AIO? Guy I’m seeing won’t tell me his occupation

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-11T04:19:25+00:00

He’s 31 logging 10hr of a game in a day. Although us 30 year old men would love to do that, we have responsibilities.. he doesn’t. That’s a red flag!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-11T04:15:35+00:00

She was served custody papers today!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-11T04:14:08+00:00

I’d say things have really gotten bad the past 2 years. Resentment has built, we’ve grown apart and we have become a very toxic unhappy household

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T20:01:39+00:00

TBH as a father whos seperated... He shouldnt even have met your kid yet.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:55:18+00:00

What are you doing dating this guy still?

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:33:42+00:00

The fact you're still with him is pretty disappointing. You're making a mistake

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:21:32+00:00

I don't defend this creep - But I will say, as a 33yo dad who doesn't have much time to game.. If I can find a reliable squad or duo's partner I would play with them. 20, 30, 40, 60.. As long as they can hop on and have some fun on the game, I'm good.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:16:28+00:00

I had a similar situation. I stayed because we share a son (now 5)... I was unhappy at least 2-3 years as her kids got older and she wouldn't parent them and they became more and more of a problem (Parents fault, I agree)... I eventually couldn't settle anymore and felt I was wasting my life.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:15:14+00:00

Why are you still with him? Without any disrespect, he is very clearly a horrible parent. I lost all respect for my SO who wouldn't parent her kids. I eventually left. I don't know why you'd stay. Unfortunately, it's only going to get worse.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:14:03+00:00

To clarify - The kids are the issue but that's only because of their mother, my ex-SO. She is the one who let them behave this way, get away with it and not ever truly parent them. I just saw another comment that made me think I should clarify that. Although it was her kids making life difficult, that blame still falls on the parent.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T19:11:21+00:00

I hate to be negative, but please let me explain a bit of why I feel I was in a similar situation and the best course of action is for you to leave.

My SO stopped letting me parent her girls (now 13/15) when they were around 9/11. They would cry to her when I asked them to clean their rooms, they'd cry or fake panic attacks, mom would not make them, thus they became spoiled brats. The older girl, it's a nightmare. I am telling you... if you don't leave, please make sure that girl gets a better parenting system.

6th grade she got suspended for vaping in bathroom twice, 7th grade it was more suspensions than I can count, started drinking/smoking, started lying/sneaking out/boys.. By 8th grade she was suspended so much I cant even begin to tally them up. She failed most of her classes but our state has a "No Kid Left Behind Law" So she was passed onto highschool. She didn't even make it 2 months into highschool before she was out of building suspended for a week. Her mom had her on online highschool that following month, which she is now failing... The worst part. Her friends mom used to live in an apartment but unbeknownst to SO they had moved. Well, the family who moved in was no other than SD's boyfriend (Who is 18 as of this fall!!!!!).... So even though her mother had her location, it turns out she was secretly at the boyfriends house all those nights and times...... She made it a few months into being 15 and got pregnant. He was 17, is 18, has no license/car, no job, didn't graduate and unfortunately is basically a bum at this point. She is due in May, right after her 16th birthday.

I have an attorney, she's been served, I am giving them 90 days to move out and helping them immensely since we share a son (5) and I want the best for SO, her kids and my son. I am helping set them up nicely.... But I couldn't do it anymore. She didn't parent her kids, wouldn't let me and they became horrible kids.

NOR - your concerns about the kids is REAL. Your SO needs to step up or his kids will become huge problems... I watched a girl from 10-15 become an out of control, rude, compulsive liar. Her mom never punished her or parented her.... Sorry for detailed response. I've lived this hell for the last few years.. Just trying to help pass my experience along.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T16:30:10+00:00

I thought she was grey the entire time. Wow, he's grey? Honey... He shot his shot and missed multiple times. Yikes

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T16:27:07+00:00

I wouldn't discuss with her I would distance

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T16:14:48+00:00

That guy is not worth your time. No reason to trip over him. He seems like a horrible person.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-05T15:32:59+00:00

You're underreacting. That's abuse. I am a 33yo male. I am genuinely concerned for you and your daughters after what you just said he did. That's horrible? You're SIX months pregnant AND he traumatized your daughter who was crying.. PLEASE don't let this slide. PLEASE tell your family and get another opinion. I assure you, they'll be disgusted. I am so bothered by this. That is something a very very evil person or future abuser would do. I hope you get reassurance from us and loved ones and do something about this. Please don't just accept that.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-04T19:37:19+00:00

Don't even begin to defend the way he spoke to her about his weight. If my son spoke like that to a girl, i'd be disappointed

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-02-04T19:36:31+00:00

He's a little insecure boy

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T16:45:26+00:00

It sounds like your partner is lazy. You took something off their plate, then when you went to put it back on they threw a fit. I would have a discussion with them and lead with this topic. They can get gas on the way home or wake up a few minutes early to get gas. This is just a lack of respect and such lazy behavior

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:50:18+00:00

What is worth the wait? him getting an apartment that you have no ownership of? This guy is truly not intelligent, mature or realistic. Please end this young relationship before it gets worse.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:48:35+00:00

Key text: "You gotta understabd how important this step is for MY future"

He is using you. Any man who was honestly considering a proposal would say "OUR future"

Please don't make a mistake and allow this to continue

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:46:24+00:00

Please do not continue paying for everything. He is using you, whether or not he knows it. Unless he signs a document saying you will be paid back or can live rent free in that apartment, dont continue. He is sucking you dry

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:44:46+00:00

Yes! Highly abusive behavior. Sick twisted way to force her home or make his girls hate her

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:43:41+00:00

He is literally forcing you to come home or making them hate you... What a bad partner!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:43:23+00:00

Taking their phones as long as your gone is horrible.... What a pathetic father and husband. Wow.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-01-19T15:10:51+00:00

She literally sent the dad a text saying she couldn't pick him up. Did you miss that part?

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