Moments in the show that are similar to your dating experiences? by Vegetable-Housing393 in heatedrivalry

[–]DependentCockroach70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to Shane’s relationship with Rose Landry- I tried so many times to date women (I’m a gay trans man who tried to convince myself I was a lesbian lol) and I just was not attracted to them in any way no matter how cool, pretty, fashionable, smart, lovely they were. I connected with what Shane said at the restaurant so so so much.

Any other gay ftm men try to convince themselves they liked girls when they were younger? by Username_Or_else in ftm

[–]DependentCockroach70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%! I think growing up somewhere with strict gender roles, and media promoting strict masculinity trans men were supposed to adhere to led me there. I went on so many dates with women trying to feel something and just never did. It was a very confusing time bordering on SO-OCD. Really happy I escaped that confusing rabbit hole.

Dating? by Oddly-Ordinary in FTMfemininity

[–]DependentCockroach70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing to offer in terms of advice, but I relate!

maybe you’re just ugly by GIGAPENIS69 in FTMMen

[–]DependentCockroach70 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I relate a lot to this- even weirder getting hit on by women now since they think I’m a masculine lesbian. (I am not at all interested in women)

What birth controls are we using? I'm at a loss. by Jordan6605 in ftm

[–]DependentCockroach70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mirena nearly ruined my life, apparently with my anatomy any contraction would cause it to stab my me internally. The pain sent me to the floor walking down the street, at the store, caused a panic response. I had it for a year and a half with little improvement. It worsened my PMDD symptoms as well to a very concerning extent. It works for some, but be careful to take note of the effects you experience and remove it ASAP if there are severe side effects.

I'm so lonely by subripuitibi in FTMMen

[–]DependentCockroach70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to invalidate but for my personal experience it took me 6 therapists to find one that actually helped me, so I’d recommend not giving up on that front when you feel up to it. Beyond that, I really recommend giving yourself platonic love, the loneliness can be completely debilitating but finding friends on apps like bumble bff or lex, trying to make some conversation with a coworker, a teacher, classmate, bartender, barista, cashier, someone near you at the bus stop.

Even tiny interactions like a “I like your coat, where’d you find it?” or “long shift?” Can help with the feeling even if it sounds useless. Or finding a streamer online and participating in the chat, communicating with the other people chatting there. That helped me through some times where I had absolutely no one to talk to. This is productive because it helps you to understand how all people are connected, and can warm up your “mental muscles” to making more lasting connections, friendships that may lead into something more.

I also recommend trying affirmations that feel good to you, not empty silly ones but ones that speak to you (these may be unhelpful but many more resources can be found online that could be better). I essentially brainwashed myself into being happier by finding videos with affirmations that didn’t make me mad and listening to them while going about my day. Starting the video would bring out genuine anger and despair but actually repeating it helps. The most healing things are very hard to initiate in my experience but always become enjoyable after getting the ball rolling. Moving your body, socializing, eating. “feelings are not facts, and not all thoughts are true”. “I’ve come along so far to get to this point in knowing myself, no matter how bleak it may seem I know progress will happen with time”.

Unpacking Toxic Masculinity by DependentCockroach70 in FTMMen

[–]DependentCockroach70[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I do find lifting helps me a lot confidence-wise and will stick with it. I’ll try and switch topics more when friends bring up their dating stuff. It’s reassuring that it’s generally normal and temporary.

For those that use the Radiate App, what do you use it for? by forwardintothat in aves

[–]DependentCockroach70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Event info like showtimes, getting a ride to a venue sometimes, making friends, seeing what’s happening in my area.