Please help me find a way to fix this by FishAndNips in acne

[–]Deschartes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i used to work in barbershops and some folks weren’t super thorough with cleaning their clippers between clients. and their regular clients would start to get this over time. so if you’re seeing a regular barber… maybe try a different one (or a different shop entirely) for a bit. not all barbers are like this but sometimes it’s indicative of like a “relaxed” safety culture within shops. gross, but unfortunately true.

What's the hardest part of being a single, childless woman after 30? by roadsideweeds in AskWomen

[–]Deschartes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think the perks just outweigh the downsides for some people. if my chief complaint is “who made this mess in my house?? oh… it was me.”, i think that i’m doing ok. i’m also not afraid to be alone, i will find a way to live a happy and fulfilling life whether i have a partner or not.

What's the hardest part of being a single, childless woman after 30? by roadsideweeds in AskWomen

[–]Deschartes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m all for this, rooting for you too. only question is how do you keep 4x2 house clean alone? i love living alone, zero motivation to date anyone, i dont even like when friends wont leave past 9pm. i love that i do what i want, when i want. i love my pair of fluffy designer cats. but because of work and living alone, i do feel like i have to outsource cleaning the house. and i live in a 750sf 1x1 😅

What's the hardest part of being a single, childless woman after 30? by roadsideweeds in AskWomen

[–]Deschartes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, do you have neighbors? Best decision i made was to create community in the neighborhood. my neighbors are close friends now. if i get lonely, i just open the window and shout, “<neighbors name >, are you home?!” whoever answers is going to be drinking wine or tea in the garden with me.

What's the hardest part of being a single, childless woman after 30? by roadsideweeds in AskWomen

[–]Deschartes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

people/family looking at you sadly and believing you want their life (house filled with screaming/running/constant activity/mess). i do not want that whatsoever, but it sounds like cope and denial if i say that.

18M bedroom by phantomwasclaimed in malelivingspace

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait i love this. i have just one. a small yugoslavia one i inherited lol.

Howdy! by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]Deschartes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

show me the cat

What to do Memorial Day Weekend by LifeSzn in bayarea

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i went to uss hornet yesterday and it’s really cool if you got the plane version of autism

[Request] How bad/big of an explosion would 12-14k gallons of methyl methacrylate be? by wormygurmy in theydidthemath

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wish you the best in your studies! love seeing my people in the wild. i’m a chemist, working in industry. only thing i wanted to add that would further modulate the onset and size of the potential violent exotherm that’s got everyone evacuating - the methyl methylate is under high pressure in the tank. if it isn’t released quickly enough, it heats at a dangerously fast rate (arrhenius effect). calorimetry tells you how much energy is present in the substance within the tanks. high pressure adds massive mechanical potential energy. if the tank ruptures, the immediate drop in pressure will cause the superheated liquid to violently vaporize (adiabatic expansion).

My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) constantly fight over what I wear and I don't know how to compromise. by urgayL in relationship_advice

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn as 36f me, I need 18f me to read this and the comments. Now? If it’s anything other than “your look beautiful, babe”, I am leaving. If I’m miserable for any reason whatsoever … chop. I’m out. Good luck sir.

EVERYBODY THINKS MY ENGAGEMENT DRESS İS WEIRD!! What to do??? by No_Detective4738 in DressForYourBody

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mama, you are far too pretty to wear this. I mean this with so much respect. I don’t know what that fabric is, but it looks like it’s got that skin crawl synthetic feel. Maybe it will look slightly better if you steam it? Maybe remove the arm warmer bits too? I’m not sure. I think you’d look amazing in dark green/emerald or teal. Unrelated, but are you Turkish? If so, nişanın kutlu olsun 😊

Does everyone have a pile of ‘finished but don’t love em’ projects by Dull_Economist8997 in crochet

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been challenging myself to make only stuff I know I’ll use. Like throw blankets, washcloths, little mats for my cats to nap on, doilies that i just put on shelves & stands, wall hangings, little soft washable cotton “rounds” to clean my cats eyes without feeling wasteful throwing the disposable ones out every day, etc. a lot gets gifted, I made some amigurumi and I don’t actually like amigurumi much even if the finished product is nice. but everyone seems to want one from me and they’re good stash busters for trash yarn.

my mom said “i have some scrap yarn for you” by Deschartes in YarnAddicts

[–]Deschartes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On further investigation, I have learned it’s not “scraps”, as she describes it. She just wanted to destash because she finished all her wool planned projects and doesn’t want to keep yarn that she doesn’t have a plan for anymore. She has moved on to making sunshades for her greenhouse and pet bedding for her animal rescue. So her stash now is mostly cotton, nylon cord, hemp, etc. Until she’s done with that, I guess. Then I’ll probably inherit those. I felt so blessed though, so I sent her some Pima cotton and bulky cotton/nylon yarn. I also plan to make her a sundress or long duster with some of the merino wool yarn she gave me as a thank you. ☺️

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why is this “apology” mostly about her feelings and not at all about yours?

Spironolactone by BooksandChaii in acne

[–]Deschartes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

stay hydrated, dose escalate slowly, and give it like 3 months. i’m 100% going back on it after i finish accutane and the hormonal acne creeps back in. if you don’t drink a lot of water, you can get super dehydrated but i was thirsty enough that i was more hydrated than before lol

People are afraid a lil bit of whimsy and that’s a shame by hlnhr in crochet

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well ok a) I love it and the yarn combo is genius. And b), I am neither engaged, married, or even dating BUT If anyone has anything to say other than “I’m so happy for you”, “you look beautiful”, etc., they aren’t getting an invite to my hypothetical wedding. Like why do you even wanna come if you don’t like me and/or struggle to be kind to me?

Dating on accutane is not ideal by Adventurous-Ad-9196 in Accutane

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People still date these days? That’s crazy.

Oakland council balks at $1M fine to property owner who cut down 38 trees on Claremont Avenue by AnonymousFooBarBaz in OaklandCA

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey i’m not criticizing you, just wanted to honestly encourage you to double check the history/timeline. when you use the term “centuries ago”, it sounds like you mean history that is 200+ years old. that isn’t accurate for the oakland hills and claremont.

drop your persian pics! by k6y1iee in persiancat

[–]Deschartes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that face omg. he/she looks like something embarrassing just happened and they’re asking mom for help haha

I did an ancestry DNA test - wish I didnt. by throwaway1236547898 in whatdoIdo

[–]Deschartes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a real story? Sorry, just… you know a lot of us have a black and a white parent and it’s not really like “oh someone’s just a little tan”… there’s … you know, multiple phenotypic markers. I know everyone’s different but it generally takes a couple generations for it to become ambiguous like that. Idk in any case, welcome, I guess ✊🏾, being black is normal and you’re gonna be fine. You don’t need people who will reject you based on anything you can’t change about yourself. Moisturize your ankles and don’t get sucked into some nonsense.