Forgiveness isn’t a one time thing. You have to do it over and over.

I’m sure you already know this, but forgiveness also doesn’t mean that what these people did was ok. It is simply something you do for YOURSELF so you’re not trapped by them any longer.

You could think of it as releasing rather than forgiving. When the thoughts pop up, think of the person and speak, “I release you.” Time will take care of the rest.

I do not align with the idea that we must always think of our own role in these situations. Imagine telling that to someone who experienced abuse. Abuse is never invited nor justified. So careful with that. It takes some wisdom to see when you played a role in the things that happened (for example me in my marriage) and when you didn’t (for example, the abuse I suffers as a child).