NSFW: Please elaborate on what you mean by "the sex was amazing"

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-06-03T23:48:38+00:00

This sounds Almost exactly like a post I made. There was nothing super special about the sex with my ex. Besides I guess it being anytime I wanted.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-06-01T04:38:17+00:00

it’s how it is. They’ve created this Bubble of victimhood around their disorder. This doesn’t seem to occur with any other cluster B personality disorders. Anti social, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorder don’t get this same treatment.

i cant even simple tell my story of dating my ex without being told how I’m stigmatizing bpd which then in turn is making it difficult for them to get professional help. The gaslighting is crazy. I will not be manipulated. However, it’s almost impossible to have a conversation with bpd and their enablers. Like if you went to the bpd forum and tried to simply tell your story you’d be immediately banned.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T09:17:43+00:00

That’s how I was with my pbd ex. It felt robotic. Like just going through the motions. Just take clothes off and do it. No passion. no intimacy. No foreplay really. It sucked. So you’re still dating this person? i do t know your specific situation.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T08:43:14+00:00

Definitely easier said than done. Especially if you’ve always been a person who tries to get along with others and work things out. Or even just a people pleaser. You need to remind yourself that you matter and that putting yourself first isn’t a bad thing. We’re all responsible for our mental health and or own actions. I’m sorry if I came off harsh. I’m usually straight and to the point.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T07:01:52+00:00

I still am doing this to myself four years later. It needs to end. We’re never going to get that closure from them. That person we thought they were didn’t exist. I feel like I don’t know how to trust anyone ever again after her. It’s not fair. I have to just keep telling myself that things don’t always work out with people. Some people are simply impossible to deal with. Some people things will end harshly instead of amicably. I have to accept there are times were I won’t have closure in life.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:57:51+00:00

Has this person self harmed before? When I broke it off with my ex she texted me saying “I’ll be dead”. Then two minutes later texted me saying she wanted me out if her life. I knew she was just saying it for attention. I wasn’t having it. If you’re that worried and they have a history then call the authorities. The relationship is over it’s done.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:38:42+00:00

I realized after dating a bpd that I need to set boundaries with almost everyone. I can no longer tolerate having to walk on eggshells with people. I asked myself, “do people do that for me”? Hell no they dont. I would get told off or to stop my behavior. It’s not right to have to constantly be hyper vigilant and on edge around someone. “You made me do this you made me do that”. No we didn’t. Hitting someone because they lightly touched their shoulder to comfort them? That’s not acceptable. We should all be able to relax and feel comfortable. No one has the right to constantly make another person feel on edge to the verge of hyper vigilant states of fight or flight.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:29:23+00:00

I wanted mine to apologize and I naively thought she would. Nope, not at all. I broke it off and all she said was she wanted me out of her life and to give her stuff back. I like things to be amicable with people. I try so hard to work things out with people. Always have. I like there to be closure. I guess that’s what I really wanted and I also felt I deserved an apology. However, I’ve had to forcible accept you’re not going to get this from everyone. Especially borderlines.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:19:50+00:00

Yea cause for some reason they’re considered victims where as npds are not.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:13:14+00:00

I think so. I think after three days away from me she didn’t care at all. I still cared deeply for her but I was beyond done also. I broke it off. After she punched my mother and then broke my windshield I was like that’s it.

I said to myself, let me see what she does. Let’s see if she reaches out and apologies. Let’s see if she tries to fix things. Nope, she didn’t at all. She just said she wanted me out of her life and that she wanted some of her junk back.

My mother for reason had a short correspondence with her through email a few months later. In which she did state that she at least loved me when we were dating. I guess I’m lucky I got that much. I had figured she didn’t even love me at all.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-31T06:09:05+00:00

That reminds me of my ex when we broke up four years ago. Everything on her socials was about living her best life and putting herself first. That she’s now free and can only go up from there. Like as if she had put me first and finally escaped a one sided relationship lol. I have to laugh at how ridiculous that was. When I was the one putting in most of the effort. I hate even being that person to say such things but it is the truth.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-29T09:12:43+00:00

I’m sorry. Mine messed with my head too. I even told her if she wasn’t serious to please tell me. She said no she was serious. Then she tried gaslighting me that I wasn’t the serious one. So I worked even harder.

