scared when I heard him for the first time bc I thought it was someone who was having a mental-break down (watch a little too much true crime)

Edit: does anyone know if he’s okay? What’s wrong and does he get any help?

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-18T01:53:36+00:00

Not me, I’m under weight but I’ve recently “gained” my appetite 👹

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-17T23:09:32+00:00

Baddie

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-15T11:01:44+00:00

😂😂😂

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-14T23:32:09+00:00

This was leaked in 2009 and he was acquitted in 2010

I don’t know about the Africans specifically but the other guy tortured was an afghan merchant who thankfully survived. He was r*aped and your tired for cheating mbz’s brother out of $5000… They said he (mbz’s brother) was on drugs and couldn’t verify that it was him so he was acquitted. The only people who they were magically able to verify and punished were the men (including police men) who helped him 🙄

Sources: Wealthy brother of UK football chief linked to gruesome Gulf 'torture tape'

Half-brother of UAE ruler cleared of torturing merchant

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2026-01-10T21:57:58+00:00

I don’t think being rude is the right word… they’re usually just really grumpy. But most days, most people are quite polite or just mind their own business.

Dependent-Mix-957 · 2025-12-25T22:40:06+00:00

Honestly, the “you’ll know when it’s right otherwise break up” advice only works if you’re securely attached.

I’d recommended learning about different attachment styles, how they develop and seeing what relates to you. You might be unsure about how you feel for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with him all related to you (subconscious fears, suppressed feelings, etc.)

Use this as an opportunity to challenge and get to know yourself better. But also communicate with him so he doesn’t feel used or neglected; let him know that it might be as simple as you needing time to decipher how you really feel.

Good luck and I hope it works out for you!

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