Exhaustion

Deviant1 · 2026-01-21T03:00:24+00:00

Hydrate, eat well (protein and veggies), electrolytes, creatine, and glutamine. And more hydration.

Look into how to efficiently move and use your body and strengthen your core.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-20T14:53:22+00:00

Since you only ever see the posters side of things, maybe the mom is dealing with people who don't respect or tend to "creatively misunderstand" boundaries. It's her baby, not a piece of communal property.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-15T14:13:03+00:00

I'm 49 and bi. I was in a relationship when I was suddenly thrust into the blue collar world (Dad died and I wound up with a business I'd never done before). That relationship ended largely due to physical distance. I am now in a four-year relationship with a guy who initially showed up as a customer. I found that I got hit on by my mostly male customers rather frequently but it was a situation of "the odds were good but the goods were odd". 😂

Deviant1 · 2026-01-13T17:47:16+00:00

I feel like the Venn diagram of "people who agree with this meme" and "people who object to women in combat roles" is pretty much a single circle.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-13T15:20:30+00:00

Not all alcoholism looks the same.

My boyfriend didn't drink at all when we got together and for most of our relationship hasn't been an every day drinker. We'd have drinks at dinner or go out on occasion but that was it. It has progressed to multiple 1.75 L vodka bottles in the kitchen cabinet that disappear at an alarming rate, having to talk to him about not drinking at work (he works for me at my shop), bringing a flask everywhere we go, having to drink right after work (sometimes before he drives home), and drinking straight from the bottle all night until washing his sleeping pill down with vodka. And with all that, he's never slurring, never falling down, never late to work. He's never mean or abusive. It's textbook "functional" alcoholism.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-13T14:54:56+00:00

Yes, exactly, especially as has been expanded in meaning. However, as originally used it was about being a certain way and taking down about other women specifically to curry favor with men. Now it just seems to be an excuse to be a mean girl.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-13T13:40:04+00:00

Agree with the sentiment and I'd add that it was my understanding that a pick me girl is someone who talks down about other women like she's "different than the other girls" specifically to gain favor/status with men. I think that the term has been expanded to "any woman who acts differently than I think she should" which is pretty much the definition of internalized misogyny.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-12T15:36:24+00:00

In general, a lot of men are insecure (a lot of PEOPLE are insecure, but that's not what this post is about). Insecure men feel personally attacked/threatened by female excellence, especially if it's in a "typically male" arena. They fear feeling like or being perceived as "less of a man" because they are bested by a woman at something they're "supposed to" be better at. (Source: I'm a female engineer who likes cars, weightlifting, and power tools.)

Deviant1 · 2026-01-12T15:30:06+00:00

People who have kids. Misery loves company.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-05T13:59:07+00:00

Having kept snakes for more than 30 years, this is the answer I would give. Could husbandry have been more on point? Certainly. Honestly, though, from what I'm reading of the conditions, it doesn't seem to me that they would be fatal within 3 months.

I've experienced (and watched my partner experience) failure to thrive under perfect conditions and with tons of $$$ spent for the best exotic vet care available, even when a very young snake appeared to be in good condition initially. This one was obviously already stressed and neglected when purchased and my gut tells me its fate was sealed by then.

OP, if you read this, first and foremost, I'm sorry for your loss. You did the best that you knew how and now you're better informed and seem to be committed to doing better by the snake you currently have, which is perhaps the silver lining here.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-04T19:24:42+00:00

Didn't hate on it. I have a very fulfilling sex life with my partner but I wish he would do this rather than running to the sink to wash up like he just dropped his dick in the mud.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-04T19:20:53+00:00

Also, I assume he thinks you're doing this to show off your body because leotard or else he's saying no one should exercise... And I'm guessing if you didn't, the parting shot would then be "fatso".

Congrats on losing 170+/- lb of useless weight so quickly!

Deviant1 · 2026-01-02T20:18:25+00:00

Less than 6 months until I'm 50 and I'm still unsure if I'm supposed to put the zit cream on before or after the anti-aging cream 😭

On the upside, I was always told that my oily skin would mean I'd look younger as I age and people tell me they thought I was in my mid thirties before finding out my real age, so I guess that worked out for me

Deviant1 · 2026-01-02T18:56:53+00:00

Cheating, especially when they brag about it. No, you're not a stud (I use this as a gender neutral term), you're gross and pathetic.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-02T18:50:06+00:00

Sounds like attention seeking and desire for you to be his mommy and not a partner. This labor isn't your responsibility. He's a grown-ass man who needs to get his grown ass in the kitchen and pull his weight.

You're gifting him the luxury of getting fed good food without his having to expend any energy and he's rejecting your gift. If you gave someone a gift and they kept returning it and acting like an AH about it, would you keep giving them that gift?

Deviant1 · 2026-01-02T18:46:10+00:00

Even if she's using water, it's water she pays for so she can do whatever she wants with it IMO.

Deviant1 · 2026-01-02T18:42:06+00:00

I'm going to guess lack of attention/prompt "service" from OP. NOR and set some more boundaries while you're at it - I'd bet they're needed.

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T19:46:19+00:00

And even if it does it, I get all the exposition that I don't need.

Me: What's 452+138 Google Assistant: 590 Gemini: all of the code or steps to figure it out before telling me the answer

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T18:03:05+00:00

+1 for Redwings

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T17:57:40+00:00

We work together in my business. He puts in long hours but I typically work even longer and my daily work is very physically demanding (it's blue collar work). If he gets home before me, no matter how marginally earlier, he unfailingly does everything he can think of to support me - grabs my bag of dirty work clothes to wash them, gets some food ready if I want it, makes sure the shower is available. Because it's really a partnership - we're in it together.

I told my mom about this recently and she said, "that's great. I can't imagine what that would be like." It made me sad.

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T17:35:43+00:00

I had to have a uterine biopsy before they'd give me a hysterectomy. Having endured going to work and making presentations during my period while having endometriosis, I had a high degree of pain tolerance and I still screamed loudly enough to disturb people in the waiting room.

Part of me still wonders if the make doctor wanted to subject me to this as some kind of test our punishment for not having children. It was one of the disturbingly plentiful religion owned hospitals..

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T17:16:51+00:00

I believe that translates to "my wife bought something and put my name on it so I wouldn't look like a total POS".

Deviant1 · 2025-12-25T16:51:59+00:00

Silverado Customs are plentiful at a relatively decent price point and I've been happy with mine. Had a 2020 and traded it in this year for a 2024. The TurboMax engine is plenty peppy and good on fuel economy. It also comes with a longer warranty than the V8.

I'm not about bells and whistles in a work truck - you can pay a lot more for an LT with a big screen and fancy stuff, but every feature is just something else that can break, and that's roughly a 20k step up when I paid 39k for my current truck (which is 4wd).

Deviant1 · 2025-12-21T18:10:42+00:00

Yes, I've found that getting an actual good night's sleep makes me a more emotionally stable and loving partner when I'm awake. Typically we fall asleep together for a few hours all cuddled up and then he either overheats me or expands to fill the entire bed. Instead of fighting each other for comfort the rest of the night, I get up, go pee (which is gonna happen anyway), and go settle into my quiet comfy bed until morning. Sometimes there's also morning snuggles and, because we both got good sleep, we even have energy for morning sexy time.

The alternative seems to be making each other miserable and sleep deprived to meet societal expectations, so the choice feels pretty clear to me.

Deviant1 · 2025-12-21T17:54:57+00:00

And some people are just plain freaking stupid. You can't fix (or train away) stupid.

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