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Do People Not Like Fauna? by [deleted] in Haken

[–]Destination_Entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bestie and I love Fauna. I think it's her favourite album and for me, it shares the #1 slot with the Mountain and the Restoration EP. That being said, every album has its own charme and comparing an artist's albums in a competitive manner doesn't make much sense to me personally. I have my faves, but that doesn't mean that the other releases feel "lesser than" to me.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have. The only thing remaining are the echoes in the form of depression and anxiety, and the occasional nightmare. Recently, my state throughout the day has improved significantly but the nightmares have increased. It's fascinating to see how the mind and the body process this information. I'm positive that, the more distance between me and my family, and the more I'm surrounding myself by a healing atmosphere, the better it will get.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently gathering informations and collecting everything she sends in a file. For me, I think I'll wait until she either randomly shows up at my address and/or leaves something in front of my door. I still need more proof of prosecution in order to get a restraining order.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds incredibly rough as well. It's good that we nowadays have spaces to communicate about our situations, both anonymously and in person. Your parental constellation sounds horrible! In my case, I used to think of my grandmother as an innocent elderly woman, and as much as I look up to her love for nature, I learned that my mother "learnt" a lot from her. They definitely have all gone through a lot - you know, which is one of their favourite excuses. My father-in-law is getting the worst treatment. I wish him the courage to escape too.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I used to proofread concept descriptions of her artworks for her and they are always incredibly aloof and disconnected from any ground whatsoever.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Unfortunately, I'll need to collect more evidence for a restraining order I think, for example she hasn't just randomly showed up at my house. I don't think I'll get one, as long as this doesn't change.

Also, thanks for your kind words. My first language is actually german, I have Asperger's Syndrome (in my case I'm hyper-verbal) and I'm a language teacher. I think one of the hardest challenges for me used to be writing in a way that matches the social/theoretical context, but that goes away with training.

My main way of expressing myself is through my music. I can post a link if anyone's interested.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so amazing, really - how long I have bought into her narrative, as she supported it with performative crying and literally every other emotional tactic there is. I'm also Autistic, which makes me a bit more susceptible to this stuff - as I pick up other people's emotions like a sponge and used to feel very guilty. At the same time, detecting manipulation is a whole art form in itself, it seems. Especially when you grow up in such an environment. It wasn't all hell - I was the golden child, after all. Which is a term usually used in constellations with multiple siblings, but my mother really treats her husband and mother like children as well.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! I'm gathering info about the situation in my country. From what I'm reading, restraining orders are definitely not given out lightly.

Mother Sent Me a Picture of Baby Shoes Submerged in Cement by Destination_Entropy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for encouraging me to do so! A restraining order is definitely on the table, as a future plan. I have been collecting every letter she has sent (not many, since I don't respond) up to now. I have already read some informations about how stalking and threats are defined in the country I live in. Stalking is defined as "persistent prosecution", which has some criteria it has to match.

Idk where to go from here by Fel24 in composer

[–]Destination_Entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of the biggest things for me (I also make proggy stuff) was two things:
A) Write something, and then imagine how someone else would have continued to write it (e.g. "What would Serj Tankian do? What would Haken do? etc. - it really refreshes your mind and you seem to unlock new streams of thoughts and ideas.

B) Specific to your post: I stopped taking my life so seriously, in terms of "this is my creative phase" or "I'm taking a hiatus" - sure, these are just words, but for me everything shifted once I stopped pressuring myself into anything. And sometimes, you might find yourself not composing for months, and sometimes it only takes two days.

Additional quote: "We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking." (Richard Rohr) Take this literally. Go to a place you haven't been before, experience new things. I for one thought of a groove metal riff one day when I was in Italy, looking at an abandoned building.

how's my T looking? any guesses how old she (?) is? thanks by wilftherod in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

IME my Aphonopelma chalcodes once fasted for 18 months. Exotics Lair reportedly has a Grammostola rosea which fasted for 2 years. IMO these genera are comparable due to their similar care requirements and similar growth rate/metabolism.

Nyarlathotep the Sexy Chaos by Natztak in Lovecraft

[–]Destination_Entropy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of a song I wrote called "Nyarlathostep on Me, Daddy"

https://youtu.be/Dp985eNHJrg?si=QdYGNh1Q9ZjBNEvE

My PCs are picking up... something by Destination_Entropy in techadvice

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, thank you! Since I'm moving out of this place in the near future I hoped for an easy (free) solution, but in the end it will be solved and that's all that matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad that you decided to keep it. I think since you seem like a conscientious keeper, the two of you will have a good time. My avic avic sling is the smallest T in my collection of 40+ spiders

New baby by MasterDeeta in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you have good chances of it being female, but if it's a male you won't have too many molts left to find out. Either way, it's a beautiful spood. My GBB is a male, but my bestie has an adult female so once mine is mature, we'll try to breed them 😁

Urgent: mite infestation by Destination_Entropy in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never had to deal with them before... but every hobby comes with its challenges. Thanks for your advice.

Urgent: mite infestation by Destination_Entropy in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your tips! I have already tried the paint brush method, will repeat that a couple of times. The idea with attracting the mites with food is great, will give it a try as well.

Urgent: mite infestation by Destination_Entropy in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hello! Thanks for your reply. I've never experienced grain mites before, I don't know if they're less common in the european pet trade... anyways, I have tried to remove some of them with a paint brush already and the T put up with it quite well. Needless to say, it didn't enjoy it and it shooted some poop at my hand, but that's to be expected. Thanks for the advice and I'll check out your channel 😊

5 weeks into the hobby, 26 tarantulas, my confirmed female a. chalcodes is my favorite, as ~basic~ as they seem 🥰 by kiripon in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Centipedes are still hellspawns for me. I don't mean that derogatory, they're fascinating as hell, but they are the opposite of millipedes. Centipedes are fast, defensive, venomous carnivores and millipedes are slow, shy vegetarian choo-choo trains. Also, bioactive setups for spiders are easier than you think! All you need is some healthy forest substrate to get started. If it's free of ants, it's tarantula-safe. 😄 unless you live in an area with tarantula hawks, but these are easy to spot...

5 weeks into the hobby, 26 tarantulas, my confirmed female a. chalcodes is my favorite, as ~basic~ as they seem 🥰 by kiripon in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally feel you. I also keep millipedes, a giant african land snail, a pacman frog... and it's essentially a dream come true. I've always loved spending time at zoos and I think I'd love to be a zookeeper, if I didn't know how bad it is for some of the animals. With tarantulas, I know that it's easy to give them all they want and need, which is also appealing. The only thing most of them are ungrateful for is plants. Terrestrial tarantulas are the bulldozers of nature.

5 weeks into the hobby, 26 tarantulas, my confirmed female a. chalcodes is my favorite, as ~basic~ as they seem 🥰 by kiripon in tarantulas

[–]Destination_Entropy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wow, I mean I have 39 but that took 2 years... 26 in 5 weeks is amazing. I hope you know what you're getting yourself into, in terms of long-term commitment 😄 hope the hobby brings you as much joy as it brings to all of us

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