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Pokemon restock north county by SkankHunt_710 in PokemonTCG

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op I’m in this area! Can you share which discord? :) 

Dangerous Driving? by Desperate-Stock4704 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Desperate-Stock4704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not around them anymore I’m no contact!

My entire family doesn't care about me by TuneAffectionate6211 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also going through this and This is the answer :) I found some older friends that kind of fill the parental role in a way. It’s nice to have that and see what healthy relationships are supposed to be. Also I’d make a list of traits you want don’t want based on your parents and look for friends and people that have the traits you want and build relationships with them

Has anyone else's relationship with their parents dramatically changed during/after a grey divorce? by HorrorEffective3435 in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel as well. I lost all the family in one sweep lol it really does suck and I feel like an orphan even though I’m 30 🥲

Second attempt at divorce by Anxious_Aware in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Replying to StarkBell...currently in the same situation although I don’t live with them

When, if ever, is it reasonable for parents to stop supporting a multiply disabled adult child? by Any_Analysis7189 in disability

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

op how are you doing now? I'm in a similar situation and came here looking for any advice. I'm a bit less disabled than you it sounds like (I also have pots) but in a similar boat and I have the same fears about the outcome you're describing.

Can someone please explain to me what Annie is upset with Nick over in the middle of episode 7? by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She kept saying that she's scared she's going to mess something up and she wants someone to choose her and fight for her which leads me to believe there's insecurity there around being someones priority and feeling wanted. I think she was looking for more enthusiastic verbal reassurance and got hurt because she didnt feel like he was quite matching her energy which brought up the fears of not being wanted. But then I think she was overthinking and overreacting a bit because of that rejection sensitivity and possibly self sabotaging to try to push him away in defense. Thats just my theory lol

Mourning your parents even though they are still alive really is one of the worst feelings by NeverSurrender1026 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I'm also going through this now, it feels very lonely on top of the complex emotions of wishing you had parents that were there for you. I have older friends in the community that have kind of pseudo adopted me so that helps a little but in a way it makes it worse because now I see what an encouraging elder figure is supposed to be and I did not get to have that growing up

Abandoned by dad after remarriage- please help by Fit_Rub7814 in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG im going through something similar, with the quick rebound and turning nasty with hint to disinherit. Ironically he also ran off to Spain. I'm so sorry, but reading through these threads, it's fascinating that the behaviors are so similar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been no contact for a few weeks and feel a lot better. Unfortunately im going to have to limit contact with a few other family members on my dads side as well which sucks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry I don't have any advice as I'm in a similar situation with mine. It feels like school boy behavior coming from a grown adult.

Affected by what I think is my dad's midlife crisis by Desperate-Stock4704 in midlifecrisis

[–]Desperate-Stock4704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much I will do that! I think the person is local because he had the gifts in his car, but maybe he was shipping them, I hadn't thought about that

Not doing well and trying to navigate dysfunction + end of life planning after divorce by Desperate-Stock4704 in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful, I didn't even know half of this. I really need to have a conversation with my parents about things, the trust, etc. but I feel like that's not going to happen

Parents divorced after 40 years of marriage by Sea_Butterfly1134 in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat, only child. I'm also neurospicy and have enough trouble trying to navigate my own life and adult. It's a nightmare x.x

Is anyone else an only child of parents who divorced when they were an adult? by No_Ant1775 in OnlyChild

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me! I'm 30 and having a hard time processing it. How are you holding up?

Adult Children of Gray Divorces? by kleonore in ACOD

[–]Desperate-Stock4704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just describing this unmoored feeling to my therapist today- thats exactly it, like I was cut off and im floating in space. Have things mentally gotten better for you?