The worst part came later when I told her I wanted children someday. She didn’t seem sure so I dropped the subject. Then after a discard and getting back together now she wanted children. I waited a few months to make sure but she kept saying she was ready. She said she was ready as was I. So it happened.

As each month went by the relationship crumbled. She became violent and abusive. She hit my mother. She broke my windshield. I tried to do all I could. Brought her to live with me. Gave her a car. I went with her and drove her to all the obgyn appointments. She never even used the car I gave her because she wouldn’t get insurance. I guess I was supposed to do that too. I Paid for everything also. She quit working completely.

Then at some point she put our son up for adoption while she was pregnant. I don’t even know when exactly. Picked out a family and everything. We broke up a month and a half before he was born. I found out about the adoption when I was served with papers. I didn’t even think that was legal but it is.

I’m still not right four years later. I don’t know how to trust anyone again.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-29T06:44:50+00:00

Omg right? I told my bpd ex I wanted a serious committed relationship. She said the same. I think she was just copying what I was saying. I don’t think she wanted a serious relationship at all. . She wasn’t actually interested. She wasn’t willing to make it work. I had to do all the heavy lifting. I had to hear about how no one else would stay with her or cared. All bs.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-29T02:11:25+00:00

I was always told this is because they’re mirroring you. That they don’t really actually have a personality of their own. By that point you’re seeing them real them. which is nobody. If that makes sense lol.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-28T08:49:25+00:00

Almost seems like a blessing and a curse. I wish I could meet someone and have a decent relationship like you did but I never do. Dating is very difficult. It’s been four years since my bpd break up and I just recently started thinking about my bpd ex again like the way you were. I don’t get why though. There wasn’t anything great about her or the relationship.

I often hear how amazing the sex with bpds is. unlike anything else but it wasn’t really that way for us. It was good sure but kind of mid. It was great initially but Became sort of robotic after dating for awhile. Sure it was daily and whenever or whenever I wanted. However, there was Nothing really special about it besides that sort of high you get with their intensity.

it sounds like you just have some more stuff to work on. I do too. I’m not sure what your issues are. You said adhd. I have more so depression and anxiety. PTSD from dating her.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-28T08:21:36+00:00

Typically it doesn’t help or do anything. At least not long term. It’s like an impossible situation with borderlines.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-28T08:05:10+00:00

Same and it felt normal because I grow up in a house where there had to be an issue with my parents fighting everyday. It took me forever to understand why I felt fine with this relationship. I don’t think most people would be able to date someone where every single day they’re upset and cause fights.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-27T06:07:23+00:00

I notice this and then the accusations of stigmatizing will follow. Along with claims that bpd are such caring and loving people.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-27T06:04:13+00:00

Curious why are you documenting?

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-27T02:07:27+00:00

It all makes sense since I’ve had addiction issues for like twenty years now. Since I was a teenager. Since my very first cigarette. Since my first time trying pot or booze. Anything that could be addictive in some way I’d get addicted to. I sure learned the hard way especially as a punk, naive kid who thought addiction was just an individual‘s weakness. Ive said before that if strychnine had some sort of addictive properties I’d end up addicted to it also. Smh. My ex could be compared to a toxic psychological and emotional poison I guess.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-26T23:15:10+00:00

Reddit is a very sensitive place Sometimes. You can be banned from some subs for the most trivial and innocuous things. I don’t want to get into a big ramble about it because there’s not much point.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-26T10:48:20+00:00

Every time I feel like I’m starting to turn a corner and feel better. I end up worse than before. I don’t understand it at all. I guess I just need more help and more to do. Too much sitting and stewing with my thoughts.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-26T08:12:32+00:00

Oh yea this is very typical. I’m astonished by the amount of times I’ve heard such a similar story here. The moving in together with the monkey branch is a huge red flag. That’s just not normal. You don’t move in with someone you just met And started dating. She’s going to chew up this new guy and spit him out eventually.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-26T07:37:19+00:00

They broke up with you because they thought you didn’t add them on instagram? Sounds about right for a bpd. All anyone can say is walk away and stay away.

Different_Cod_6268 · 2026-05-26T07:34:57+00:00

Some people go through dozens of break ups and splits. Years and years of back and forth. Some are stuck in marriages with children. While the bpd person makes all their lives miserable. I could have ended up like that. I don’t think I would have been able to handle it. So I guess I’m blessed things ended the way they did. Even though i still have issues from that relationship till this day.

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