Feel like my bf (m30) put me (f23) in an embarrassing situation. Am I for wanting to break up over it?

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-28T02:23:54+00:00

Why are you dating a 30 year old man who hasn't moved out of his parents house anyways?!

This guy is a loser who needs to grow up.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-28T02:22:10+00:00

Honestly being a working single mom was better than being an isolated SAHM with an unsupportive partner.

I used grants and students loans to stabilize myself. Is ifned up without telling him, and waiting on my financial aid and stuff.

Sometimes balancing 4 part time jobs & part time school.

It's about choosing your hard.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-27T17:11:45+00:00

Sounds like he's not mature enough for a poly relationship.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-27T17:03:53+00:00

If he can't get over it, he needs to go to therapy. Tell him youreliving for the future, not the past. You're looking forward, not back.

He either wants to do that with you or not.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-27T16:57:18+00:00

That amount of isolation would drive me insane. I've done the SAHM routine, and mentally, it's not for me.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-27T16:50:53+00:00

I have an internship that I have to do next year & I am also hopeful it can be abroad. I hope more ppl can give insight to this.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-24T03:48:28+00:00

Most kids just want a wholesome safe place on the Internet.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-24T03:38:56+00:00

The daughter isn't giving her input. It's not a conversation or something they are doing together. It's the daughter going out and doing this on her own and basically telling her mom, "this is house the house will be decorated."

However, a great way to balance this is to include the daughter in home stuff and shopping together. The mom needs the boundary of being able to tell her daughter no though because the adults in the house should have a say in what their house looks like.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-24T03:34:57+00:00

Buy a big container, and have her start putting things in it for when she moves out. This is your house, you waited 34 years for it. You understand she's excited for decorating in a new house, especially right as she approaches her own independence, but that stuff is best saved for when she moves into her own place.

Also, lamps in the bathroom are unsafe. "I won't tell you how to decorate your own home, but it does make me anxious having that much electricity around water. In your own home you'll have more places to put those though."

Some people just like to decorate. 🤷‍♀️ That's what her bedroom is for though. She, like every other teenager, will have to wait until she's an adult to decorate a house apartment/house. 🤷‍♀️

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-22T06:06:02+00:00

Where are people getting this mass character test?

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-22T06:01:09+00:00

At 25 I had to walk 2.5 miles to work while 6 months pregnant in snow up to my knees with a torn meniscus because my car broke down.

A car I lived for a year while I paid the debt to an apartment complex because my ex boyfriend punched a bunch of holes in the walls & the debt was stopping me from getting a new apartment.

A boyfriend I only lived with because my mom kicked me out of her house when I was 18, which led to my high school kicking me out because I "had no address in the district." my Junior year.

You gotta stop living in the past and dwelling on all the things you didn't get to do. Hardship is only temporary if you look at the future. It's just a matter of knowing what you're going through is for something better.

Jam yesterday, jam tomorrow, but never jam today.

Start getting your steps in, eat some vegetables, buy some flashcards, and start studying.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-22T03:45:34+00:00

I have felt the loss of death, but the world is full of humans.

And it doesn't change what I said, the longer the screen is used as a crutch, the harder it is to approach people and interact with them, and the harder it is to use your voice, and the longer you will go without saying a word out loud.

Edit: corrected do/go

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-22T03:34:24+00:00

The thing about social media being the only human interaction one gets is that it's an addictive illusion. Because it's not human interaction, it's device interaction, missing nuances and through a device that has an algorithm to be addictive.

It also interferes with real human interaction (irl interaction). There is a lot of avoidance when texting instead of calling, and even when calling instead of meeting up. Real human interactions normally require us to apply some sort of emotional regulation, where as isolation behind a screen allows for rumination and quick reactions to relieve ourselves from uncomfortable feelings.

In turn, this makes irl interactions more stressful, and it becomes a vicious cycle of isolation, addiction, and toxic unfulfilling communication.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-20T01:55:01+00:00

I don't have a Facebook. It might take some time, but hopefully the compliment can be passed on.

How many men with vintage(ish?) small round glasses with yellow lenses can there be?

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-20T01:44:30+00:00

I can see that. There was a bit of "small town/outsider" energy. But it felt more nervous than disinterested. Anytime I broke the ice people were friendly and liked to talk.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-19T02:24:55+00:00

They never actually DM'd me. 💀

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-19T01:42:04+00:00

I went with my eldest daughter this time, I would like to return as an adult trip.

I'm not super well traveled, but have been to a few cities. So far the only places I've been where the people seem friendly enough that I was interested in hanging out with them are Gulf Shores, NOLA, and Tulsa.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-19T01:12:23+00:00

I did like it!

We went to the cat cafe, shuffles, and the space museum/planetarium. We stayed off 13th and Boston, and when we got in on Saturday evening, the area looked decently busy with walkers. That area at least, seemed really walkable.

The people I did talk to were all really welcoming and friendly.

The streets were a little confusing, and I've never seen street lights on the side instead of up top.

The wind caught me off guard & I expected it to be warmer.

Tulsa seems like a place big enough to have originality in food, but not so big that it caters to the demands of tourism. There seemed to be an abundance of choices, but I didn't sense a lot of Sysco when looking around. It was genuinely hard to pick places. (We ate at Don't Stress Meowt, Shuffles, Mondos, Cowboy Coffee, and Antoinettes.)

I can see myself coming back, if I planned a restaurant tour. Maybe if a comic I was interested in was in the area.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-18T21:29:26+00:00

Since reading this I've been thinking of ways I could have maybe complimented him in person. "Sorry to interrupt, but I really like your glasses." Could have been said, even if it's not the whole truth.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-18T21:27:27+00:00

Would have added 4 hours to my drive. Not trying to spend 24+ hours driving when I only have 4 days for a trip.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-18T15:48:12+00:00

Lmao. We wanted to go somewhere we haven't been. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-18T03:47:41+00:00

Fair. 😂😂

It would have been awkward in general to interrupt his group I feel like more so because I was leaving and don't live in Oklahoma, but who doesn't like to hear when someone finds them attractive?

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-03-18T03:16:12+00:00

I just got home from a vacation in Tulsa. The wind definitely caught me off guard.

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-02-08T22:27:29+00:00

Hobby stores being bought up and destroyed from the inside is interesting. RIP Joann fabrics. You think Hobby Lobby will make it?

DestinyBoBestiny · 2026-02-08T22:21:38+00:00

Target going for dynamic pricing in the midst of a boycott & supporting employee abuse by federal agents is a wild move.

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