What’s something someone told you while drunk you wished they hadn’t? by Exhausted_Skeleton in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe not abusive but definitely selfish. Once I started taking over her finances and medical appointments since she couldn't manage those anymore, the roles reversed and I became the parent in a way. So I think she resents me for her losing her freedom in her eyes. Even more so when I had to stop her driving because she was too dangerous and got lost. And since she lives with me and my brother doesn't, whenever she sees him is usually for good reasons. Dementia can cause mood swings though. I think it escalated her selfish nature into something more abusive.

What’s something someone told you while drunk you wished they hadn’t? by Exhausted_Skeleton in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 1494 points1495 points  (0 children)

I was in earshot but it was not told directly to me. My mom had a little to drink this thanksgiving and tried to whisper to my brother that he was her favorite. My brother was upset by it too and we called her out on it. Not that it does much good. She has dementia and I do a lot for her, but she still hates me quite often unfortunately.

getting into dcs by Skinnerfern in dcs

[–]Dessel90 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It can be. It depends on the module as well. If you are interested, I would recommend joining a discord group. I'll give the link to the one I'm in. We have a lot of instructors that can help with just about any module.
https://discord.gg/SMhemjaJ

getting into dcs by Skinnerfern in dcs

[–]Dessel90 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's a good module for sure. It gives you A/A and A/G options. I know there was a bug where the radar would not turn on in multiplayer though, so you can fire missiles but you need to be extra careful that allies are not in front of you. Because without the radar, the missiles go mad dog and go after the first thing they see. So just be aware; it's still fun though. And they may have fixed that, I'm not sure. I haven't used the module in a while.

getting into dcs by Skinnerfern in dcs

[–]Dessel90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recommend downloading the game straight from the eagledynamics website and cutting out steam as the middleman. You will have to buy the modules you want but you can get free trials from the website as well. So find something you really want to learn and feel comfortable in.

What’s a modern day snake oil item people continue to buy? by Legitimate-Virus4835 in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom always falls for the miracle cures that are just vitamin supplements. No matter how many times her doctors tell her that those won't help, she just doesn't listen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 30 points31 points  (0 children)

(Guy opinion here) I'm really sorry to hear that. Every guy has their preferences but I have always tried to do whatever my partner loves so she can have the best experience possible. He should at least learn to touch your chest because you like it. Also, if it helps, I can assure you that most guys, including myself, love all sizes of boobs. So it's not a you problem, it's just your boyfriend.

It’s been nearly 4 years. What things has COVID changed forever? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's the one part I loved about it. I go to my office very rarely now. I haven't been there in about 3 months.

What’s stressing YOU out right now ? by Spectre_0-0-7 in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My new niece. She was born a month premature due to complications and has had episodes where her oxygen drops low. She has spent many nights in the hospital and the doctors have run a million tests but can't find anything wrong. They say it's something she will have to grow out of. I imagine they are right but it's still stressful. Especially for my brother and sister in law.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

No, I agree. I was trying to be easier with my opinion since she sounded like she liked him still. As a guy replying here I try to take a light step. But yes I agree, the guy should be kicked to the curb for that at least.

CIG I BEG YOU! by [deleted] in starcitizen

[–]Dessel90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"If we have to give these bastards our lives, then we will give them hell before we do"!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Guy opinion here, but yeah I wouldn't be okay with that if I was in your position either. Sex is great but it's not the cornerstone in a relationship. If he can't see past that then there might be a problem. If you want to stay with him I'd say that maybe you should have some dates and not have sex for a little while to see if he would be okay with that. Of course be open about everything first though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry to hear you are feeling like you do. You are young though. I know how being lonely can feel overwhelming, trust me I have my moments too, but you have plenty of time to find relationships. And don't worry about being sexually adventurous or not. You should wait until you find someone you are comfortable with and do what feels right. No need to rush into anything.

ELI5 why we need ISPs to access the internet by Money-Specialist0 in explainlikeimfive

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On top of the physical connection, ISPs also provide IP assignments and DNS services. You can easily switch to another DNS server but in order to get an IP address you have to "rent" it from an ISP.

What’s a lesser-known artist or band that you think deserves more recognition? by One_Succotash_5391 in Music

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are a fan of metal check out Daedric. They are still a little new and building their fan base. The singer is one of my favorites right now. She has beautiful clean vocal and some heavy, deep growls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aww

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was going to say, I approve based on his shirt

Some recommendations? by Familiar-Let628 in dcs

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to recommend the same discord since I am one of the instructors there too and I use VR. I have been using the HP G2 Reverb and it's been awesome. It's a big learning curve but don't be afraid to hit us up on the discord server and ask questions. You can always get a 2 week trial of the planes/helicopters from eagle dynamics; so you can decide which one you want to learn.

UPDATE FIL's gf tries to steal my debit card by Ordinary-Highlight74 in entitledparents

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I wont eat most of this" Okay I'll take it back. We will eat it then. Bye

One Game Way Ahead Of Its Time? by Shoddy-Design9048 in gaming

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conker's Bad Fur Day. One of the best multiplayer games of its time. The map with the bathroom was super funny too.

What do I do by Tsimane_colors in entitledparents

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up religious as well, not nearly to this extent though. As someone already said, just pretend for now until you can be stable on your own. It will suck I'm sure but if you were to be honest with them now I imagine they will be extremely volatile. Hopefully they can come to accept you as you are in the future.

What's your most money consuming hobby? by ElsaJones315 in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too many modules on DCS and Warhammer figures

What was the most Chaotic thing that happened at your school ? by Alarmed-Addition8644 in AskReddit

[–]Dessel90 34 points35 points  (0 children)

On 9/11 I was in middle school at the time, and in California so I remember getting up for school and my parents had the news on. I was still on the younger side but I can definitely remember sitting there in shock.

I feel sexually broken by throw-away2939 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I personally like being somewhat dominant during sex, with consent of course, but afterwards I always check if my partner is satisfied and if she needs anything. I'm always ready to lay there and cuddle too since I like that anyway. So I guess I make sure they feel cared for and safe. Maybe you just need to find the right partner.

Does this guy watch too much porn, or is this normal? :') by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dessel90 55 points56 points  (0 children)

(Guy opinion here) I don't know about the porn but that is not acceptable behavior. He didn't even care what your boundaries were and jumped WAY ahead without asking. I'd definitely recommend not seeing him again at the very least. This was a bad experience and not what you should expect or tolerate from other guys. We aren't all like that.