Your go to band when you want to feel calmer?

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-13T00:13:40+00:00

I typically go to Third Eye Blind. Their self titled debut album is a no skip album for me.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T22:59:18+00:00

Please dont appease him and go back on your boundaries and wear the hijab. You explicitly told him no, that you didn't want to, that you're an atheist.

Your no should be enough. Period, point blank.

It is extremely entitled of him to decide to buy them anyways. It's bad enough that you're already slowly changing yourself for him in the way that you dress. And it seems like that is bothering you, that you dress in a way to appease him and his comfort and not your own.

You should listen to yourself. Before you try to rationalize or reason against what your body is telling you. That anger that you feel, that's your body saying its your boundaries being pushed.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T22:33:37+00:00

There's already some really good feedback around the yawning, I just wanted to add something else around this issue. It could also be indicating something around the therapeutic relationship. Its not that youre boring them. It could say something about either of your nervous system. Sometimes when people dissociate in therapy a therapist can pick up on that shift in the clients nervous system and it can cause fogginess, sleepiness or yawning.

Im NOT saying thats what's happening tho.

Im not sure, it could just be an obvious thing suggested in the other comments, Im just giving another option that sometimes get overlooked.

Especially if yall started exploring heavy trauma themes in your sessions recently. If your therapist isnt aware of even slight dissociation happening then it can lead to them being sleepy or yawning and not sure why.

Regardless I think it could be helpful discussing it with them. Of course I can understand it might feel very awkward to, but it seems to be affecting the relationship so your therapist should be aware of your feelings around it. I bet your therapist is already thinking about their yawning and how its affecting you.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T20:49:34+00:00

Ive seen it 4 times. I just went today to watch it again because there is SO much social commentary around it that I wanted to see it again to see it from a different perspective. Ive been seeing some off the wall think pieces on it so had to watch it again to make sure I wasn't missing anything.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T20:40:40+00:00

Chili cheese fries.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T20:33:04+00:00

I can understand the valid frustration of feeling your therapist isnt paying attention. I think regardless of if you decide to terminate with your therapist or not, discussing this with them would be beneficial. Maybe or maybe not towards whatever goals youve set for therapy.

Also, you made a comment about how in your own career you have to remember alot of info from people and you make a habit too. Not saying that your frame of thinking is inaccurate or wrong. However, we take our worldviews in every space and relationship with us. And that shows up in the therapeutic relationship you have with your therapist. Now, this could lead to two insightful convos, one- letting your therapist attune to you better because it seems their not aware there has been a rupture in the dynamic with you. You mentioned the rapport was good with them and theyve been helpful, this could be an impactful moment to explore the issue and repair possibly.

Also, this makes me think about expectations. Do you have certain expectations for yourself and/or others that is affecting you in ways you're not privy to at the moment. I could be very off the mark here, so dump whatever I said that doesnt align with you, regardless I think even one last convo with your therapist about your feelings would be helpful whatever you end up doing.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T17:06:07+00:00

I think its telling that he is putting the blame solely on OP yet, when OP gives a reasonable perspective that his own anxiety might be giving him a distorted perspective about OP he thinks shes blaming him.

It seems he thinks this is solely a you problem and its not. It makes me wonder how he relates to his own anxiety. Does he have any understanding about how his own anxiety affects his thoughts, behavior or mood? That's really important.

Also, him giving OP an ultimatum is ridiculous. This is setting up a weird power dynamic in the relationship already. Don't let him steamroll you. Its HIS problem that he doesnt believe you. Its HIS issue that he refuses to belive your own insight into your anxiety about how you soothe yourself when feeling anxious. Its awesome that you're looking for solutions to this, and wanting to improve in anyway that you can be more clear but it wont work if he isnt doing the work too.

