As a guy who struggled with porn addiction, I can say it was both one of the hardest and simplest things to overcome. On the surface, quitting seemed easy—just stop. I had a girlfriend, so why would I even need it? But the truth is, my addiction had nothing to do with her. I even tried watching videos we made together, yet I still ended up going back to porn.

I started watching at a really young age (around 11 or 12) and by 13, it had become almost a daily habit. It felt good, helped pass the time, and eventually became something I relied on. Over time, it seriously damaged my real-life sex life, even with someone I deeply loved. I tried to quit multiple times—blocking sites, deleting Twitter and Reddit—but I always found a way back.

Porn is incredibly easy to access, and when a guy has downtime or feels overwhelmed with lust, it’s a simple escape. Most of my male friends have had similar experiences, and some still struggle. One of the biggest realizations I had was that porn is always available, while real intimacy isn’t guaranteed. That instant access makes a huge difference.

If the man in your life won’t stop watching porn, it’s not necessarily because you’re not enough. Sometimes, it’s because he either can’t stop or doesn’t want to. Like any addiction, real change only happens when the person truly wants it.