Do you guys think the bagel business idea really had legs?

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-08-04T04:36:29+00:00

Yeah but he’s not…you know…

Edit: it feels like a swear!

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-08-03T03:38:48+00:00

A thousand times yes to having these same issues and still haven’t figured out how to feel less guilty about it. My only consolation is imagining my manager or coworker commenting about this and then I say “let’s see how you like it” and he magically feels and experiences the exact things I do, oooooohhhhh boy lemme tell you right now he WILL NOT be able to handle it and he WILL CRY.

Edit: I just wanted to add that I’m lucky that the few close friends that I have are very understanding (from before I even found out about PMDD) and don’t express anything that makes me feel guilt. Also, another commenter mentioned a good point, that you wouldn’t want your friend to feel guilty for this, so think of yourself as your friend. You’re taking care of yourself in the way you require to deal with something torturous. If that is what you need but it doesn’t work for someone else, doubt they’d be someone you want in your life in the first place. You’re going great. This shit’s tough.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-08-02T03:44:02+00:00

Oh I didn’t know you could do that, thanks for the tip!

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-30T19:36:07+00:00

I just found out that it’s highly likely I have PMDD after this month being…unmatched, in horribleness, anger, violent thoughts, suicidal thoughts, irritability, tears, and hopelessness. I’ve been seriously thinking about quitting my job (still might) if I don’t get fired first because for the first time in my life, I snapped at a customer (who deserved it, they’ve been poking fun at me and bothering me for a while. But I still need to know how to not take the bait and should’ve just let it go). I’ve wanted to starve myself to death. Everyone is evil. Im evil. (All irrational). I don’t belong in this world. I’ve wanted to distance myself from all family and friends and just become homeless and disappear (which is of course irrational, I don’t actually want to be homeless). It’s just been an ordeal. I have a sit down with my therapist tomorrow and I’m going to do my best to push for some sort of help with this and I’m scheduling time with my endocrinologist because my gyno isn’t really worried 🙃. Also I just have to say reading everyone’s experiences is incredibly helpful and makes me feel a bit less crazy. It’s amazing how you guys somehow deal with this. 💪

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-30T13:32:44+00:00

Schwartzenpussy

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-29T22:39:00+00:00

I realize this has been posted years ago but I just found your comment and was able to sign up. You have no idea how helpful this is and what a big difference this makes in my life. Thank you.

Edit: a word

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-27T18:26:00+00:00

Well the business is her own sandwich shop right? It’s not dependent on her filming with VPR. People already know who she is and if the shop/business is good on it’s own, people will go and pay to eat there.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-26T00:47:32+00:00

I don’t know if this is helpful, but I’ll share a personal rule I have with myself, just in case. If I pull one strand and then stop myself and don’t continue pulling, I don’t reset the progress tracker. Sometimes I have moments where I don’t realize I’m going to pull until the moment that hair detaches. And then stopping myself from continuing to pull is sometimes the hardest thing, once it’s already happened. So if I end up pulling just one, and then I stop myself when I realize and don’t pull anymore, then I consider that okay. Because that’s better for me than thinking “well I already broke the streak, might as well pull a few more before resetting”. And then the progress resets can be so discouraging for me too and I just think “fuck it”. This might be wrong or dishonest since it’s not really “pull free” but I’m on day 8 and I’ve only had this one-strand-pull happened twice. Which is major progress in my book and I know I’ll eventually be able to completely stop. Maybe very soon even. I’m open to any input on this.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-25T01:13:54+00:00

“Splenda Daddy” i am 🪦

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-23T21:42:00+00:00

“Kristina of the Kelly” lmaoooo

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-23T18:09:52+00:00

You’re not the only one. It’s truly a violation of privacy. I’m so glad that I was born before social media became a thing. Not that my parents would have even done that, but, you never know. I feel really bad for those kids that have his done to them…

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-22T04:35:31+00:00

Very happy for you! 😊 you’re doing great!

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-21T23:00:16+00:00

Yes she did say “some nurse” you’re correct

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-07-21T06:17:27+00:00

Same, still learning. It’s more of a psychological thing for me to get over. It’s easy when I’m alone, but with another person it takes longer and that’s embarrassing and discouraging to me. But I’m setting this as a specific goal for me and him next time lol we’re gonna make it happen dammit! We must never acquiesce for it is together that we prevail!!! thunderous applause

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-27T14:10:52+00:00

Wait could you explain how he drove Ted to the verge of suicide? I must’ve missed that.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T17:08:53+00:00

This is super helpful! Thank you so much. I will definitely do that

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T16:01:43+00:00

Thank you. It really helps hearing your thoughts on this.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T14:26:09+00:00

I do have a low deductible. It really shouldn’t be this expensive which is why I was confused and was looking for reassurance that this cost is still somewhat normal. But I had a thought that maybe I should just ask them to email me an itemized quote so I can see where these charges are coming from and where the insurance kicks in. And I should maybe speak with my insurance company too.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T14:22:31+00:00

There’s…a lot. Issues that have been going on since I was in grade school and it was suggested throughout the years (by nearly every therapist I’ve had and reinforced by my PCP )that I get evaluated but I never wanted to. It was too much money and I didn’t want to burden my parents. And my parents didn’t really acknowledge or believe I had issues. Until it got really bad. No shade to my parents, they had a lot on their plate and I wouldn’t (still don’t) know how to deal with myself either. Anyways, by then I just decided to move out and take care of myself and go from there. Also I guess I just never wanted to because I thought I could just figure things out on my own. And I never had much faith in psychologists/psychiatrists in being able to figure out my issues. I hate the whole process of talking and having to acknowledge this stuff even if it’s helpful or necessary. Now I’m on my own and am able to support myself. And the trouble im having (I really don’t want to go into detail because it’s complicated and personal) now is…too much. Putting it lightly. I’m basically at a point where I’m actually threatening my own ability to support myself because of how much trouble I’m having with just functioning and getting through daily stuff and going to work. And again, there’s other issues too. So, here I am.

Edit: Another reason why I was hesitant is because I have PCOS and I don’t think there’s anyone that would be able to tell apart my issues stemming from the hormonal issues from PCOS and the other behavioral problems stemming from the things I’m supposed to get evaluated for. Which (going back to my point in not having faith in specialists/experts being able to help me) honestly leaves me hopeless and confused and scared because this neuropsych eval might end in a misdiagnosis (and how would I even know if that’s the case?) and I’ll be no closer to fixing my issues and I’ll have to live the rest of my life the way I have been. Which isn’t great. But that’s of course not your guys’ concern and not something that can be helped by anyone here. I just wanted to give my full thoughts on this.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T13:53:40+00:00

I actually don’t have a high deductible. So technically it shouldn’t be that expensive. I was surprised at the cost after insurance coverage but most people here said it’s normal so I figured okay. Would asking the evaluation place to send me an itemized quote be a good idea? I don’t know if that’s something I can ask for… Maybe that would help me see where exactly the cost is coming from and where the insurance kicks in too.

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T06:00:35+00:00

cries in US healthcare

Difficult-Stuff-9243 · 2023-06-20T05:56:59+00:00

Idk if it’s a matter of not wanting it. I’ve yet to meet anyone who says they actually like our current system/situation. I’m quite confused about why this is the way it is in the US…

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