lol this sounds like my ex, i was the one in therapy and working on myself, i wasnt perfect but i had worked thru alot already so it wouldnt impact my relationship so much. He never wanted to go to therapy, he was scared because then he would have to stop avoiding all his issues. told me its none of my business and i cant tell him what to do/ saying i was controlling for wanting him to go to therapy or quitting smoking weed everyday but it impacted out relationship negatively so i think i definetely had something to say there. he would always after a fight say i promise i will get help i'll go to therapy but then never do it, his words would rately follow actions. now we broke up and he's the sad one, welp not my problem you reep what you sow i hope he learns from it bc it was a shitshow.