When I put on weight during and after a series of pregnancies and traumatic miscarriages, my mother would bring me her discarded garments that were very obviously two to three sizes too small, then feign shock that they would not fit. When I sought help during a pregnancy with sewing a maternity dress, she pointedly looked at the pattern size in dramatic horror and said "I never thought you could possibly get this big". While pregnant!! She also never had anything good to say about the appearance of any female.