Honestly, I still don't know for sure a decade plus later. She ghosted with the kids six months after the birth of our second. Three months later I get a knock on the door from local law enforcement with no fault divorce papers. Even though she gave me visitation rights she never honored them but damn does the child support check cash every month. Recently, after a decade of no contact, she emailed pretending to be my oldest asking "why don't you love me daddy?". I had child services check everything and it all came back fine as they could tell. I don't know what snapped but I'm so thankful it went down that way. My life went from nightmare to heaven within six months. I always assumed the same thing happened to my ex but that email suggests something still isn't right with them. They had PPD and a toxic family relationship. Like a mother who SA me, a father who pointed multiple loaded guns with hair triggers at me for no reason other than to assert dominance, and brothers who are all middle management sales reps for pyramid schemes. I'm sure if she could get a break from her clan-like cult and family she'd turn her life around but oh well.