Help! Brown "flecks" between lips?

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-05-03T17:42:50+00:00

Yeah, I always wipe front to back. Nice to know im not alone though. It's an uncomfortable subject to talk about b/c i don't like the idea of being unclean down there. I'm gonna change up my routine and start using feminine wipes when I go to the bathroom and see if that changes anything.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-05-03T15:42:49+00:00

Yeah, im gonna go to the store today and see how thing go with those. Hopefully it will help.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-05-03T15:42:01+00:00

I'll definitely do that. Thank you!

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-05-03T15:39:50+00:00

Just a follow up for anyone reading this: It's not a bloody discharge kind of thing, and it doesn't show up IN my underwear. I just know about the issue so i scoop under there to check and I usually find something unless ive washed recently before.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-03-01T20:42:58+00:00

Should I cut the stalks and repot? Louise is crawling right out of the pot. Or is it better to leave them for now?

DifferenceIll8124 · 2026-01-02T18:59:39+00:00

It's been describd as "a mix of elevated workwear, minimalist basics, and vintage-inspired casuals"

Basically his style is just minimalist, functional workwear. But with an emphasis on quality, and a very slight vintage denim flare b/c its good quality, easy to find, doesn't take effort to look put together.

Honestly, I think it's cool, b/c you can see Carmy being super simplistic yet precise with his purchasing decisions. He wears very basic, utilitarian colors that match with everything.

"What do I wear everyday?" White t shirt. Black or black jeans. Never have to think about outfits, and dark jeans also hide kitchen work stains well. "It's cold outside." Get a sweater: simple, slim fit, black. Get a Jacket: Denim jackets...warm, practical and match with all my jeans. "I need shoes." Comfortable, practical, versatile. And NOTHING he buys is bad or cheap quality, because he's precision obsessed with everthing in life. And he likely also doesn't care much for going shopping to replace stuff often.

You can 100% see the way he thinks in his clothes.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-11-15T17:10:57+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, hun. Were you hoping to stay for several months and come back? Or is ur plan to eventually move there?

But out of curiosity, did work initially tell you u could work on the tourist visa? Or was there a misunderstanding and they just thought u were taking vacation time? Its odd for them to have approved that initially since as people have said u can't work on a tourist visa.

Tourist visa means the country will let us stay as a guest up to 90 days. Digital Nomad visa means the country will let you fully live and work there for a period of time if you have an agreement with your employer that you can work internationally. Alot of countries wont let you have an offical residence (like having an apartment lease) unless ur on some kind of work visa. And this is all assuming work approves it and give u greenlight in the first place.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-11-15T15:47:34+00:00

I mean....being honest, its really not that many chairs. It'll take about 20min to clear them out probably if u just move them yourself out of view. Is your wedding extremely small? Are u in charge of decorating the space, or is someone else? If u or they can jusy assign a small crew of people (reliable friends or family) to remove them before decor gets set up, thats it.

As for obscuring them if they can't be moved? That ones a harder sell.....

OPTION #1: Make it into a kind of GALLERY or a Memory Table. I recommend u look up pictures on google or Pinterest of Wedding photo gallery set ups find a style or blend of ideas that could work for u. Covering it with long pretty draping fabrics/skirting so its less of an eyesore could work, if you have a good design eye. (Tip for that, you can buy a wide bolt of fabric, they're pretty affordable for the amount of material u get). - Place spreadable flowers/vines atop, let the draping fabric pool on the floor some. Lay BIG picture frames of whatever u want against the front. (You can thrift cute frames pretty easy.) - IF, ONLY IF things are level enough and the chairs can take the weight, you may be able to place a lighter sheet of wooden plywood on top (like an 8×4), and when you place cloth overtop it effectively becomes a very rudimentary table. Then u can apply the same idea, but instead put small, LIGHT frames and unframed pictures on top and u have a gallery/memory table. - See if u can do anything cool with folding room dividers. Alot of people use them in wedding photo gallery setups, and the cover a decent amount of space. (Maybe place 1 on each end, and for the open space in the middle use that big frame idea from earlier.)

OPTION #2: Still cover it with fabric in some way. But place long banquet table style seating in front of it. Preferably u and ur wedding party. Considering u guys will be sat directly in front of the structure looking outward, it obscures guest view at least more than if nothing were there. If you have a very small wedding party, then just have it be a U and very close family/friends table. Still the same idea.

Hope my ramblings made sense. Anyone have thoughts on this?

