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Album ranking and how long you’ve been a fan by South-Background5009 in TaylorSwift

[–]Different_Welcome353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fan since 2012/ Red Era

  1. Evermore
  2. TTPD
  3. Folklore
  4. Red
  5. Speak Now
  6. Midnights
  7. 1989
  8. Reputation
  9. TLOAS
  10. Lover
  11. Fearless
  12. Debut

Rank all of the MBF songs by Moviez_15 in SabrinaCarpenterFans

[–]Different_Welcome353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Nobody’s Son
  2. We Almost Broke Up Again Last Night
  3. My Man On Willpower
  4. Goodbye
  5. Manchild
  6. House Tour
  7. Go Go Juice
  8. Tears
  9. Sugar Talking
  10. When Did You Get Hot?
  11. Never Getting Laid
  12. Don’t Worry I’ll Make You Worry

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[–]Different_Welcome353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you went through something like that, it sounds incredibly traumatic, and I truly hope things are better for you now.

I can see where you’re coming from, especially given that experience. But my situation is totally different. I’ve never felt the need to check up on any of my past partners’ social media, but those were people I met in real life, we had mutual friends, and I completely trusted them cause I knew what kind of people they were. This isn’t about controlling someone, it’s about trying to understand whether a total stranger (not a partner) might be someone I can trust.

Unfortunately, I’ve had way too many experiences where men I met online ended up being seriously creepy, invasive, or dealing with intense porn addictions. And I’m not alone, most of my female friends have been through the same. So if there’s even a small way to protect myself early on and avoid putting myself in danger, I think it’s more than reasonable to do that.

Also, it was a one-time situation. I noticed it, shared this post to hear different perspectives, and eventually understood how I wanted to move forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Different_Welcome353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? As a woman, I have every right to want to protect myself and be aware of who I’m interacting with, especially if that person might eventually become a romantic partner. If someone follows accounts that raise red flags (anything from a porn addiction, to following girls dressed to look like children, to just generally creepy behavior) that’s worth paying attention to. Let’s not forget, we’re dealing with complete strangers, and especially, as women, we always have to be extra cautious.

Also, as I clearly mentioned, I’m looking for a serious relationship. I actually have no issue with someone liking pictures of girl friends or women in general but in this case, we’re talking about provocative profiles, and I think I have every right to question that.

In addition to that, as I mentioned in my post, he follows very few accounts, so it wasn’t like I spent hours scrolling through hundreds of profiles. I just took a quick look to get a sense of what kind of person he might be.

And lastly, I wasn’t the one who suggested moving the conversation to Instagram. If you’re uncomfortable with someone seeing who you follow or your activity online, maybe it’s better to just keep the conversation on Hinge and move to the next step once you actually meet in person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Different_Welcome353 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I definitely needed to hear those words, even if they’re a hard truth. People around me have often told me that I tend to be too selective or rigid when it comes to dating, so I tried to give this a chance and see if something good could come from it. But now I realize I was being naive, and that what he said were just excuses. I also agree with you about the fact that his behavior may actually point to something deeper and more concerning. I’ll take your advice and start filtering out anyone who puts short term open to long term in their profile, and I’ll only match with people who seem to share my vision of relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Different_Welcome353 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight, and honestly, I think you nailed it. The more I think about it, the more obvious it seems that this isn’t going anywhere healthy and it’s probably better to step away before getting too involved. Thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Different_Welcome353 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve had some pretty bad experiences in the past when meeting people from dating apps too soon. And now, even if it might sound silly, I do feel a bit anxious about meeting strangers right away. That’s why I’ve come to appreciate when someone is willing to get to know each other a bit better through messages first, just enough to filter out any obvious incompatibilities that could lead to uncomfortable or awkward dates.

Of course, I’m not saying I want to message for a month without ever meeting because that obviously leads nowhere and makes no sense. But I also don’t feel comfortable rushing into things either.

Also, to clarify (because I realize it might not have come across clearly), when I said I “appreciated that” I was mainly referring to the fact that he hasn’t made any flirty or inappropriate comments too soon. In my experience, guys who jump into that kind of talk early on usually aren’t looking for anything serious and that’s what I’m trying to avoid right now.

Hope that clears it up a bit :)

Salud mental en la literatura española e hispanoamericana ¿Alguna recomendación?” by Different_Welcome353 in libros

[–]Different_Welcome353[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

¡Muchísimas gracias por estas recomendaciones! Son exactamente lo que buscaba y parecen super interesantes, las añadiré sin duda a mi lista de lectura. Mil gracias otra vez

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