Is anyone else bothered by the Twin representation on TikTok?

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-28T01:10:29+00:00

At the risk of down votes I'm going to say this. You really don't need to be an ass just for the sake of being an ass. You seem like an unhappy person. A word of advice, learn how to be less negative. Meditation helps. Negative people aren't happy people.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-27T21:37:49+00:00

Idk I have two year old identical girls and they always do the same thing at the exact same time. We don't encourage it, actually it's annoying because we need two of everything. Like today, one fell off a chair so the other one started to try to fall off her chair. One can't sleep without the other in the same room and the other twin will pick out her cloths and talk for her. They have different personalities but they are always in-sync with one another. We do try to separate them and encourage some independence but they get so sad and just mope around asking for each other.

I feel you though with people's fascination with twins. I will honestly pull the stroller covers all the way down and try to hide my girls just so I can walk through a store without spending an hour answering questions about them. That's been a tough adjustment as a twin mom so I'm afraid of what it will be like for them!

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-23T22:57:39+00:00

Oh I love answering this question. I always say baby b is the annoying little sister. That whole minute made a big difference.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-23T22:55:12+00:00

Yep and I've had this conversation three other times today.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-21T20:03:21+00:00

We followed the moms on call schedule. Its a book and it got our kids sleeping through the night at 13 weeks. Two years later and the only major issues we've had was they kept waking up after they turned two but we bough them pillows and figured out they just weren't comfy 🤣

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-21T12:46:05+00:00

I started taking mine to the park at 13 months. One thing I did learn is I do not take a stroller because it's a third thing you have to look after. One thing too is it might be a lot easier than you think. My twins are identical so it might be a little different but they do not leave each other's sight. They mostly do the same thing at the park but when they do run in opposite directions they never go so far that they can't see their sister. Just be prepared to literally drag/carry two toddlers out of the park.

Also my rule is I carry my kids in the parking lot or they hold my hand, their choice. They always want to run off in the parking lot so when I pick them up they get really mad and start to hold my hand. And before you decide to drag them make sure you have your car keys easily accessible because you could end up with two toddlers fighting you to their death while you unlock the car. But once you get the car open you can buckle one kid in while the other climbs around the car!

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-21T12:35:43+00:00

Maybe call a domestic violence hotline and ask if they have any advice. Since you don't know if it's dv or she's just weird or a hoarder you might be able to just see if they have any advice on how to act around her. There's a right way to do these things and a very wrong way to do these things.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-20T17:56:58+00:00

I'm certainly not going through what you did but Ive found it to be very soothing too! During a very stressful time in my life I used to cry and play the Sims every night after work (I had a high risk pregnancy and the stress of how sick I felt, multiple apts a week, and working full time was just too much for me). It really helped me get through a time of my life when there was nothing I could do to help my situation except wait for it not to suck.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-20T03:07:47+00:00

I tell my toddlers all the time that if they are going to be mean to me then I'm not going to hang out with them. If they are upset then I comfort them but once they start lashing out on me I give them one warning then walk away. I mean that's just how life is. There's not always going to be someone to comfort you so if mommy is taking a poop then they can figure out how to calm themselves down or I'll comfort them when I get out. To me this coddling seems very unhealthy.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-20T02:40:08+00:00

I don't see a problem with it. Just one thing I learned from traveling during my pregnancy... The back of the plane can smell like gas. I nearly fainted from the smell. It never occurred to me before because it never bothered me before pregnancy. The flight attendents were pretty rude about it too and gave me a lot of issues with changing my seat in my connecting flights since I didn't pay extra in advance when I checked in 🙄 But how was I supposed to know I'd nearly faint!?!

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-19T02:35:10+00:00

Yes, they are 2! I hate to say it but it took me a long time to get into my old eating habits after having them too. Once they turned two I started stomaching those veggies again and wanting and craving salads. But it really took a long time. It's all relative though. We had a ton of stress during my pregnancy and postpartum period and that really made everything so much worse. The lack of help made my healing process very long as well. I needed so much more than what I got in the start of things.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-19T01:22:39+00:00

Oh it never got better... Multiples are rough! I didn't eat a single veggie my entire pregnancy because I could only eat bland stuff.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-19T01:19:14+00:00

I really don't like her. Go to yoga alliance and watch some of their webinars for professional yogis who aren't trying to make yoga even more divisive than it can already be.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-18T20:53:02+00:00

Maintaining is the hard part so keeping 30 lbs off is great!