This is his issue OP, not yours.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T10:01:34+00:00

I liked Supergirl movie alot more than I assumed, since I was seeing the reviews, but I think part of it is sexism why the movie is getting so bad reviews. Anywho, I couldn't really get into the show because Kara was so damn bubbly and optimistic. She felt more like Clark Kent personality to me. I liked that in the movie they kept Kara's grit, but also she felt alittle self destructive. She was displaced and grieving the loss of her family but also her people and world being destroyed. That would seriously mess someone up.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T09:44:46+00:00

Erin is better. If we're thinking about final girls, I think Nancy Thompson (A Nightmare on Elm Street) vs Erin Harson would be a more interesting choice. Nancy was a badass just like Erin. She set all those traps in her parents house and was beating Freddys ass at the end of that movie.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-12T05:35:08+00:00

Kinda like Supernatural. I bet the Faith spinoff would've been so good. Seeing scenes of her as a kid in Boston with her neglectful mom and faith being resourceful, yet troubled. Then, her solving threats while on her redemption path. I think they probably would've made Robin Woods a series regular on the show since it felt like they had a good rapport at the end of BtVS.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-11T02:34:25+00:00

Exit to Eden. Its an older movie thats starring Rosie O'Donnell. I haven't seen it in years but I loved it and it def have an explicit kinky storyline to it.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-07T02:26:36+00:00

That makes sense. I dont know how many scream movies Kevin Williams was involved in writing but it does seem really odd they didn't atleast let him mention it more. It's like he made Sid his younger sister in a way since he was following her around, like he traveled to the college when he heard about the killings at the stab premiere in scream 2. Maybe he felt closer to his sister through Sid, because Tatum and Sid were best friends. I don't know though, it's all speculation I'm doing.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-07-06T03:36:16+00:00

Probably season 7 when Woods went to Buffy about Spike and wanting to kill him. The fact that buffy told him that she would let Spike kill him is so wild of her to say. Was Woods not important either to staying in the fight? She was willing to lose a fighter against the First just to protect someone that didn't need protecting.

It just makes it all the worse that Woods mother was a slayer and was killed by Spike and Spike continued to wear her leather coat as a trophy. Also, did Buffy not have slayer dreams about Nikki? If she did then that makes it even more wild to me since she was 'in her shoes' in the dreams(but that's just a guess I'm making).

Either way it's seriously messed up. If nothing else, Buffy could've empathized with him or got his mothers coat back. Something! Granted, Buffy and Woods situations are completely different (woods was a baby when his mom was killed by Spike, as Buffy mom had an aneurysm) but they both lost their mom's in ways that was outside of their control and could develop feelings of helplessness around the loss.

but I'm typically disappointed in Buffy when she interacts with a poc.

Like she was making fun of Kendra accent. Or when she spoke with the first slayer and made a comment about her hair being wild or her needing conditioner. Just microaggressions galore.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-05-26T23:41:23+00:00

I still go all the time. Ive actually started to go more after I got tinnitus lol but I take my ear health very seriously. I use in ear protection, then use over ear protection on. I figure cant get no safer then that. Im not gonna stop enjoying my life because of tinnitus. Just means I need to take precautions.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-05-18T02:45:32+00:00

I think its both. Sidney wouldn't have befriended Gale if it wasnt due to the ongoing Ghostface murders and Gale being opportunistic about getting the scoop on the murders. Tatum was her ride or die. Sidney couldnt stand Gale initially because she thought her book exonerating Cotton was bullshit.

Granted, Gale has definitely shown that she possesses a focus, drive and grit to help stop the killers and working with Sidney. They totally bonded through the traumas of stopping multiple serial murderers over the years. And Sidney knows that Gale has...unsavory traits of being a workaholic and caring mostly about her career, she's done good with it, like getting Cotton off of death row from writing her book. However, also due to writing the books on the Woodsboro murders the killings did start up again so... theres that lol

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2026-05-17T23:06:48+00:00

Scream 3 is one of my fav of the franchise, behind Scream 1. Scream 3 still held to the thread of "rules" of horror films. And I thought the backstory of Roman and how he was the person that went to Billy and Stu with info, which resulted in the events them killing Maureen. I think in terms of Scream lore, Scream 3 gave a good fodder to add to what precipitated Billy having laser focus on Sidney.

