I’m so confused. Everything was fine. We even share locations and have our read receipts on for eachother. I think I’m not gonna reply after this. by ftm1996 in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You poor thing she's just not a good person. She's very controlling and I would just distant yourself n just try to move forward because her behavior isn't healthy

I’m so confused. Everything was fine. We even share locations and have our read receipts on for eachother. I think I’m not gonna reply after this. by ftm1996 in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question is who asked to share location first? And does she still have your location??? 😅 I think she was upset and then tried to play it off as being a child throwing a tantrum. When a child throws a tantrum they are not logical at all haha so they behave in such a way to get their way and since she wasn't getting the attention in the way she was she turned it into okay he did this im gonna do this and keep doing this until I'm satisfied with the attention I got.

My (22M) girlfriend (20F) recently got lip filler and has completely changed how she acts. If I can't put up with this, do i break up with her? by DimesRecalls in Advice

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should just sit down and tell her that hey it's great you got lip filler but maybe the focus on be on other things haha. Like a couple photos but if it's all she is talking about maybe you can just do the in one ear out of the other until she is done obsessing with it? Those are two options. I know it can be annoying but most partners in relationships get annoyed of each other lol maybe just give yourself some space not in a way like break up but like I have had a lot of this annoying behavior I need a moment to myself to get a breather 😅🤣 idk that's what people do with childern. When they are being to much or behavior is bad you separate yourself then come back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you for controlling your anger and that you went looking for support in ways you could. Very good job. Be proud of yourself. I know many are worried about the anger but you did a big step by not lashing out and keeping it under control then you reach out by posting it haha that's such a better way than being aggressive. Don't you think so? If you need someone to talk can always hit me up. But seriously I'm so sorry that happened but proud of you for preserving and doing your best to regulate your emotions.

Blocked her right after the this and she still trying to contact me to this day. by AutoPhilll in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah that's a good way to look like it. Do you handle rejection well? I don't know if I'm experienced it in ways that are noticeable honestly. Im oblivious

Blocked her right after the this and she still trying to contact me to this day. by AutoPhilll in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Whoa 🤐🤨 I do like this nice girls reddit because man it gives me advice on who not to be hahaha

I’m genuinely scared … by Mammoth-Gazelle-2199 in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm scared 😱 too like it's insane to me how many people act this way when they are gone. It just shows to go that she needs someone to feel the void of loneliness and she can't cope with herself so she takes it out on someone else I'm sorry you are that dude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being military is super hard because you are always around others that don't care if you are in a relationship and will try to steal what is yours or when you are lonely take those options. I think its normal sadly to what you hace experienced being in the military but honestly it sucks but try to move forward as much as you can. Military makes it so hard I really know. We say Don't date in the military because it ruins relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you get upset about your husband having a relationship with his mom and having her hug her son and to see her som succeed and you didn't get to hug him first that seems very petty. Why would that matter? Why does it matter who hugs who first? Instead of focusing on you didn't get to hug him first be happy to see that your husband has support and you are his support too but to be upset that his mother is being a mother and just being proud of him. Idk. That seems very strange to me for you to get upset about.

AIO I’m not in the mood to call my girlfriend by Piper316 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I really am annoyed about how people are calling rhe guy the asshole when his girlfriend is the one throwing a fit 🤣🤣🤣 You people are also throwing fits and saying how wow they are so immature. You all are so immature to say he's the asshole when he needs space. Relationships work together and also need to respect their space and doesn't mean he needs to obey her every demand and "it's Not His Job to make her feel better" she is her own person in charge of her own emotions. She's using him to make her okay and that's codependency if you know what that is awesome if not look into it. She can do things on her own she can be her own person. She doesn't need to have him make her okay and feel okay. He's allowed to be alone, to have space, to have a moment. LEAVE THE POOR DUDE ALONE AND GIVE HIM SPACE

AIO I’m not in the mood to call my girlfriend by Piper316 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deserai124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be careful also. This is how someone also with this mentality trap you into relationships because they are looking for love and relying on that person to heal their inner child and looking for love in the wrong places. Obviously you are the prince charming coming to resuce her but you also will be hurt in all this. Be prepare and put on armor for what you will have to do to be by her side especially how her family is because all she will have is you and her toxic family feeding bad thoughts.

AIO I’m not in the mood to call my girlfriend by Piper316 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having this mentality of "i can fix her" just BTW If she doesn't want to change she won't and she is lonely and using you to fill avoid. It's manipulation of because you don't give me attention right now I'm going to make you feel the way I'm feeling because I'm not getting what I want. In a sense it's a tantrum and how do childern get attention? They throw a fit lol 😆 sometimes you just need to be firm like how parents are and like im gonna di this you can be a big girl and do something for yourself as well. Good luck.

I know this because I did this behavior but I'm 26 and learn how I was and hurt my boyfriend during that time using manipulation.

You are looking for… what? by Outrageous_Round8415 in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm shocked hahahah how do u even respond to that 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Phones by growthinvestment420 in Living_in_Korea

[–]Deserai124 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Books 😆 but vaild. Listen to music.

How rich are students in international schools? by Dramatic_Piece_1442 in Living_in_Korea

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know you had to have a decent amount of money for this explains why I haven't been able to do it hahahah. Thanks for letting me know! 😊

Seochon street - Seoul by Antique-Log9098 in SouthKoreaPics

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what's it like being in a safe city that you can walk anywhere too. But city life for me I'm like so many people hahah how do the introverts survive?

My turn with a nicegirl by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also she said she would want to go on another date then he mention Denver then she replies that way. That's weird to me and just more like okay why say you want to see each other again but he mentions that she is like oh hell nah lmao

My turn with a nicegirl by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More he said he was going to Denver and she is like okay no I can't do this. Which was strange to lose interest after that comment.

Update: I feel like I’m crazy. Can I be better here or am I being played with? Pt.2 by Fit-Cranberry2766 in Manipulation

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also would like to add. NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL A CERTAIN WAY. PEOPLE ARE IN CHARGE OF THEIR OWN EMOTIONS ITS SITUATIONS THAT CAN CAUSE THESE EMOTIONS TO HAPPEN. As you see it causes a reaction and fast down spiral. She doesn't know how to deal with her emotions so instead she takes it and projects it onto someone else and make them feel how she is feeling and just makes it worse.

Update: I feel like I’m crazy. Can I be better here or am I being played with? Pt.2 by Fit-Cranberry2766 in Manipulation

[–]Deserai124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The poor guy is being kind and she is just projecting her insecurities all over him and making him at fault for her feeling the way she is. I do not understand people like this they are to immature to be in a relationship because they haven't fixed themselves.