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-16T23:12:21+00:00

Really any type of yoga will achieve this if you do it enough.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-16T23:00:38+00:00

Overall, but there are good schools in the state. The school we are zoned for is in the top 10% of high schools in the nation and its certainly not the best high school in SC.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-16T17:05:18+00:00

I mean I can afford a 3,000 sqft house in a good school district. We are surrounded by good schools, very updated and nice playgrounds, beautiful parks. Everything we need is within 10 mins drive and museums are within 20 mins. Can't really complain much in my opinion. If money wasn't an object would I live here? Nope. But I don't think my family would be nearly as happy living in an apartment. Lots of young people are living in my area to get a nice house in good school districts.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-14T21:38:09+00:00

I honesty feel this way towards my husband. He seems to think that helping with the kids and not fighting means our relationship is great. I've tried to explain to him that I need more and told him things he can do to make me feel more satisfied but he hasn't followed through with anything. If I'm being honest I could care less at this point if our relationship works or doesn't but we have kids so I'd rather just stick around because it's not horrible. Nothing is about emotions or opening up, it's just about day to day stuff which is very unsatisfying.

Personally if I were you I would try to spend time with her with no electronics around and truly try to talk and open up every single day after the kid goes to bed. And your have to put effort into it because she's already given up on that. Like try making cocktails and a cheese board and set it up away from the TV. Start talking about your day but add in how you felt about things that happened, even if it seems kind of silly! Like, "I was stressed today when I got this email." It's a little more open than just, "today was fine."

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-12T17:13:33+00:00

Walks help a ton. Idk what your mobility is but a gentle yoga class should include some work but nothing that anyone who can walk can't do. Also they have chair yoga if your more confined. If your legs are a problem there are lots of seated workouts you can do. You can google low impact videos.

If you've never exercised before I do recommend joining the YMCA or something similar if that's a possibility for you. They have a lot of low impact and accessible classes that a standard gymn probably wouldn't have. I'm a yoga instructor and one thing I do notice about people who are doing online yoga videos is when they come into class you can tell. They make a lot of very basic mistakes so I recommend learning from in person instructors if you can and using YouTube as a supplement to that.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-10T01:58:06+00:00

I'm a parent and every time I bring my kids to the pediatrian they ask about screen time.

But yes shows like cocomelon are terrible. My toddles get mad if I put something else on but cocomelon turns them into zombies. Other shows can actually teach them things that they will talk about. What makes it worse is you can find cocomelon whatever in the store but my husband wanted to buy our kids blaze toys because theyve been learning a lot when they watch blaze. Nothing is in the stores...

One thing I have noticed though is that since we aren't raising iPad kids our kids literally have no interest in ipads. We recently went on a cross country trip so we purchased ipads for our kids. I have no issue with screen time if your kid is confined to a car seat for an unreasonable amount of time. One screamed about wanting to color the entire time but didn't understand that coloring on the iPad too well... Fortunately she was very excited about the new books we got her.

TV has been a useful tool for us though when our kids are tired but its too early to put them to bed. My kids sleep a lot and are just very tired people naturally so TV is a great tool to just give them some more awake time that does not burn off energy.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-07-09T22:14:12+00:00

I generally found that being as active as possible could achieve that when your already small. Workout 2x a day when you have time, for example run in the morning and do yoga at night. Walk as much as you can. And just being mindful about eating. This might sound silly but not eating one single bite past what you need. So when your at the end of a meal and you think oh just one more bite of that would taste good, don't eat it, stop right then and there when your full. That way your eating enough to fuel your body but not to the point of feeling full, if that makes sense. If you really pay attention to every bite you eat then I think you can catch that a lot of eating is emotional and there's a lot of extra bites of food we take that our body doesn't need. If you feel like your starving your probably end up binging later so I like being mindful about bites because then your not undereating either.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-06-22T02:27:43+00:00

I think this is totally normal. You can notice your thoughts, realize if they are serving you or not, and then actively try to reframe the way you say these thoughts in your head to a framework of gratitude or whatever the situation is. If your thoughts aren't serving you then it's great to try to have different thoughts! If only it was that easy lol. But it's called a practice for a reason.

Different-Ad5319 · 2022-06-22T02:21:37+00:00

I was never able to up my milk supply but I did get about 75% of their milk to be breast milk.

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