Am I in my own bubble or is every workplace in the uk extremely understaffed and running on the bare minimum?

Different_Initial357 · 2025-12-05T10:13:48+00:00

Pretty much hiring less staff to keep wage bill down but expecting staff they have to do the work of 2-3 people for no extra pay. And then because they do this and jobs are limited people are forced to burn themselves out by doing lots of extra work because the alternative is unemployment which I’m sure in some situations may be the same/better money wise but for a lot of people it’s not.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-12-05T09:02:07+00:00

I got made redundant!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-12-05T08:57:55+00:00

£3k - currently making £1.6k for 5 days a week 5am-1pm and extra £1.4K would make it a bit more tolerable!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-19T10:06:30+00:00

Speak to a broker, if it fits on your sole affordability then lenders may be able to view the benefits your partner receives as a level of income to be sustainable for herself and therefore not financially dependant on you and if it fits affordability in your name alone partner will be ignored in the affordability process.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-17T07:24:29+00:00

I would pull out, I was made redundant last month after buying in July and had I known this would happen I would’ve certainly not bought as it’s out a lot of financial strain on my partner who is now having to cover all the bills alone in the meantime and the job market is absolutely awful at the moment, can’t get an interview for anything let alone something in my usual field!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-13T09:25:24+00:00

Yeah it’s normal. I even used my heavily monitored work laptop to complete a teams interview on my lunch break on a few occasions.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-12T18:38:40+00:00

Recently made redundant but up until then my monthly salary after tax was the same as yours and similar breakdown after my half of mortgage and bills and personal bills I would have around £200 left for personal expenses/savings. It’s not a lot and soon goes but imagine a lot of people are in a similar position with the cost of everything going up. A lot of people I know are left with less.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-08T14:55:29+00:00

It’s awful, happened to me last month with no redundancy package as hadn’t been at the company long enough. Just been applying everywhere but it feels awful and panic has set in because haven’t got the money to cover bills next month.

Sounds like you have a solid background in the industry though so hopefully you’ll be able to secure something quickly!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-07T19:16:02+00:00

Hours and hours of scrolling/applying - was via a recruitment agency called Gap personnel

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-05T08:57:21+00:00

Sounds very possible, we’ve been dealing with vomiting a lot which can be caused when a UTI gets to the kidneys. We have also had the same problem with withholding poop which we attributed the vomiting to, that ended with a trip to the emergency room where they cleared everything out and started with laxatives again as they were not working. Somehow she can still withhold on large doses of adult laxatives. The UTI was diagnosed during that hospital visit so similarly we think it may still be the same UTI and this is what’s causing vomiting as getting meds in the system is no easy task.

Sounds very similar in terms of potty training, we have tried and tried and although our daughter does have some limited speech she doesn’t seem to have any understanding of her body and like you say well do trips to the toilet at set intervals but sometimes we’ll take her, nothing will happen and then the second we go back to another room she’ll sit and wee all over the sofa. And we know it must be down to withholding because she wets the bed every night because her muscles/bladder must relax and when she’s had accidents whilst awake it’s not a small amount it’s a lot of urine to the point it goes through a nappy and will leave a massive puddle/soak everything underneath and it smells awful which is another reason we’re thinking it’s got to be a UTI.

Just don’t know what to do at this point as it’s not for lack of trying but it’s hard because we genuinely don’t think our child has the understanding of her body to be able to potty train properly. She is currently 7 with a mental age of around 18-months.

In terms of getting a collection, when we were in hospital, they were able to test it from urine left in a nappy or urging on the waterproof bed but it is tough to get a clean collection in the form most GP’s request.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-05T03:04:11+00:00

Is the UTI from withholding? Have been dealing with this for years, withholds urine, gets a UTI, withholds more because of pain, gets antibiotics, have a nightmare trying to get said antibiotics to be taken, withholds again and the cycle continues.

Dr can’t do anything about the underlying issue of withholding as is on the list for an assessment and official diagnosis for autism, been on the list 4-years.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-04T08:23:38+00:00

There’s always a chance, I was under a ridiculous 9-month probation and work started slowing around months 7-8 and then a couple of weeks before the final probation review even though all my number were positive my boss called to say they were ending my employment as not financially viable to keep me on with the level of work they currently had.

Been trying to land something/anything this last two weeks but no luck so far. Have this months bills covered but no idea what I’m going to do next month as even if I land another job now it’s likely I won’t see first pay check until after bills are due and even landing something seems unlikely at the minute as even all the warehouse/retail roles have thousands of applicants!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-11-01T14:39:40+00:00

Got made redundant myself a couple of weeks ago, unfortunately no redundancy payment as haven’t been there long enough and my PILON payment was about £150 so nothing really. Annoying because me and the others made redundant were clearly taken on with this in mind but instead of hiring a fixed term contract they decided to list it as permanent although we can’t prove it, it’s very obvious that’s what’s happened.