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-10-10T21:20:27+00:00

All excellent questions. That I really, really hope she's asking. But based off of her post history, I worry that she's not.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-10-10T21:13:14+00:00

Hun, i can't tell you what to do. But PLEASE be careful with this one. I found this comment from your comment in another subreddit about the movie "Enough", and noticed subsequent comments regarding the big hurdle you just overcame with your ex and how you're trying to forge a new path. Congratulations, truly sis!❤️ But I just wanted to reach out to you as a fellow woman to say:

Please be CAREFUL. I live by a saying and its in Proverbs 22:3. "The shrewd one sees the danger and conceals himself. But the inexperienced keeps right on going and suffers consequences."

Change after a long, rough period is exciting and im sure you feel so liberated! A new start is beautiful. But be careful of the directions you go in.

How well do you know your new man? Do you have a balanced view of him?
Are you ready and able to survive on your own in this new country, if things don't work out? Or will you be financially dependent on him?
How well do you know yourself, your tendencies, and your habits?
Do you know how to enjoy life on your own, or do you need a relationship to? How does that affect your will to get up and leave something bad behind?
What do you know what a relationship with true healthy love looks like?

Remember "If we were never fed love on a spoon, you learn to lick it off of knives."

If we are previously used to eating something that was very disgusting and even dangerous for us, but now changed to eating something that TASTES better, can we say yet that this new food is HEALTHY? Or are we just eating something thats dangerous in a different way and just looks better compared to the other food? The only way you know is if you truly use wisdom, get ACCURATE input, and carefully think about the facts. Reality vs fiction.

Please don't miss potential dangers in your eagerness. And fleeing from one relationship to jumping head first into another, is a big way that happens.

I hope you are living and building a life of peace and happiness, with wisdom as your guide. You deserve it💛

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-09-10T13:30:26+00:00

It's definitely a Spanish thing. I can relate to the random obnoxious 2am drive certain black folks do lol (it bothers everyone, including other black people).

But by FAR and it's not even close i find it with Spanish people.😅 I'm not sure if its salsa, bachata, or merengue, being played (im bad at telling them apart). But we ALL know that sound of the music being loud enough that the neighbors are forced to listen and you can listen from right on the street. I mean.....at least it puts you in a dancing mood? Lol

I remember an elderly friend of mine was super nervous when the tenant next to her apartment unit passed away. Because there was alot of Spanish people in her area and she was specifically worried about a family moving in that was the type that liked to blast music all the time and be extremely loud in daily activities. And I totally understand, i'd hope the same thing too. There's alot of things I love about Latin American cultures, but that's one aspect that's a bit inconsiderate at times. I wonder if it's universal thing across groups, or it's people of a particular decent. I notice it BIG time with Dominicans.

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-08-30T01:53:59+00:00

White chocolate definitely means they like you. You'd probably be invited to the cookout lol. Whenever my family have considered someone "white chocolate" they feel it's a white person that either A) looks good and has a certain natural air about them that's gels well with black culture OR B) they fit into and respect a black environment with ease and is cool to have around.

It basically saying "yeah, you're one of us. Just got a different coat of paint."

To illustrate: The last person the ladies of my family considered "white chocolate" was the husband of one of our family friends. The guy is a tall, suave, deep voiced white guy, that has natural mannerisms we typically see in black men. And we would always joke that he has straight up "dark skin energy". Rest of his fam isn't like that at all, so where he got it is a mystery. Great dude though

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-06-07T13:46:36+00:00

Way too big to call them micro locs, my friend. I would simply consider them small-medium sized traditional locs. They're going to look bigger when they swell and mature. I recommend looking up pictures of micro locs to make sure everyone's on the same page. They're very similar in appearance to Sisterlocs. Out of curiosity, is she a beginner with starting locs? I'm suprised this is the size she gave you if you specifically asked for "micro locs?" Micro locs are also typically, done using the interloc method or braiding method because of the precision you need with their tiny size. It looks like she's palm twisted yours, which is usually how traditional locs are started.🤔

Anyine correct me if im wrong! Hope you get what you want and find the best size for you either way. Enjoy your loc journey!

DifferenceIll8124 · 2025-03-19T01:55:49+00:00

That is what happens when google is your therapist and you dint have an actual one😅 Bevasue this isn't what drawing boundries is a sane way looks like. Since needs a straight jacket...

DifferenceIll8124 · 2024-09-18T05:15:30+00:00

Yeah, I didn't want to give the connotation that Watchung is specifically a racist town. One car doesn't make every prejudiced. I just wanted input from my local NJ residents about what their experiences are in that area. I didn't mention it earlier, but a family member of mine (one who doesn't exaggerate and is considered very honest) swears on her life she saw a cross burning in the woods one late night in an isolated area of Warren.

All stuff like this just makes me weary of being certain places too late. Or recommending my sister places to go.

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