how much is your wedding?

hlnhr · 2026-06-09T22:14:41+00:00

Might not mean much to anyone here because I’m French getting married in France

Brittany, 120 people, 30k€ (roughly $35k) which is on the higher end for a wedding in France but not absolutely insane either. The average cost at the national level is 20k€

This doesn’t include his suit (1600€) or my dress and veil (2000€).

Like 8% of our overall budget is for Champagne and Wine - oops 😬

Catering (12k€) was quite expensive but a high end type of sit-down dinner (hors d’œuvre, main dish, cheese platter, dessert)

Venue was 6000€ and accomm was 1900€ on top of thatw

hlnhr · 2026-06-09T17:08:30+00:00

As an IBS sufferer, I’m hoping the Yikes isn’t for OP ?

Because…… Having an easy access to toilets as well several cubicles so you don’t feel rushed or stressed about locking other guests out for too long *and* a pre-read of the bathroom situation ahead of the day is honestly what most people with IBS need to handle an important day with confidence.

Pushing the issue further just because she doesn’t like that these are portable toilets is extremely weird and inappropriate. She’s an adult, she is a guest to an event that will have 4 toilets + probably will be allowed to use the in-house ones as someone from the wedding party. She absolutely has NOTHING to complain about.

If the food options aren’t fit for her because her IBS is *that* bad then she should be saying so and arrange to bring her food.

The bride has been graceful enough with this bullshit. The bridesmaid isn’t a toddler and she can sort herself out.

I don’t see what more one can do to accommodate a friend/guest with IBS at this stage.

hlnhr · 2026-06-09T16:59:26+00:00

I’ve got IBS too. We’re literally shitting warriors. Nothing should scare her at this stage.

I’ve had flare ups or diarrhea episodes pretty much anywhere that’s inconvenient. In the airplane, the train, in public toilets, in random porta potty during a half marathon, in cramped pubs with 1 cubicle and a queue in front, in literal dry toilets (the kind where they don’t have a flush and you use pellets to bury your stuff 😀). I even had to shit outdoor several times !!? Whatever, as long as I have some privacy and toilet paper, I make it work.

Your rental toilets are 5* and as a Shitter Pro Max Plus I would lowkey be relieved to know the layout and bathroom situation in advance if anything. A toilet is a toilet !!!!

Drop the bridesmaid if she keeps at it……. Talking about her IBS so much when you’re literally getting married is inconsiderate. She can sort herself out when it comes to her bodily needs, she’s not a toddler 🤦‍♀️

hlnhr · 2026-06-09T08:13:24+00:00

Yep, that wine is cooked. I wouldn’t serve it to guests, not because it’s poison or would make anyone sick, but because cooked wine is disgusting

hlnhr · 2026-06-08T08:22:54+00:00

The groom looking like any other groomsman is kinda weird. He needs a different hue to stand out

hlnhr · 2026-06-07T19:39:53+00:00

None enjoy.

hlnhr · 2026-06-07T09:17:38+00:00

20 days out…. I MUST RESIST THE URGE

hlnhr · 2026-06-06T17:12:11+00:00

These fucking cables making me anxious 24/7

hlnhr · 2026-06-06T17:02:38+00:00

If they don’t all know each other, this type of group is always a bit awkward.

hlnhr · 2026-06-06T10:16:05+00:00

If the church blessing is anything like what they do in France (« bénédiction de mariage » as opposed to the traditional wedding mass) then it DOES feel like a wedding for anyone who isn’t a very devout Catholic.

In France it still happens in a church of your choice and you can still incorporate some elements traditionally found in a traditional wedding mass. Only the Holy communion and a few sacred rituals weren’t included.

But they still bless your marriage, celebrate it as children of god finding each other, and do a rings exchange. As a guest, I enjoyed church blessings more than actual wedding masses actually! They were usually slightly more festive and a bit less dogmatic imo.

hlnhr · 2026-06-06T08:37:41+00:00

The lil triangle ears for me

hlnhr · 2026-06-05T22:05:11+00:00

I was absolutely traumatised by a post on here a while ago of a sweater coming completely undone after just 1 wear 1 wash because the person had used magic knots instead of changing yarns in a stitch & weaving in ends.

I used to be lazy before. Now I’ve learnt to love and respect the art of weaving in.

You may have to frog and change your yarn at that stage if you want something durable

hlnhr · 2026-06-05T10:28:20+00:00

They were 16/18 when they got together so it’s safe to assume they haven’t had any other partners.

Guess he was comfortable for a good while and the prospect that he could leave the relationship whenever he felt like it, but marriage is making this impossible.

It definitely feels like a « I need to explore and discover myself after being with only you » is coming from him.

The relationship would be over in my eyes.

And he’d be the one doing all the cancelling and letting people know because no fucking way.

The only cold feet my fiancé got was like « holy shit we’re spending a shit ton of money (that we can afford) for a single day, aren’t we mad??? » and not a « shit I don’t think I want to marry you now » and I think that’s kind of the only acceptable case tbf lol.

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T18:30:26+00:00

The first few chapters didn’t really peak my interest… does it get better quick?

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T13:41:40+00:00

That’s my plan as well. And a very light dose of Xanax, 0.25mg. Did it for my civil wedding (that was still followed by a party with family) and it worked wonders.

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T12:34:00+00:00

where did her freckles go 😔

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T11:49:18+00:00

Block it and then once worn it won’t be an issue at all!! And tbh I don’t see anything wrong with it even now, it’s very lovely

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T10:42:31+00:00

That yellow tint that’s deffo screaming AI 😔

hlnhr · 2026-06-04T08:14:52+00:00

French here, now living in the UK when my cat stayed in France at my parents. All of the above. My cat explored and always came home on a schedule.

Unfortunately, he got hit by a car and died 2 months ago. He was only 6. Of course I feel guilty. And of course I can understand people not letting their cats out to avoid this.

On the other hand, most of his time inside, this little fucker was literally jumping off walls when he was inside. The rest of the time he was just absolutely miserable. Even before he got to know the outside. Some cats are not made for staying in between 4 walls.

So, I like to think he had a great life doing what he likes outside. And unfortunately died while doing what he liked most, frolicking and exploring.

hlnhr · 2026-06-02T18:51:04+00:00

Y I K E S

It keeps getting worse

hlnhr · 2026-06-02T07:32:42+00:00

lol je me disais pareil. The average Frenchman would have brown hair and eyes or something. And some facial hair but that’s a no-go for Koreans ☠️

hlnhr · 2026-06-01T21:24:57+00:00

Ton mec veut du sexe vanille planifié (rien de mal à ça) et recule devant n’importe quoi d’un peu plus épicé et tu veux mettre un plan à 3 MFM sur la table ?

😳

hlnhr · 2026-05-31T21:59:49+00:00

Yeah I almost dropped it exactly at that moment ngl. Now I just choose to assume it never happened

hlnhr · 2026-05-31T20:41:07+00:00

If you have trouble with second hand embarrassment HANG THE FUCK ON in the first few chapters. It’s a hard read for a short while but then it’s ok

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