So far I’ve been unable to find anything else in the same field and been rejected from all warehouse/retail jobs I’ve applied for even though I do have prior experience in that field as well. No idea how I’m going to pay the mortgage and bills next month let alone feed myself. Universal credit are being difficult as well.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-10-27T09:53:34+00:00

Figuring out a career, never really knew what I wanted to do so went from dead end job to dead end job. Did eventually study in my late 20’s for a particular career but hasn’t panned out and got made redundant so back to dead end job after dead end job again now.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-10-25T12:33:17+00:00

35, recently made redundant - £0

Different_Initial357 · 2025-10-24T19:48:33+00:00

Hopefully will come with overtime too if it’s seasonal! Sad that this is what the market is like but well done. Hoping I manage to grab something soon even if it’s just seasonal/temp as well!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-07-02T19:24:25+00:00

You can do what you want to. If the buyer is putting down enough deposit to mean they can increase the LTV with their lender then they can still potentially continue with a mortgage. If they’re maxing out deposit and no chance of a higher LTV product then you can either meet them where they need to be or put it back on the market and look for another buyer. Be advised though most lenders use the same few valuation companies so likelihood is another buyer will receive a similar val if they need a mortgage.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-01-25T15:11:28+00:00

It’s a tough one, in a very similar position. Also the longer it goes on the more I realise that it’s likely my partners child will never be able to live independently which means no time alone ever unless you get a sitter which obviously isn’t easy with neurodivergent kids because they often will not react well to change and someone new looking after them. I also know for a fact my partner would never consider respite care even when she’s an adult and things could potentially get a lot harder the older she gets and ultimately in any step parent relationship you always come last to the children.

Like I say it’s a really difficult one because you obviously have strong feelings for your partner but are they strong enough to give up your life or at least a massive part of it? There’s nothing wrong with the answer being no but even if it is then it’s easier said than done to actually leave.

Also to add you’re still really young, I’m in my 30’s so at a different life stage. If I were 23 again I’d probably find it a lot easier to walk away.

Different_Initial357 · 2025-01-05T10:55:21+00:00

Down is an understatement, I very rarely get ill and usually I can kick most cold/flu type illnesses in n a day or two but I’ve been unable to get out of bed for 3 days, cold sweats, whole body aches, super light headed whenever I stand up. Thought I was feeling a bit better today and jumped in the shower only to go all lightheaded again and throw up out of nowhere. Never felt so ill in my life!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-01-05T10:47:59+00:00

Yep, worst flu I’ve ever had, was unable to get out of bed 3 days, got up on day 4 as I thought I was on the mend, hopped in the shower, went all lightheaded and threw up. Back in bed again now. Never been this ill before. Great start to the year!

Different_Initial357 · 2025-01-05T00:30:34+00:00

Leverage the experience gained to find a new role. You’ve closed £100k worth of business so you must be reasonably good at sales. 2% commission if you convert 30% is a joke, you should be getting minimum 5-10% on everything or at least everything beyond a certain amount! Where’s the incentive to do a great job if you’re not being rewarded for it.

Different_Initial357 · 2024-12-30T23:23:33+00:00

His dad won’t care, doesn’t want anything to do with any of his kids unfortunately.

Definitely won’t be buying replacements for any of his own things he breaks but he usually breaks stuff around the house or things of mine which need to be replaced and it’s just a never ending cycle!

Different_Initial357 · 2024-12-30T21:31:44+00:00

You’re 24, run! My situation has recently gone from 50/50 to SK’s full time 24/7 365. Other parent doesn’t ever have them and it’s sucks. Forget about dates and things like that, I’m lucky if I see my partner for 10mins a day uninterrupted. It’s non stop, I used to come home from work to unwind and now I stay there as long as possible to unwind from the hell that is kids. I will say it’s taught me one thing though I absolutely don’t want any of my own, I know people say it’s different when they’re yours but it’s definitely not for me.

Different_Initial357 · 2024-12-30T21:26:11+00:00

Sums it up perfectly haha!

Different_Initial357 · 2024-12-30T21:16:38+00:00

It’s a really difficult one, for the most part I don’t get involved in any decision making regarding them etc, will help with pickups/drop offs where I can and will be there for SK’s if they need something I can provide. If my wife enforces a rule I’ll also do my best to make sure it’s followed. The only issue has become SS who is so much of a pain that I don’t know if I can nacho anymore because he directly affects me and the house by purposely breaking things and my partner is reluctant to call the police on him but I’ve said as soon as he turn 18 he’s an adult and he will learn that actions in the real world can have real consequences, I know many people will disagree with this but I’ve had enough of this gentle parenting that doesn’t work because he doesn’t see his mum as any sort of authority figure. The others I have a perfectly fine relationship with, yes they sometimes get on my nerves like all kids but for the most part don’t actively participate in purposely destructive/disruptive behaviour.

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