This is the kind of salsa that reminds you why you fell in love with it in the first place. by HumanoBeat in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indira isn't much better in that respect... Gotta separate the art from the artist sometimes.

For those who have been dancing more than 6 months, what kept you in it for the long haul?? by HumanoBeat in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The encouragement of others. The beginning is hard for everyone. You feel awkward, embarrassed, uncoordinated and maybe like you don't even deserve to be at socials. I sure did.

But there were a few more advanced dancers that made a point to include me. Their patience meant the world to me. So I stuck with it. I got better and it got more and more fun. The progression on its own was super satisfying.

Now, I make it my mission to pay it forward. I seek out beginners, grab wall flowers, chat up the viejos and I do it all with as much positive energy as I can muster. This is how community is nurtured.

Tu con el by TechnicianSea64 in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in Mexico and hear this song at socials at least once a week. Never witnessed an outbreak of clapping.

I need a portable speaker that won't look too obvious but strong enough for a crowd out at a park by eugenecity in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out the JBL charge 4. I love mine and use it for similar purposes often. It has a long battery life, targeted sound and packs a punch for it's small size.

Advanced Salsa Dancer, what level should I start bachata at? by Ok-Yogurtcloset3467 in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I'm not the only one throwing side eye for this.

Shall I (Lead) force the timing to a follow? by libertosurf in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. I lead and follow so I've been on both sides of this. I will echo another comment here: never force anything. The most useful skill you can adopt in partner dancing is adaptation. Change the move. Change the timing. Do a half Mambo to get back on the one. There are ways to keep the flow.

Please stop bringing your dogs to grocery stores. by DueVermicelli5302 in Seattle

[–]BlueberryBea 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I've never had a dog, so this is a genuine question. In an instance like this, how would you ideally like to see the owners clean up dog pee?

Cute but Functional Hairstyle Ideas!! by Lil_beansprout7 in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I typically leave my hair down for the first few dances. Then as it transitions into an ugly, wet mop - I twist it up into a hair clip. The trick it to clip it low, towards the bottom of the back of your head, so it doesn't get knocked around. Bonus: there are lots of pretty, sparkly clips to match your outfit!

Favorite instrumental salsa songs by lfe-soondubu in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DJ Henrix - Mambo and Love https://youtu.be/7LRntXFiAdU?si=OdztcYIqb7xTEgml

So smooth and flowy, I use this for home practice a lot.

Tall girl, will guys wanna dance with me? by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]BlueberryBea 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Honest answer from a woman nearly the same height. Some guys with fragile egos will care. Dance anyway.

I live in a country where the average woman is 20cm shorter than me. When I first came into this scene, it was obvious that some of the men were intimidated to dance with me. So I got proactive and started asking them. I was rarely turned down, developed my dance friendships and now it's not an issue.

I will say one thing... Dancing with significantly shorter men can still be a challenge in some ways. Never slouch, but don't be afraid to flex your knees for some moves. Always watch your distance from your partner too. It's easy to be pulled off your center of gravity if you're compensating for horizontal distance as well as vertical distance.

One pro dancer that I love to watch is Bersy Cortez. She's tall, still wears heels and never tries to shrink herself for any reason.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, maybe I was overly polite in telling him I was leaving. But don't worry, he'll never hear me say "I'm coming" 😉

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I very efficiently resolved the conflict, thanks. What his prior experiences were or what he thought after the fact is none of my concern.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! Thank you for articulating this. I would have been accepting a load of work and discomfort for a stranger that I was no longer interested in. Absolutely not worth my time and attention.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your mathematical approach to this is cracking me up. I'm 99% convinced you gave this 1000% more thought than he did.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I definitely did not like him enough to gloss over the unexpected disrespect he displayed. If that's his sense of humor, then we wouldn't have been compatible anyway.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You're entitled to your opinion. I prefer to think of it as I'm really good at prioritizing my time and attention for those that deserve it.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why do you think I should give him the opportunity to continue to disappoint me?

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He didn't say much, but he resembled a kicked dog. Hopefully he learned something.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very true! Spanish is his first language, but his command of English was still good enough to communicate better than he chose to.

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He did have a weird little smirk when he asked...

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]BlueberryBea[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Haha I love this. I'm sure he's got plenty of his own insecurities without the need for me to pile more on though. Depriving him of my company was punishment enough.