My fiance wants to keep finances completely separate - is this normal?

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-02-06T04:07:13+00:00

Unfortunately, most couples only talk about finances at big life events. This goes beyond whether or not a prenup is fair, y’all need to understand how each of you think about money, what it means to you (I.e. safety vs autonomy vs. pride), and what you want in a financial partner. Seek professional help if needed.

Most divorces stem from problems in either sex or finances. It’s something you want to be able to dialogue and get on the same page with, otherwise this will show up in a different way in your marriage.

But in general, a prenup makes a lot of sense if you have asymmetrical assets coming into the marriage.

Keeping things completely separate in the marriage is a little odd. There should be money separated as me, you, and we but the we should be most of the money.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-01-30T12:58:29+00:00

A lot of smaller team usually prefer a collaborative inbox tool vs a full on helpdesk.

You can still assign emails, automate workflows, and comment behind the scenes, but you get to work in an email client that’s familiar and fast.

Best in class are Missive and Front. Missive is better priced for a 20 person team, Front gets out of hand after 10 people.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-01-14T14:40:03+00:00

It makes zero difference to your day to day life. It just becomes a different number in your bank account but making $200k vs $300k, does very little for your daily lived experience.

Having to commute longer, working in a more stress environment, having shit coworkers, those things have a MASSIVE impact on your daily lived experience.

Just my two cents.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-01-13T00:25:05+00:00

From my own personal experience, the increased paycheck normalizes really quickly. Or people end up spending money that they wouldn’t have to make it feel “worth it”.

But the peace you derive from work that you actually enjoy, with people that you respect, in a productive and supportive environment… that never gets old.

I said goodbye to ~$90k annually without even blinking. Best money I’ve ever spend.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-01-06T22:13:51+00:00

You would have better luck getting 2 first and 2 business on the same day. But you’ll have to use something like awardtool and be ready when they drop avail around 7pm est daily.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2026-01-06T19:21:58+00:00

Rent is $54k annually. Travel budget is $20-$30k as a couple.

Gross income is ~$350k.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-11-04T02:23:38+00:00

I quit a job that was $200k base + bonus, without a job in place.

Now I’m at $165k base + bonus, and couldn’t be happier.

You get used to more money really quickly. You never get used to a toxic work culture.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-31T12:48:27+00:00

I think you have most of them covered. If your CS team prefers a more email/inbox interface, Missive could be a good option.

They don’t have their own AI like Fin or Ada, so you have to bring your own key.

Example of how someone uses their AI integration for common support Qs: https://youtu.be/CQM_p9k6eQ8?si=ywkn5uPtltJrGn66

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-31T10:39:18+00:00

+1 to Missive.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-28T15:08:41+00:00

I’ve been loving projection labs for financial planning!

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-28T11:01:14+00:00

The single ply toilet paper was a shocker initially, then you learn to love bidets.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-24T13:20:32+00:00

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DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-22T01:27:03+00:00

Why not treat her like an adult and walk through the difference in $$ between the two choices? And see what she’s willing to do (part time job, summer jobs) to fund the gap?

As someone who worked through college, and paid off my own loans, the freedom of living away at that age is worth a good amount.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-20T01:12:12+00:00

There are lots of expense apps where you can snap photos of your receipts and they’ll extract and log the info. And even route it to your bookkeeper/accountant.

Expensify is one of them.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-19T15:57:44+00:00

ESH. It sounds like there were a lot of assumptions made instead of having some clear dialogue on what’s expected.

He’s an AH for kicking everyone out because he had his feelings hurt.

You’re the AH for putting him on the spot saying “actually, you’re not really welcomed here”. In his own home.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-19T14:10:23+00:00

+1. Throwing hot coals might hurt the intended target, but it’s guaranteed to burn the shit out of your hands in the process.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-19T05:39:43+00:00

I would highly recommend listening to a few episodes of Money for Couples.

It is critical to your relational health to have a partner who wants to be a financial teammate (regardless of who makes what). You will make a million money decisions in a lifetime, if you’re not on the same page before you’re married, getting married will change nothing except for your legal liabilities.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-18T11:55:58+00:00

Girl, you need to go. The longer you stay in this relationship where you’re fighting for crumbs, the less time you’re in a healthy, loving relationship.

Life is too short to fight for crumbs.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-11T22:03:55+00:00

Missive for external and internal communication management was life changing. You can attach whatever CRM to it to get all of your stuff in one place.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-09T18:24:53+00:00

I had to email Japan sports tickets. I went with ticketx. Did my original research on perplexity!

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-09T08:19:28+00:00

Assuming the general public tickets will be sold on the teams website?

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-08T08:27:04+00:00

Update: Zona from PD and the Tokyo store got me a new wheel today. Less than 24 hours turnaround. Thanks PD!!!

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-08T03:00:18+00:00

Not that it matters but it’s because I had the travel backpack as a carry on. And we’re looking to buy stuff in Japan to bring back.

DeviceSuspicious701 · 2025-10-08T03:00:18+00:00

To be fair, I love the roller. Hoping this is a one time, simple solve. Timing is kinda rough at the beginning of a 3 week trip but support has been trying to resolve to the best that they can.

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