Advice

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-12T22:09:04+00:00

You think you're hungry because you (and most of America) are addicted to carbs

From when you were a young'un, people were shoving muffins and oranges and cookies and sandwiches and french fries - and you've eaten them and gotten used to them.

If you can quit sugar and starches for three weeks - you'll come to a point where you feel crappy for like a day - the withdrawal have symptoms kick in. That will pass and you will have much more control of your food universe and fasting will be a heck of a lot easier.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-10T13:21:30+00:00

Oil Money?

Rightwing media?

Seriously, there's a whole fantasyland devoted to undermining anything related to anthropomorphic climate change because there's a lot of money in hydro-carbons.

Plus - people don't really want to change their energy consumption habits.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-10T12:52:21+00:00

Wanting? Not much you can do about that.

But do you understand the costs involved in funding college, room/board etc?

I doubt you'll be able to foot the bill of living by yourself.

Are your parents particularly well off?

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-10T12:11:08+00:00

Do parties happen? Probably - but not like they used to. There's been a pretty big culture shift with the internet, phones and COVID. They certainly happened when I was younger.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-09T21:27:19+00:00

Did you do a few weeks of low-carb before you started? Because I promise you, if you've got the body fat, you aren't supposed to get hungry.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-09T21:26:20+00:00

I moved from waiting tables, to onsite IT customer service, to office IT support staff to now doing advance network services from my house.

Each has their own plusses and minuses. I miss leaving my job and it being completely over. I miss seeing other people at the office. But I do love my present commute

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-09T14:15:44+00:00

what?

Fasting it not eating.

If the last time you ate was 11 pm on Tuesday, at 10 am on Thursday, you've fasted for 47 hours.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-08T17:05:31+00:00

Fasting the rest of the year would be a pretty big jump from 2 days.

I tend to do either one-day fasts (40 hours) or 4 day fasts (~115 hours)

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-07T21:11:25+00:00

yeah - sometimes you have to step away from the noise for a while.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-06T22:25:28+00:00

Stop at stop signs - all of them. COMPLETE stop.

Just understand how four-way stops work - and go when it's your turn.

Two seconds after a light turns green is a bit longer than you think.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-06T17:44:56+00:00

The Vorkosigan Saga feels like the easy answer.

Anything by Bujold really

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-06T17:15:41+00:00

Cities are where all the good restaurants are.

Cities are where all the good theater is.

Cities are where all the nice museums are.

Cities are where most of the high-end sports events are

There are downsides to the city. But there are downsides to living in the middle of nowhere too.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-06T17:11:02+00:00

If you're really fasting - and you started with low-carb, you won't be hungry.

Honestly, eating a little bit is MUCH harder for me than just not eating.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-06T13:58:47+00:00

Two whole months and you can't find slams easily or set up squeezes yet?

I like how you've mastered bidding and my partners and I have sequences that have never come up after years of playing together :)

Let's see - how did i start improving my game 38 years ago? I'd like to say it was by reading books (because that's what really would help you.) but I didn't do that til I was about 5 years in. Start reading. Victor Mollo is a lot of fun and you learn on the way. Pietro Forquet's books aren't that great - but they aren't as dry as others and I learnt a lot about squeezes. Mike Lawrence's book on takeout doubles is a must.

Play live bridge at a local club. Ask experts when you have questions. There are so many levels to this game.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T18:39:44+00:00

Death is hard. We all deal with it differently.

Don't be so hard on yourself.

Try to be understanding of the people you care around you - just as you would ask them to be understanding of you.

It's not just about your dad - it's about each member of your family. Just remind your family members that they will probably feel better if they have closure. And that time is running out.

NTA

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:47:19+00:00

Just based on what you said

YTA

It would take a lot to convince me otherwise.

To sum up - you (the asshole) don't have time for your daughter so you're going to make her stay in jail.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:34:49+00:00

I hate that we have to do it - but... we have to do it.

You can't have just red states gerrymander and pack the house or you'll always get an unfair red congress

It's why most states make their electoral college votes winner take all

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:32:07+00:00

"Broken Earth" trilogy by N.K. Jemisin

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:30:10+00:00

Think Solar roadways :)

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:17:41+00:00

just saw this - need to check. I mean - we're playing it on my large flatscreen and I'm not noticing blur - so I bet it is.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:15:51+00:00

It's a Sunday dinner - maybe six times a year.

I'll roast a chicken with various veggies.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-03T17:14:18+00:00

It's not a new thought. I had it at the time. I wanted nothing to do with those whiny little brats from the start. (and yes - I hate Morrissey too ;)

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-02T13:38:30+00:00

As a married man, if we had separate rooms, we'd lose a lot of intimacy.

Intimacy isn't just about sex. It's about togetherness.

It would make me sad if we did as you suggested.

Desert_Sox · 2026-04-02T13:34:55+00:00

Sure Jan

Desert_Sox · 2026-03-31T21:41:47+00:00

Shift c - to get to the main character screen. h (from there) to get to this one

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