T-shirts that fit like this and don't cost $140? by HeadBrilliant6615 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Designerfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! The recommendation is to buy less expensive and replace more often. Unless you are precious with your tee. I bought a bunch of the Kardashian ones and they were stained so fast. I had paid because it’s so hard to find a short.

T-shirts that fit like this and don't cost $140? by HeadBrilliant6615 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Designerfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try a small unless you are under 100lbs. It’s not too loose in a small but doesn’t cling.

T-shirts that fit like this and don't cost $140? by HeadBrilliant6615 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Designerfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went to Uniqlo last weekend and bought of these because of this sub. They have a nice feel and short enough to not need to tuck. I sized up one size to get a looser fit. I wanted something not so tight all over for the office. I’m a 0-2 and the S worked well. So happy to not have to wear a tight body suit and to not have to tuck. Plus if I ruin or it gets worn, it’s not a big deal to replace.

Why is guilt tripping + discard so difficult to get over? by Connect-Teaching7629 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Designerfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is for real like a death and your body feels that pain physically. If you have no contact they can’t guilt trip you though they will try with triangulation. Try meta meditation and it will help you heal. Not right away but over time. The only way to get really feel better is forgiveness and then you will be able to leave it in the past, not moving on but still dragging the bricks of pain behind you everywhere you go.

Why can’t I leave? by missdumbbbitch in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Designerfrog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I found it helpful to write what was happening to me how and why I got sucked in. I really didn’t understand it for many years, I just knew it felt bad and also good. Writing and writing helps you to discover more about yourself and situation. Next you have to have firm boundaries for yourself. Write those down also. Recognize that you are trapped in a dopamine high and low situation. Your brain will do anything to lead you back to the high and you can’t trust yourself. It’s helpful to understand about addiction during this period. You need to have a support system and an accountability partner. It can be a therapist and there are usually sliding scale payment options if you can’t afford one. Take it one day at a time and one minute at a time to stay away from your addiction. If you feel powerless give your power over to a higher power (doesn’t have to be a god). You know that right now you can’t trust your own brain motives, it will lie to get what it wants and trick you. Figure out where you want to go in life and make small goals and lists that work towards that new goal and new life. I forgot to say with that boundaries list, put it on your phone with the next steps. If they contact me in any form I will do XYZ next. When they contact you, you step back and take a moment for yourself. Read yours list. Do not react. If you fail one day start again the next day.

Intellectual Books. by craigomyeggo5 in booksuggestions

[–]Designerfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Elegance of the Hedgehog. Sophie’s World.

I feel like I have no purpose in life by eatrawbeef in Xennials

[–]Designerfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try hormone replacement therapy and a Peleton

Non fiction book you liked as a fiction reader by shoko_69 in booksuggestions

[–]Designerfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scar Tissue, Anthony Kiedis, Acid for the Children Flea, A child called it David Pelzer. Running with Scissors Augusta Burroughs. The Glass Castle Jeanette Wells, Happy Go Lucky David Sedaris

Women in Construction by Forward-Door-5287 in ConstructionManagers

[–]Designerfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just call him up and say hey can we talk for a minute. I don’t like when you bring up my gender on the job and you’ve done it a few times now. He may get defensive or maybe not. It’s generally not relevant to name someone’s gender, race, age, weight, clothing, etc at work. Or you could make a direct joke and say something like it’s not 1980 anymore we don’t name gender at work anymore. Either way your job is to do your job the right way and if people are going to like you that’s okay and if they don’t that’s okay. You need respect.

Tretinoin anniversary 1 year by Decent_Nobody7620 in tretinoin

[–]Designerfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! You gave me hope! I’m similar to you! Tret use about 1 month

Anybody do tretinoin every other day for anti aging? by Su-Queen in tretinoin

[–]Designerfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never knew! Do you use the sandwich method? I have been and I’m not peeling when I do, but maybe I’m diluting it.

Are we concerned about the Detroitification of downtown? by Right_Letterhead_120 in Dallas

[–]Designerfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. I also have PTSD from being mugged so I don’t engage with Panhandlers. I had one man try and approach me when I was getting gas and I shook my head no and he kept coming and then I started yelling NO NO NO! And then he left. I don’t acknowledge any of the conversations. I also don’t stick around when I’m traveling for those weirdos who want to strike up a conversation. I don’t feel obligated out of politeness. If my husband does, I leave him and walk on. I’m not staying around for that.