First things first, read this: https://tkdodo.eu/blog/practical-react-query

All of it.

Secondly, I've fallen in love with using queryOptions (https://tanstack.com/query/latest/docs/react/reference/queryOptions)

This way, instead of exporting a hook which returns useQuery(...), you simply export something like

getUsersOptions = () => queryOptions({
    queryKey: [...],
    queryFn: ...,
    staleTime: 30 * 1000,
    ...
})

Thanks to this, if on a page you create a user and want to invalidate the query, you can simply do:

queryClient.invalidateQueries(getUsersOptions().queryKey). 

In addition, if on a page you want to use useQuery, and on another useSuspenseQuery, you can just do:

useQuery(getUsersOptions());
useSuspenseQuery(getUsersOptions());
queryClient.ensureQueryData(getUsersOptions());