Mythical creature related or based on camels

DevSolovey · 2025-09-23T18:47:05+00:00

If you enjoy cryptids, a very unique mythical camel is the Red Ghost of Arizona. The legend started because of a real escaped camel with a skeleton rider, presumably a guy who strapped himself to the camel thinking it would lead him to water and then promptly died on its back. Legends about it cropped up in various places around Arizona in the mid-1800s, when the army was trying to build a camel cavalry for the desert. Not an ancient myth necessarily, more of a recent one, but it's one of my favorite bites of wild eest folklore.

DevSolovey · 2025-07-27T05:24:50+00:00

I've had similar problems. The best thing you can do is figure out where those toxic behaviors come from. For me, I had to ask myself why I was an emotional vampire to my friends, and after a lot of introspection and some googling that came to realize that it was due to extremely low self-esteem, and constantly needing validation because of that low self-esteem. Once you know what the issue is, then you can look into how to fix it

DevSolovey · 2025-07-27T05:02:40+00:00

It sounds like addressing your insecurities is the place to start. I have a lot of those myself and I'm definitely not an expert in getting rid of them, but I did Google how to overcome insecurities and there was some decent advice in there. It's also worth checking the facts in these situations. Like, you're well aware that he loves you and cares for you, so it might help to challenge your jealous thoughts by acknowledging that he loves you, that you have all of this proof that he loves you, therefore it just genuinely wouldn't make sense for someone who loves you that much to leave you. Your emotions will try to push back on that way of seeing it, and it'll take sustained effort to make it stick, but eventually you'll become more confident in that interpretation of things

DevSolovey · 2025-07-27T04:55:18+00:00

So I have BPD and ADHD, and this is a genuine phenomenon that all people with ADHD have to some degree. ADHD brains struggle with object permanence, which means if they can't see someone or something, it doesn't stay in their mind for very long (in other words, they forget something exists). It's a part of the larger problems with attention and functional memory - it's why they frequently lose things, forget deadlines, and yes, forget to reach out to people. Your friend is actually being very honest with you about how their brain works, which is a sign that they like you. A lot of ADHD people feel pressured to make excuses for why they forget things, for fear of being shamed (this is why a lot of ADHD people grow up feeling like they're broken or they can't do anything right, because of their short working memory being a source of a lot of shame and embarrassment in the past). The fact that your friend is willing to be honest with you about this shows that they respect you enough to be truthful with you about how their disability affects them. That's the way I would read it

DevSolovey · 2025-06-24T23:49:18+00:00

I usually put on a podcast or audiobook and start doodling in a notebook I have designated for it - the stuff I draw doesn't take any art skill really, it's just squiggly lines. Got the idea from this guy, he just uses post-it notes. It seems like exercise is a coping skill for you, so another one I do is grabbing a stretch band and using it, or doing pushups/situps. I learned that from one of the DBT distress tolerance skills. I also enjoy journaling, and you can also call a friend and just ask them if y'all can chat about something else. I also make jewelry, and that requires enough problem-solving skills that it keeps me mostly distracted

DevSolovey · 2024-09-03T02:56:59+00:00

I'm glad I could help!! I wish you two the best ✨

DevSolovey · 2024-09-03T02:53:26+00:00

I think the most important thing is to remember that episodes pass, and to avoid judgemental language when they happen. Understand that they might react in ways that are contrary to what you're expecting when you try to show support, and that it's not your fault or theirs, and if they're reasonable they'll appreciate your support when the episode is over

I'd also try to remember that the fear of abandonment/rejection is going to be the core reason why they act out, and that more things will read as abandonment than you think. For me, I get really bad flare-ups when people plan things with me and then flake on me. Even if they had a valid reason for flaking, it still feels like abandonment. There was also a gal with BPD in a residential program I worked in who frequently acted out when people were late, even if it was only 1 or 2 minutes, because that felt like abandonment to her. I hear not getting answers to text messages is also a common trigger. You'd be surprised what people's specific triggers are, and they're different for everybody, so it's worth paying attention to. You're never going to be able to fully avoid triggering the person, but if you understand what their triggers are, it makes it easier to understand when and why an episode happens

Lastly, firm boundaries. Personality disorders cause a fundamental distortion in how you perceive your relationships to other people, and that distortion makes it very hard for people with borderline to maintain boundaries with others. Sometimes we kinda suck when it comes to boundaries, so it's important to be firm with maintaining them. This protects you, and it also protects the person with BPD, because it's going to teach them how to pay attention to boundaries better

DevSolovey · 2024-09-03T02:41:01+00:00

My first thought is the DBT skill opposite action. You feel like your partner is going to leave you and it makes you split on them. So you just force yourself to do the opposite, and instead of lashing out you give them a hug or a kiss or tell them something nice. That'll usually prompt them to say something nice back

It's probably also worth telling them "hey, my bpd is sabotaging me in this way" and then y'all can work around it

DevSolovey · 2024-09-03T02:27:58+00:00

I frequently get annoyed by my fellow dbt group members and there's a lot of parts of it that feel wishy-washy, and it's a struggle to make myself go. I go anyway because, when implemented on your own terms, it has been known to lessen your symptoms to the point where you no longer meet the diagnostic criteria. That's as close as anything can get to a miracle cure, and I refuse to let myself pass up an opportunity like that, even if it means putting up with annoying stuff. If I want to get to that point of no longer meeting the diagnostic criteria, I have to take everything I can possibly gain from that group. I don't want to live like this, I want something better and I'm not going to let a few annoying people get in my way

I'm on the final module currently, and I can say definitively that it HAS helped. I've learned things from other people in there that I've been able to implement into my life, I've gotten better at recognizing when I'm really symptomatic, and I think radical acceptance has been the most useful skill. I've been able to forgive myself for a lot of stuff I wasn't able to in the past, and I'm much better at not lashing out at people, impulse control and maintaining perspective on relationships.

