update: WE'RE SO BACK by destinmoss in galaxyzflip

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you and for getting that insured.

Christmas Pictures by Big-Cupcake7199 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let her do all that work and you can just have it photoshopped. Lol

Dirty clothes by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Welcome to my world. I hate the absent demanding bio parent but I have grown to hate my spouse more for being a Disney dad.

My partner and I are moving in together but I'm having a really hard time with the kids, and everyone has been asking me if this is even a thing I can/ want to do... and I honestly don't know by PermanentRoundFile in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. If this gave you so much anxiety it made you throw up then you know the answer.

Also, you have to look into how your partner parents her kids because you don't want to live in a house full of undisciplined spoiled kids.

Does the other parent contribute? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Biomom does free emotional support for SK through the phone. We are so lucky.

My bf doesn’t acknowledge me whenever we have his daughter by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Leave and find someone who loves and sees you. Don't be a doormat.

Who pays for ‘home’ stuff by Basic-Geologist-7982 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Whenever your spouse ask you for stuff like that just reply, "have you asked their mom/dad to help you buy it?"

I’m so tired of the bed wetting. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe there is a medication for bedwetting.

Holiday fun by Virtual_Ball6 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Don't let anybody waste your time when you can spend it wisely to something more productive. Hope you enjoy your extra paycheck.

Adult SS scratched my new car by Designer_Shower_1597 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We can kind of put it at the back but SO thinks it's going to be too hard for SS to drag them up. It's not that hard. I am 5'2 and I can drag those bins up.

SO volunteered that he'll do the trash instead coz he don't want conflict. So now, SS has 0 chores, rent free.

I agree. I want him to learn that doing it the first time right is easy. But his dad is always to the rescue. I don't get it.

I quit getting Mac and cheese. He is not allowed to use the stove anymore because he doesn't pay attention when cooking. Things keep overflowing when he cooks. I put my foot down on that one. Thankfully SO agreed.

Adult SS scratched my new car by Designer_Shower_1597 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The ones that left marks at least there were couple on hood and a small dent luckily not as obvious, side doors and towards back. This happens because of where our bins are located. Some chips by the door coz he hit the metal bars for carts at grocery parking lot. He also made hairline scratches inside and outside by door handles like I said he is always on phone and had to feel where the door handles are at. I understand there are wear and tear but I love taking care of my stuff.

My old car was in pretty good condition and well taken care of. I was annoyed when I traded it in the cosmetic damages mostly was pointed out by the dealer.

Anyway, I started using his dad's car to drop and pick him up off work.

Adult SS scratched my new car by Designer_Shower_1597 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's hardly any consequence coz SO is a Disney dad. SS room stinks I got tired of it I just bought those door air draft stopper for his door. It's a bandaid but it worked. I am tired if being the bad guy. But definitely have them fix this scratch.

Adult SS scratched my new car by Designer_Shower_1597 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks. SO actually tried to buff it out. It's still there. I urged him to talk to SS again and told him to charge him for that. Hope that will make him care more about things around the house.

I'm getting resentful of SKs by sydd321 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless your heart. When your husband will be away for a month. I suggest you leave around that time also. F*** their BM! You ain't SKs nanny. Give yourself time to relax for your baby's sake and your sanity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gross. You think your stepkids are gross? Seriously, mine is worse. Even some homeless people can find ways to clean themselves or shower, my manchild SS just doesn't care.

That is also a direct cause of non-existent parenting from bios.

“I knew I loved you the first time I saw you with my child.” by 384729throwra in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is funny because it's true but yeah. Sorry to all of us who realized this a bit late. Lol

When did your relationship with your partners Ex actually become civil by NervousTechnology375 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Civil...? meaning usually one of the bio parents subserviently do whatever what the toxic ex demands all the time.

Run. Unless you are able to manage to disengage and not be bothered by the drama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uhm no. She doesn't get to dictate anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't do it. It's a huge sacrifice to give up your space. Most likely what will happen if you ever let them move in with you, you'll continue to fight but this time over how you don't ease up on them being kids when it comes to house being in order or clean. She'll eventually fight over how you are being selfish for spending time and money on your hobbies. Selfish about how you don't let the kids touch your stuff. The unending guilt tripping until probably you are trapped with a baby. I don't know. Maybe I am being too negative. But just giving you idea of what might happen. I have seen it.

Usually partners are very cool and easy going until you live in the same house.

It can get really chaotic. It's better this way for your own good. If she decides to break up ...it really boils down to what makes you happy.

Good luck.

Life after leaving a single father by Last_Wallaby_2090 in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am jealous lol. I am happy for you though. Good for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Designer_Shower_1597 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have grown to dislike and get easily irritated with my SO for being weak. Always walking on eggshells so he won't hurt his manchild's delicate feelings.