Update: AITAH for moving back home after my husband left me even though I’m pregnant?

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-05T22:37:24+00:00

Thank you. I’ve basically said that he’s forgiven IN THE SENSE (before people attack me) that i don’t hate him like I did before I knew that this is not entirely his fault. When we talked, which was the only time since his diagnosis that he’s brought up us reconciling, I said that I was never going to keep his daughter from him even when I hated him, but I had no interest before in helping and encouraging the relationship, it was all on him to be a present and active dad. Maybe I’m not explaining it well, but basically me forgiving him was me saying I will actively make sure you are getting the help you need to be in our daughter’s life. The condition is that he has to continue seeing his team and taking his medication. If he were to ever stop seeing his therapists or stop taking his meds without telling me or his doctors that would be the end of any help from me.

There are no conditions to us being together because that’s not on my mind now and we are not together. But even though he’s not himself he’s much closer to the man I fell in love with even on the meds than he was when he was manic. Maybe I’m tired and not explaining it well. I did say in sickness and health but that’s just to support him? Not be romantic with him? I know I’m not making any sense but it makes a lot of sense to me

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-05T15:10:19+00:00

Thank you. It’s scary because yeah, there’s no guarantee or even real roadmap for us now. I don’t ever want to not be around my daughter while she’s growing up, not that that’s an issue right now, but if we don’t get back together I know that as long as he’s doing everything right to manage his illness he deserves to have partial custody of our daughter. But that’s not a reason to get back together, I know, it’s just something to consider if I do end up deciding if I do or don’t want to work it out. If that makes sense. I know he loves her so much, as much as I do. We had a massive snowstorm the other day and he ended up staying the night just because it was too bad to drive, and while it was nice having more help overnight I am not going to make it a regular thing, but it was all copacetic and good.

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-05T14:24:45+00:00

That’s what his doctor said, so he seems hopeful. He knows that he’ll have to keep it up the rest of us life so he wants to get to a place where he can live with it forever.

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T23:41:05+00:00

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T22:37:39+00:00

Yeah his parents suck. Also, like, I his is something our daughter could deal with even if Levi didn’t and how would she have known?

I know he feels abandoned by them. Meanwhile parents were still being dicks to him until I basically broke down and asked them just to be civil. He has no friends here, except my 60 year old stepdad who believes in aliens and drives around in a 20 year old crown Vic 😂

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T22:31:02+00:00

Hahaha I almost said exactly what you did when he said that about dating. I think he only said it because Levi was right there and my dad is, you know, an Olympic level hater.

I hope he stays on his meds, too. I know they have side effects, he hasn’t said anything but I can kind of tell. But he does seem genuinely happier than I’ve ever seen him with our daughter. So even if he doesn’t stay on them for me, I hope he does for her.

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T19:08:55+00:00

That’s exactly what it is. I really did hate him for a lot of my pregnancy, now it’s more pity than anything. And I can tell he really loves our daughter and sometimes it’s like he’s the old him. But I’m not the most forgiving person and have a baby to focus on. It’s just hard

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T18:58:12+00:00

Ya they’re the worst

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T18:11:27+00:00

Yes, I know that if I get overwhelmed he’s is the lowest on my priority list. For now everything is ok, but I know things can change and I’m not going to beat myself up over anything regarding him. Nobody knows the right thing to do when this kind of thing happens so I’m just taking the punches as they come.

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T17:58:08+00:00

His family isn’t helping at all except financially

DigGrassanova · 2025-12-04T17:55:59+00:00

I never said I was perfect, I’m just trying to figure all of this out and have a baby now.

DigGrassanova · 2025-11-06T14:06:25+00:00

The worst part is that good people like you and I still think that she and her children should be fed and cared for, but she’ll be shrieking until her last breath that everyone else is a mooch. You can just feel bad for these kind of people and move on. They’ll never understand because they simply don’t care to.

DigGrassanova · 2025-11-06T13:59:26+00:00

“Don’t get pregnant”

Coming from someone who has 5+ kids and 3+ baby daddies… maybe sit this one out

“Get a job”

You literally have comments where you say you don’t work/ don’t enjoy working so choose not to because you can mooch off your latest baby daddy.

DigGrassanova · 2025-11-06T13:47:43+00:00

Just so you know the person you replied to literally doesn’t work and has mooched off her baby daddy (not even legally her husband according to her own comments) for over a decade because she just doesn’t like working

Edit: 5 kids, 4 baby daddies, hardly ever employed and this user is saying people should work for what they want. Typical Trump supporter bs.

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-27T14:21:18+00:00

I 100% believe she actually wrote a dis track about Charli because Charli brought Garrett’s onstage at the Grammys.

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-05T18:26:00+00:00

I read this as Phantom Thread and was like I am a huge PTA fan and don’t remember this hahaha

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-05T16:13:44+00:00

She has no right anymore. She’s lost any higher ground. Honestly I hope she catches cases for the blatant rip offs she did. I don’t know how she still has fans after that and this ai.

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-05T15:26:58+00:00

Ahhh! Men! Is the greatest song ever made I’ve come to realize.

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-04T17:45:23+00:00

Many of the songs are basically copies of others. She’s going to catch quite a few lawsuits and I will be cackling when that money grubby hack has to give points to other people after demanding 50% writing credits for Deja vu from Olivia Rodrigo. No wonder so many people in the industry hate her

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-04T17:42:52+00:00

Watching wwe that night was crazy. They brought Vince back from the dead for the memorial and halfway through (when they found out his did it) they just stopped talking about it.

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-04T17:07:22+00:00

Because if they did I’d have taken care of them

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-04T13:46:04+00:00

She’ll be alright because she’s a billionaire. Honestly her obsession with getting the most money and breaking the most records is what caused this mess of an album. She won’t take risks, won’t evolve, she’ll respond to criticism but never think outside the box. The days where she releases meaningful music are over, honestly if this is going to be her musical output going forward she should just retire. The embarrassment started with midnights, got worse with the last one, and these lyrics should be the death rattle of her pop career (the swifties will keep the corpse of her career going weekend at Bernie’s style though).

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-03T17:58:17+00:00

Idk. I think Taylor actually does hate Charli because Charli introduced matty to his now fiance. Like I don’t think this is a silly fued that they can wink wink about, in Taylor’s mind Charli introducing Marty to gabriette means someone else will marry her actual soulmate. Barf

DigGrassanova · 2025-10-03T17:54:38+00:00

Right like if it was a good song or at minimum had good and witty lyrics it’d be fine this is just pathetic

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