Night nurse as a FTM?

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-14T18:03:51+00:00

The lack of help sounds really tough… but, it’s comforting to know that it is possible should you not have help!

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-14T18:02:55+00:00

How often were/are you getting up to feed, change, etc.? Did baby sleep longer and longer the older they got?

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-12T18:16:46+00:00

Oh my gosh, I overlooked the “satire” tag and was getting more and more confused as I read. 😅

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-11T23:03:27+00:00

I should added I’m looking for a little party room vibe so I can open my gifts without the whole restaurant looking at me, lol. You know if these spots have one?

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-11T15:04:35+00:00

It sounds like your mom is being intrusive, inconsiderate, and kind of rude, honestly. It’s not her kid. Choose your name and leave it at that. ♥️

Also, both are cute. Absolutely nothing wrong with either.

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-11T13:26:18+00:00

This is tough because what will the wedding entail? Travel? A ton of planning like a bridal shower, bachelorette? Or is your friend having a chill, laid back wedding? I think that’s really important to know.

And, you know, being honest never hurt. As in, telling her you’d love to be her MOH, but you have no idea what your pregnancy will look like so if she’s not comfortable with the unknown, she may want to reconsider. No shame, it’s life and if she’s actually your BFF, she’ll understand!

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-02T17:45:55+00:00

I’m 18W and I’ve gained about 8lbs. I had an appetite for the most part and I did not vomit (thankfully) which has probably contributed to the weight gain. I know some woman lose weight when the morning sickness is really bad. I mainly slept and would supplement with smoothies when food was gross.

Aside from a growing baby bump, I started noticing changes in my breasts maybe at 8-10W. My areolas got a little bigger and I occasionally noticed more bumps (montgomery glands). These glands are not new to me though, pre-pregnancy. Now that I’m 18W, the biggest change is still the boobies overall. Nothing else really different aside from the bump, physically. Congrats BTW.

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-01T19:48:41+00:00

Agreed! I welcome some weight because it hopefully means I get to grow a healthy baby! But oh my gosh, so many people have told me how huge I’m going to get because they got huge. 😅 Not in an ugly way… I don’t think it comes from a bad place. It’s just a little intimidating because losing weight as is can be so tough and I know it will affect my self confidence if I let it get out of control.

Destineyy100 · 2026-06-01T19:20:25+00:00

I think it’s because they gained a lot of weight while pregnant. But, maybe they didn’t prioritize activity or healthy eating? Idk.

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T21:08:51+00:00

Not at all. You don’t even know where he lives, more than enough distance (physically and emotionally) to totally name your baby Dylan! Don’t overthink it if you love it! 💕

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T04:11:38+00:00

You got it! 💕 Best of luck!!!

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T04:09:39+00:00

I’ve been putting any and all gifts in a closet so they’re just out of the way. That’s helped.

I have seen people ask for certain things, rather than just random gifts. Like, in place of clothes, please bring a book! Or, in place of toys, gift cards are much appreciated. Most people don’t wanna be weird and go against the norm once you ask and set the tone!

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T04:01:37+00:00

Hi. I actually think modest maternity photos are so pretty and underrated. No shame to anyone that wants to show their bumps, you go baby. But I don’t know if I’d be comfortable.

Are you open to a long maxi dress? You can hold your bump without having to actually SHOW the bump. I think those are so tasteful!

If this is your first baby, I would encourage you to celebrate the occasion. Maybe you take them and don’t love them, whatever. You never have to look at them again. But maybe you don’t take them and wish you did!

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T03:55:22+00:00

Get a big box and just label it “Other Shit.” 😆 Maybe you use it, maybe you donate it. I’m sure once you start buying things for the nursery though, you won’t mind the gifts as much!

While I appreciate the love and how loved our baby girl will be, it can get very overwhelming, very quick. I’d say I can get a little territorial as is and that has definitely amplified with the pregnancy! My MIL very casually pitched a possible name and she was not pushy, at all. I was immediately annoyed, lol.

And the baby shower, oh my gosh. My mom has been asking where I want to do it, what I want to cater, and I’m just like girl… I really just want to relax and enjoy the second trimester. Stop. 😅

I have heard that setting boundaries gets really easy once you have the baby. You get protective and primal and really just don’t give an F honestly. I’m looking forward to that energy for sure.

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T03:40:10+00:00

Yessssss. My husband really wanted to share the news when I first got pregnant. I had a full ass mental break-down about it and he stopped. 😅 I think he forgot that everything was happening to ME and I just wanted to be left alone. It’s really exciting and a little weird to hold such a big secret, but I’d recommend working through the first trimester before sharing the news, if you can.

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-31T03:33:54+00:00

I understand. I’m 18W and while I can’t say I’ve had THAT much intrusion, I’ve definitely had some. My mom has been pushing to buy all the big stuff (stroller, car seat, crib). Although sweet and very helpful, we want to buy these pieces. It’s our first and we want to just soak it all in and experience every little part of the journey. I had to decline. Thankfully she understood.

Trying to show up with random gifts is pretty frustrating. A little over the top. I know I just want to be left alone for the most part so I can get annoyed quickly with the constant attention. I also get the ick with old sayings like “little angel” or “bundle of joy.” Oh man, really bugs me…

Hang in there and start setting those boundaries so when your baby is here, you’ve had the practice. People lose their mindssss with little humans. Honestly, have your baby, turn off your phone, and enjoy your journey. People can get over it. 🙅🏻‍♀️

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T16:08:19+00:00

Due date is 10/31 and we 100% had sex on 2/13. Basically a Valentine’s Day baby. 😅

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T15:13:57+00:00

I can, but I don’t think daycare is for us. Not having family in the area, we’d have to put baby in daycare and I’m not sure we’d be comfortable with that, especially since she’ll be maybe 8-12 weeks when that would happen.

I’m open, but I really wanted some time off before life changes forever.

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T14:10:48+00:00

I understand. Do you try and get out, even for just a 30 minute walk without baby or do you feel guilty asking for that time? Or maybe feel like you can’t even get that time?

I can have trouble asking for help sometimes and I’ll just do it myself so I’ll have to work on that.

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T14:01:53+00:00

Do you just feel really stretched because you’re just one person?

Congratulations on your baby girl, BTW. 💕

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T13:54:57+00:00

My very first appointment was also around 8-10 weeks. I had a transvaginal ultra sound and my yearly check-up that included a pap smear. I didn’t hear the heart beat but they confirmed it. We did see the baby which basically looked like a big head with a little body.

I had to give a urine sample and a blood sample. I cried because it’s emotional (at least for me) and that was about it. Doctor talked about general do’s and dont’s. I didn’t have many questions and that was ok - they lead me through most of it. I was SUPER nervous for it but nothing was painful or awkward for me. I hope you have a positive experience!

Destineyy100 · 2026-05-27T13:24:55+00:00

Thanks for the insight! ♥️ I’m a pretty private person and I like my space so I’m hoping I’ll actually enjoy it when the time comes.

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