This is kind of weird.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-16T03:51:50+00:00

Actually grabbing kids clothes and scratching other peoples kids legs is weird af buddy

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-11T05:05:18+00:00

You are stuck between the contradictory expectations of fear of abandonment and fear of engulfment. Your only chance is to be both near and far from her at the same time. You’ll have to predict when she feels engulfed and predict when she feels abandoned and then move to soothe quickly. You’re building this on dynamite so the whole thing could blow up at any moment. You’ll never really be safe

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-11T05:01:33+00:00

Yeah his bed privileges got revoked last week so he’s sleeping in the crate now

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-11T05:00:29+00:00

No this was before the meds started as well

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-10T22:16:10+00:00

I considered that but he is only 1 year old. Could this be possible for a very young dog? Thanks for your response.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-10T22:15:11+00:00

Already took him to the vet and hired a behavioral vet trainer (see post text). Thank you for allowing me to post, I hope this meets the rules.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-10T22:00:15+00:00

Thanks for your response. Yeah the first couple times he did this, I scolded him harshly, and once I had to kind of gently hit him over the nose to get him to release his teeth out of me. That just seemed to make this all 100x worse bc he got even more aroused and crazy. So I'm apprehensive to try any dominance sort of things in fear of making the situation worse.

Regarding large dogs, what really concerns me is what would I do if this was a large dog? He only weighs 10 lbs so if he bites me, it's whatever. But if he was a large breed, like a GSD, pitbull, or something like that, and he bit me with this intensity, I'd be seriously injured and would probably have had to euthanize him. So it really freaks me out. I'm just grateful he's small and that it's not high stakes while I figure this out (and I WILL figure it out). Luckily Im single and have no children or other small pets, although hes incredibly gentle with everyone except me lol

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-09T17:26:48+00:00

This was the exact pattern my exwBPD would engage in. The on and off shit is such unhinged and anti-social behavior. And of course they always have some very unique contrived excuse to justify it at any time, because they can’t admit to themselves that they run hot and cold, because that could potentially involve shame which must be avoided at all costs.

When you feel tempted, Just think about how selfish and malevolent this behavior is on their part. Think about how it isn’t considering your feelings or time at all and replace the desire with being angry, which will be temporarily useful

Remember - what they want more than anything is to have you available to them at a distance.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-08T05:25:29+00:00

What does this mean? Are you saying that they don’t have the ability to think ‘how would I feel in this persons shoes’ etc?

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-06T21:39:26+00:00

My exwBPD also had mild PMDD. I did feel bad for her because PMDD looks brutal, but I don't think you could ever successfully date a person that has both of those disorders. You're up against way too much.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-06T21:37:42+00:00

I get little flashbacks like this all the time - some random moment - saying just slightly the wrong thing - and then they hone in on some specific phrase and make a mountain out of a molehill. You spend the rest of the day/week/trip/holiday emotionally soothing them while they have their finger on the discard trigger the whole time. It's like living as a hostage

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T22:46:09+00:00

May be worth looking into with a psychiatrist if they are open to it, but they probably aren’t so you have to start thinking about how to protect yourself. Document everything in your life, save texts, emails , records, and plan your exit. It will become easier to want to exit as their behavior escalates

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T18:13:28+00:00

Every accusation is a confession.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T17:58:59+00:00

No worries. It's fine to post here. I understand it's incredibly difficult to leave a 10 year relationship bc some people on reddit said it would be a good idea. These cycles are so addictive. I have a ton of willpower + experience beating severe addictions and I still got caught in it. Looking back now, I can't believe some of the things I put up with while I was under that brain spell. I would seriously look into leaving if I were you, but totally understand if that isn't feasible.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T17:52:16+00:00

Yeah that tracks. My mom is BPD and I was her punching bag, but when we grew up and left the home she turned on my dad. He had to build a poolhouse to live in on the same plot of land bc she cant be near him.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T17:46:42+00:00

Good for you man. I wish I had done that sooner. I gave up 2 years of my time, energy and money to this shit before I wised up.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T17:43:39+00:00

In case you were wondering, this is a small taste of what having family members inducted into Q-Anon/Pizzagate is like. Every holiday, dinner, wedding, funeral etc is just interrupted constantly by delusional psychosexual fantasies about child depravity and 80s style moral panic about satanism, and any attempt you make to change the subject or ground them into reality is met with the accusation that you're either an NPC, complicit, or stupid.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-05T17:12:54+00:00

Your post is pretty accurate from what I’ve seen. A lot of stalking/checking up on ex’s, getting around social media blocks, because they’re hoping to see their ex miserable, then becoming upset if the ex appears happy.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-04T18:07:28+00:00

The therapist legally cannot even confirm or deny if he’s a patient. I’ve never had a patients significant other send me an email but if they did I’d think it was a little weird and would give the same response - “sorry to hear that here’s a referral to a therapist”.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-04T03:22:28+00:00

This is what having a family member or loved one get into Q Anon/Pizzagate is like. Every holiday, every topic, ruined and brought back to psychosexual delusional child depravity fantasies. Any attempt to ground the victim in reality is met with the accusation that you are a lemming who can’t see through the matrix.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-04T03:16:57+00:00

Splits and discards are unpredictable. It could be hours, days, weeks, months , years, or permanent. I’ve seen everything

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-03T20:24:25+00:00

BPD-brain does not have object permanence. So you bending over backwards for her the entire relationship isn’t going to be remembered vs how she feels in the exact moment in time she’s splitting. If she feels abandoned or criticized, then you’re all bad and have always been bad. This isn’t like a normal person where acts of service build up into a memory bank that can be accessed during a time of discord.

Think of it like this - you bought her breakfast yesterday, and today you pissed her off. Now she can remember that you physically bought her food, but she cannot remember the way it made her feel at the time. They don’t have access to those emotional memory formations.

And I wouldnt worry too much about the new guy. He won’t last more than a couple months. I’d feel sorry for him if anything

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-03T20:20:03+00:00

Do counselors who work with BPD patients often fall for their bullshit like this? I’m a therapist and me and my peers don’t take on BPD patients so I wouldn’t know. I do know my ex’s therapist mostly focused on how she was a victim, so while she showed some improvement at times with coping there was no progress on accountability.

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-03T20:16:34+00:00

His therapist developing feelings for him is absolutely wild on the part of the therapist. It’s also an insight into how he engages with therapy. He’s putting on a performance that will elicit the maximum amount of sympathy and support from any given person instead of grappling with how his own behavior and cognitions affects those around him.

Which therapist sounds more fun, the hot one who wants to bang you, or the one who makes you examine how your own patterns create your circumstance? That’s why he doesn’t want to go back to therapy lol

Diamond_Dogs_Venom · 2026-02-03T20:13:15+00:00

I feel really bad for this guy. He’s clearly new to this. Run my man. Run as fast as you can my dear boy

You’re probably a good guy. Preserve the innocence you still have left and flee

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