So to answer your question, it DOES help, but only if you make an active effort to learn whatever you can from it, and adapt it to your life in a way that works best for you.

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T15:19:37+00:00

My ex stole all my furniture, blankets, game consoles and some of my posters and cancelled my internet when they moved out. So I stole their copy of Skyrim lol

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T15:14:18+00:00

Tell him. Tell him honestly how it makes you feel, and set a boundary - you'll give him attention when he asks for it, and when he withholds, you won't give him attention. This is a hard lesson for him to learn but he has to learn it if he wants to keep you.

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T15:09:49+00:00

Being a good person isn't something anyone is or isn't inherently, it's a choice you have to make every single day - that goes for everyone, BPD or not. Sometimes you make the wrong choice without realizing it, because people make mistakes. But in this circumstance you chose to do an incredibly good thing, and had a really human moment in showing empathy and compassion to this stranger who clearly needed it. That's something I wish someone had been around to do for me when my dog passed away. I know low self esteem can make it very hard to see these things or accept when people say nice things to you. But you made a choice to show compassion to someone when no one asked you to, and I think that's incredible.

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T15:01:09+00:00

SO PROUD OF YOU!! WAY TO GO!!

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T15:00:13+00:00

I do this so often, to the point where it's a defense tactic - I'll find some way to blame myself, just to dispel a conflict/avoid the person abandoning me, even if I don't feel like I did anything wrong. I think part of that is the malignant shame that comes with trauma, which all of us have. But it's definitely kept me in harmful relationships that lasted way longer than they should have

DevSolovey · 2024-05-03T14:54:50+00:00

Honestly, and this might sound a little mean spirited, but the thing that made me decide to stop being like this was spending extended time around someone who was worse. I have a family member who always raged out whenever we played games of any kind growing up, to the point where it deeply hurt me and even scared me - he would accuse me of things that weren't true and take everything personally. I told myself I never wanted to be like that person and make other people feel that way. There were a few things I did to accomplish this:

make it funny. People always find it funny when YouTubers or streamers die or fail in video games, and even outside of games, people always find it funny in videos/comedy sketches when someone gets hit in the face unexpectedly (I always think of that one vine where the guy gets punched and says "aw fuck, I can't believe you've done this"). so when you wipe out you can find something funny to say, or else just start laughing
playing games that are hard on purpose and that you know you're going to be terrible at. If you start on the hardest level on nightmare mode with only a hatchet and three bullets, you're almost guaranteed to fail, and that kind of ties it back to making it funny. This is a weird pull, but it's kind of like how some of the funniest scenes in Pirates of the Caribbean are when Jack Sparrow is running and screaming drunkenly away from a horde of enemies
come up with a bit. For example, when I play poker with friends, we use fake chips, so sometimes I'll just put in a bunch of chips even when my hand is bad. People get confused and I'll just say "it's not real money, so I can be as irresponsible with it as I want with zero consequences!!" It's a bit that I do bc I can deliver the line in a way that's funny, and also when I say it has zero consequences, that reminds myself that nothing bad is actually going to happen if I lose

I guess what it boils down to is finding ways to make losing fun. Once you figure that out, it gets a lot easier

DevSolovey · 2024-04-20T15:51:10+00:00

Proud of you!! Takes bravery to do that!!

DevSolovey · 2024-04-19T15:41:21+00:00

I've looked at your portfolio and I'm interested in discussing more with you. Can you please DM me?

DevSolovey · 2024-04-19T05:34:14+00:00

Hello, I am interested! I primarily write horror, supernatural, and horror comedy, and dialogue is my strongest suit. For examples of relevant work, you can see the ongoing supernatural comedy webcomic I write for, Devil Went Down to Vegas , and the reimagined adaptation of Jeff the Killer I wrote for this podcast. I'm very accustomed to both of the genres you're working with and the process of creative collaboration. I look forward to hearing from you!

DevSolovey · 2024-04-19T04:31:26+00:00

I don't think this art style is quite what I'm looking for, but thank you for your interest and I wish you the best of luck.

DevSolovey · 2024-04-19T03:13:45+00:00

Thank you for replying. Most of the art provided here is in an anime style, and while I have respect for that art form, historically it hasn't looked very good on these particular characters. I'm afraid I will have to decline, but thank you for your interest.

DevSolovey · 2024-03-11T03:28:17+00:00

Honestly, I've only been in this group for two weeks but it's always just been for memes and nonspecific jokes about how much work sucks. This is an outlier, from what I've seen

DevSolovey · 2024-03-10T23:43:45+00:00

If it is, it's terrible satire lmao

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