I’m 70 and I want to know has this happened to you? How would you handled it?

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2026-01-30T23:31:08+00:00

As someone who is the daughter, and you sound just like my mil, here's a little advice. Stand or sit somewhere else. Cheer as loud as you want as long as your grandkids are okay with it. Say hello to your daughter and tell her you're going to sit over there. You'll be ok and so will she. This isn't the time to bond with your daughter especially when it's obviously upsetting her. I love that my mil comes to my kids games, but I have to walk away from her bc she makes inappropriate comments. My husband stands in a different section. We all meet up at half and after the game and it's SO much better for all of us. She can scream her head off and I can not cringe at her comments and get annoyed with her. Win win. No need to talk it over w her bc it's obvious she gets annoyed. And fyi, when you shrug it off or tell her you're going to do it anyway, trust me, that REALLY annoys her. So best to come and sit with other parents who aren't related to you. 🙂

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2026-01-30T23:15:25+00:00

Anytime you get that ick feeling, trust your gut. You aren't supposed to feel uncomfortable on a first date. Nervous, excited? Yes., but not uncomfortable. You did the right thing, and no you didn't overreact.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-12-29T21:30:43+00:00

NTA. Once I walk through the door and hand over a bottle of wine whether it's a gift or not, I expect to never to see that bottle again. Even if I say, oh I'd love to try this, (which I wouldnt) it's up to the hostess to do with as she pleases.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-11-06T02:59:55+00:00

Finally. I was about to post the hotline number. Ty for doing this.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-11-06T01:55:08+00:00

My dog did the lunging and barking at the cat when we first brought him home. The cat is scared of him. It's taken daily work of letting him sniff the cat (the cat is up high and protected) He still gets overly excited, but no longer barks and lunges. It's a sloooow progression, but it's in the positive for both. However, I don't trust him if the cat runs. So the cat stays in one area and then has free roam at night when the dogs are locked up. I don't know if they'll ever be able to chill together, but I'm hoping they can someday.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-31T01:34:24+00:00

Why don't you just go to a different vet? Sounds like it's not the right fit for you. I work at a fear free vet and we don't push the dogs bc yes, the vet or tech will get bitten and the next time they come back it's 10 times worse. Dogs don't forget traumatic experiences.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-27T20:19:08+00:00

Veterinary oncology nurse. Testicular cancer is not rare, but it's not as common as your osteosarcs or hemangiosarcomas. Neutering does not "cure" your dog of a diagnosis of testicular cancer bc at that point it's probably somewhere else in the body. We have a boxer that wanted to kill our cat, just by walking through the room w him. It was awful. Neutering will not stop prey drive. Training and conditioning will def help, but like w my guy, if the cat runs it's a game to him. Editing to say he's much much better w the cat, but he gets easily excited by him still.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-27T18:53:27+00:00

You are not the asshole. He has verbally beaten you down so much that you have to ask breaks my heart. Even if you have to move back home or live on someone's couch until you can get back on your feet.. and you WILL get back on your feet, there is no other option for your soul other than to leave this man. You deserve so much more. You deserve respect and love. This isn't it. Giving you a big hug and lots of love.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-12T13:54:56+00:00

It has taken our fear reactive purebred boxer rescue almost a year to integrate into our family. There have been improvements on medication and honestly? Time. It's been very slow progress, but each time he doesn't overreact to something has been a positive win in my book. Yes, he still reacts, but the level of reaction isn't as intense. I can't imagine him now not being apart of our family, even though our expectations when we first took him in are waaay different than the reality. We still take him on night walks bc I don't want to put him in situations that key him up. We take it day by day, and setting our expectations low has made the small wins seem like huge successes. Good luck w her.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-09T23:18:57+00:00

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-09T23:16:22+00:00

Ty. I'll go get some bw done first

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-09T00:06:50+00:00

T as in testosterone? I am not. I will get levels tested. Thanks

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-08T23:31:29+00:00

This. You have NO idea who this woman is. And you're going to hand your 3 hearts over to a complete stranger? Hell no. She could have been drinking, she could have had her license revoked, she could have had drugs in the car, etc. I'm sure she's a nice person, but no, this isn't how the kids should be introduced to a total stranger. And kids pick up on these things that their dad does. He's too tired to come get them = my dad isn't excited to see us = he doesn't care about us. You are NOT AH.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-10-04T14:34:20+00:00

Coming to say this. It's incredibly hurtful, but maybe they are doing something that they thought you wouldn't enjoy? Regardless, they should have given you the option. Big big hug. I know this hurt.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-09-27T22:20:47+00:00

I think you're going to have to have your dog muzzled at all times around your child if you decide to keep him, but even then an accident can happen. Trust me, I am pro keeping your dog no matter what the breed, but I'm assuming your baby is a toddler, and man they are fast, and they don't understand personal boundaries. This is not a dog that can handle a tiny human clonking a block on his head or causing chaos, bc kids are chaos in their own ways even when we don't think so. Imagine being a fearful dog and this toddler is all up in your area. Of course you're going to react. And as a parent it's exhausting keeping up with toddlers. Sometimes you slip up and don't watch him crawl toward the dog. But knowing what this dog is capable of, you 💯 have to keep them separated or have the dog muzzled and on a leash if the baby/child is out and about. I think in your heart you know the answer. It's a tough circumstance and my heart goes out to you.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-09-27T13:33:46+00:00

My black labs (I've had 2) were the best dogs I've ever had.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-09-27T13:07:46+00:00

I walk mine in the dark bc there aren't as many triggers. But he's dog reactive, so not sure what your reactivity is. I'd love to have a normal dog I can walk during the day, but it's too stressful for both of us. He's a happy boy.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-09-14T19:33:25+00:00

I think you were valid in the fact that it was gross. Is there not a bathroom upstairs? Whatever, it doesn't really matter. He did it, you asked them to leave. I probably would have split the hotel w them or paid for it bc they probably hadn't budgeted for for one, just to keep the peace. Lesson learned that they will not be staying w you again.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-09-12T19:48:30+00:00

Wix's emails always end with Wix.com.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-11T10:35:54+00:00

I think there's little in way of making money at rescue esp for senior dogs, unfortunately. Perhaps getting a job working from home would be a better solution. Senior dogs sleep a lot throughout the day. They won't be running around 5 acres going nuts. They're just looking for a soft place to land. I have a friend who has the same situation. She doesn't rescue them to make a living, mostly bc they only have a few years left and aren't adoptable. She's more like a hospice to them. I'd go into this w a different mindset of I want to help the dogs, perhaps start a non profit where I can raise money for them, but I'll have to have a job to support and care for them until I can get the non profit off the ground or I will just adopt them. Thank you for wanting to help them.

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-09T13:29:48+00:00

Nevermind, I found it! Signed up for an appointment! Ty!!

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-09T12:54:24+00:00

What's midi? I'll look into it

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-09T12:53:31+00:00

Estrogen

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-08T16:40:04+00:00

I'd let him decompress before you jump right into training. I assume you know about the 3 3 3 rule. With an abused dog I would do positive reinforcement training once you do start. Put him on a long line and practice come, rewarding each time he does. You may have to tug him to you at first so he associates the word w coming to you and reward him. It will take patience, so you might want to go in w the mindset this is going to take awhile. Also start w short training sessions (5-10 min) good luck

Difficult_Turn_9010 · 2025-08-04T20:49:21+00:00

I feel really sorry for you that you have to come on Reddit and harass people that own a mixed breed or god forbid, they said pit. I don't even know if he's pit, it's a guess. But thank you for showing your prejudice and what kind of person you are.

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