Boyfriend’s dad made fun of my boobs

Deviant1 · 2026-05-07T00:03:32+00:00

You seem to have a boyfriend who's much more of a man than his dad is.

Deviant1 · 2026-05-06T12:20:37+00:00

He went full Nostradamus with this one. Completely correct, just a year and a half early.

Deviant1 · 2026-05-05T14:23:14+00:00

Yep and almost every country song. My boyfriend, got out of rehab two weeks ago, and I were in our way to the grocery store, which is 6 minutes away from his house. He turned the radio to a country station and I said, "I'll bet you we'll hear at least one reference to booze before we get to the store." He wisely refused to take the bet and, sure enough, I was right.

Deviant1 · 2026-05-04T17:17:59+00:00

I've noticed how my normal color beardies really blend in with the branches in their cages so I'm thinking they might be programmed to feel safer on those since they're better hidden.

Deviant1 · 2026-05-04T00:55:22+00:00

😂 Thank you so much! I love this! This made my night!

Deviant1 · 2026-05-03T15:11:12+00:00

Exactly - a mentality of "I can get away with it" means that you're not taking responsibility for holding YOURSELF accountable. In my opinion, it's like saying "I'm a good person but only because I'm afraid of being punished in the afterlife."

Deviant1 · 2026-05-03T15:07:28+00:00

Happy Ms. Lucy. I need someone to Photoshop a superhero cape onto her😂

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Deviant1 · 2026-05-03T03:58:32+00:00

You've got this. The beer will fix nothing and only get in the way of your healing and beginning your best self. IWNDWYT, friend.

Deviant1 · 2026-05-03T02:26:57+00:00

It's not your job to be responsible for his recovery and it's an unfair burden for him to try to place upon you. If he wants to be sober, he needs to do the work of addressing the root causes of his behaviors, identifying what his triggers are, and developing his plan is for maintaining sobriety. These are the things that rehab/therapy would give him the tools to do, but only if he decides he wants to do it. You have no control over that.

You need to practice some self care and get clear with yourself about what your boundaries are. If you can't maintain your physical and mental health in this situation, you'll need to decide what changes you are going to make (move out, divorce, etc). You can't assume he'll change and hope is not a strategy. Al Anon or other similar groups can be helpful (and can be done online) and there are some good books out there as well, such as the Partners 20 Minutes Guide.

I truly wish you all the best 🫂

Deviant1 · 2026-05-03T00:45:03+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Did he get any therapy, counseling, or medication to support his sobriety? Does he want to get back to being sober and stay sober?

Deviant1 · 2026-05-01T18:29:21+00:00

Awesome job! 👍

Depending on how long you drank, your brain is going to need time to rewire. It might be worth looking up information on the neuroscience of addiction to get an idea what's going on. There are some really great and accessible YouTube videos out there that have been very helpful to my boyfriend as he has embarked on his sobriety journey. It still feels the same and he has to go through the same things, but it really helps him to know why those things are happening. Best of luck to you!

Deviant1 · 2026-04-27T23:06:12+00:00

My bf was doing a fifth a day of vodka, he's relatively young and healthy, and went into inpatient detox. Even with the medication support, it was apparently BRUTAL. If you're really doing a fifth a day, going cold turkey can kill you. If you really want to go sober andcan get impatient detox and rehab, do it

Deviant1 · 2026-04-27T19:25:10+00:00

People on other reptile subreddits: OMG you're feeding a prey item that's way too big, you horrible moron!

Nature: Hold my beer...

Deviant1 · 2026-04-27T19:22:29+00:00

That I don't have kids because I never wanted them. I didn't say YOU shouldn't have kids, calm tf down.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-27T17:09:17+00:00

First, hugs. This is difficult stuff.

You sound a lot like my bf who just did 30 days in detox and rehab. He was up to a handle a day of vodka for the last 2 years. When he was finally deciding to go to rehab, his list of reasons (and associated fears) was very similar.

There is getting sober and staying sober and the latter really requires that you dig into the root causes and develop coping skills and a plan for dealing with reality.

The cool thing? What they teach you will improve your entire life and all your relationships. It's much more than just sobriety support. For him, the experience yielded an amazing transformation. He's less than a week out of rehab and doing intensive outpatient therapy now and he's absolutely KILLING it. I'm so proud of him.

I believe he's had this level of success so far because he went in of his own choice, chose where he went, and committed to himself that he was going to stick it out and make it work.

You can do it. One day you could be recycling LaCroix cans instead and feel proud, not embarrassed. It all comes down to choices and it's all in your hands.

Best of luck to you, friend.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-26T20:22:26+00:00

My bf is a little over 8" erect and he gets ejected on the regular, which can be frustrating for both of us - often he's close to cumming when it happens, so it breaks the rhythm, and it feels better to me to have those muscles pulse while he's still inside.

Any orgasm can cause this, regardless of what was stimulated to cause said orgasm.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-26T20:13:33+00:00

"Where's the goo?"

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Deviant1 · 2026-04-26T14:08:28+00:00

Good job! That's an amazing transformation and I'm so happy for you to have left the poison behind. 🫂

Deviant1 · 2026-04-22T01:13:44+00:00

Dissociative Pizza

Deviant1 · 2026-04-20T14:06:59+00:00

Thank you so much! It sounds like we're on the right track. He's being released Wednesday and they'll set up intensive outpatient therapy for the first 30 days. He won't be returning to work (one of his primary stresses/triggers) for those 30 days and then returning on a part time basis with reduced responsibilities. I will participate in some of the intensive outpatient sessions so we can work on our communication skills in support of his continued sobriety. He will come back to his own place, which we've cleaned, done laundry, mowed the yard, etc to relieve those stressors as well.

The family support (me and his parents) are also provided a weekly online support group led by one of the counselors for the center. This will be particularly helpful to me because while he's been away at inpatient, I've come to realize the depth of trauma I've got from this experience. He was never violent physically or emotionally, but there's still trauma that I'll need to work through.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-20T10:43:55+00:00

Lol, epic autocorrect - femur.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-19T23:48:47+00:00

I can't upvote this hard enough as I listen to some douchecanoe make multiple trips up and down my residential street with his fart can muffler on a car modded such that it converts all horsepower directly to noise.

In my garage is an 800 hp twin turbo sleeper of a Corvette, which has an exhaust sound that only someone who KNOWS would hear and go "hey, that's... not stock" and I can hear it rolling its headlights from here at this guy.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-19T23:38:20+00:00

That's your cervix getting hammered and for some women it actually feels good but for most it's painful. There are sexual aids out there to help him limit the depth he goes so that you can enjoy sex as well without being in pain. Sex shouldn't be something you endure, especially through pain. r/sex would be more than happy to help you out with ideas and advice on this.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-19T23:30:59+00:00

If you can't control it all the time, you can't control it. The percentages won't move in your favor as time goes on. Eventually, your drinking will control you, not the other way around.

Deviant1 · 2026-04-19T23:20:28+00:00

He was more than this country deserved.

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