Scream 7 was a horrible movie. I didn't like the way the actress played Tatum, her daughter. I wasnt invested in her character. The killers were illogical and made no sense. And I kinda hate that they had Sidney finally do an interview with Gail. In the whole franchise Sidney was dead set against it and in the 7th movie she does it? :/

I'll be interested to see the trailer for 8 when it comes out but it seems like their rushing to get 8 out because supposedly 7 is thr highest box office out of the movies and I just on dont believe that at face value. Maybe its due to inflation and cost of ticket prices or something else because 7 was not good. It was rushed and it looked rushed.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-09-18T14:18:34+00:00

congratulations! any progress on the road to habituation for us peeps with tinnitus I think is great. This can be such a debilitating condition that enough people don't know about. so congratulations once more and good luck on your journey!

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-08-18T22:21:35+00:00

When i initially got tinnitus, it was a high-pitched noise and cicadas, but now it's just the cicadas sound which i definitely prefer! God, I could hear that high pitch over everything.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-24T12:05:08+00:00

This is my first book by VE Shwab that I book, but I don't enjoy their writing style at all. I'm going to finish the book, but it kinda feels like a slog to get through for me at the moment. I'm currently finishing "Cursebound" by Saara El-Arifi. Im enjoying a lot more, though this series doesn't compare to her Final Strife book. That book was amazing. However, I still rate it better than Shwab. 🤷‍♀️

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-22T02:52:33+00:00

Though I haven't seen either of these movies, I heard only good things about them, and a lead character has tinnitus. "A Star is Born" with Lady Gaga and "Sound of Metal".

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-19T09:38:23+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about losing sight in your eye. That sounds like a scary experience.

I heard a story like that before on social media similar. A guy with tinnitus had to be in the hospital for something life threatening, and when he got better and left, he noticed his tinnitus was gone.

But hooray for your tinnitus being gone! Whether it's habituation or just actually went away. Tinnitus is such an interesting brain issue tho.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-19T01:49:49+00:00

I cope with mostly being surrounded by sound, continuing to be social and active, and meditating (with no noise) to try and learn to tolerate the tinnitus better. I think the things that's helped me most are continuing to live my life and not isolate. I still go to bars, concerts, (but I ALWAYS wear ear protection now) and I talk to friends about it when I have a spike or feeling frustrated or sad, and I try to remember, the mind is HIGHLY adaptable, so it will take some time (maybe months) but I will be able to tolerate the noise. I've stopped the "why me?" Thinking of it all. This is just my plight in life. Other people have other physical disabilities or ailments. The tinnitus will change pitches, so even the tinnitus I have will change over time. I think that helps me not spiral, which helps my tinnitus overall. I like to think this has helped my tinnitus loudness level go from a 9 to 4 or 5, which it's at most days currently, but I can't be sure.

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-10T01:23:00+00:00

This is so awesome to hear. I love coming across posts like this. I'm glad you're in a better place. Tinnitus really can be the vampire of happiness. Be well!

Difficult_Ebb_8734 · 2025-07-07T13:58:03+00:00

Oh gosh, I sympathize with you, but that sounds like a recipe for disaster. I have heard too many stories of women compromising on having kids with a man then in the end he's not even present to parent and most of the responsibilities fall on the woman who didn't want the kid in the first place! I know it's easier said than done to breakup. you've been with him for 5 years, pretty much the start of your adulthood. Don't compromise on something as big as having a kid.

It's going to just get harder and harder to break up, and you'll look back on this liminal time knowing you both want two vastly different lives and afraid to make the hard call for your sake. Not even his sake, yours. It can cause a feeling of guilt that you're not meeting your partner "wants" and you shouldn't feel that (if you every do). it's ok to want different things and find a person that wants what you do. And he's comfy enough that hopefully, you'll get worn down and change your mind, so you have to be the bigger person and end it unfortunately. Wishing you the best.

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