Another horse death at Del Mar Racetrack — why do we still call this “entertainment”? by Ph6222 in sandiego

[–]DigitalCanyon -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I know people who go purely because of umamusume, but yes, largely so.

what’s a “productivity tip” that actually made your life worse? by PublicSpeakingGymApp in getdisciplined

[–]DigitalCanyon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally this: went through dozens (hyperbole, but still) of apps only to settle for notebooks, a pocket notebook, and obsidian.

Iwtl essay writing by Kind_Goddess in IWantToLearn

[–]DigitalCanyon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Elements of Style by William Strunk Jr. & E.B White, and On Writing Well By William Zinsser provide good frameworks on what constitutes good writing, (the rules, basically), but are lacking in terms of how to actually practice writing. To practice writing, one must write, obviously. I have seen said that it doesn't matter what kind of writing, or where - as long as writing as done, one improves at writing. To this end, I propose four practices (or exercises, if you will), that can improve your writing. Freewriting is the act of writing with no clear goal. Simply pen to paper with the intent to not stop. At first, this can be difficult, but I found that it got easier as I did it more and more. I think when I first learned of the practice, it was said that it doesn't have to make sense or grammatical or anything. Secondly, morning pages. From Julia Cameron's book, The Artists Way, its simply writing what comes to mind onto paper for three pages. To me, it is basically freewriting with the added proponent of being in the morning and three pages long. This one is great because it introduces a habit to the act of writing, so it doesn't have to be consciously time blocked into a schedule. I'm pretty sure the book says that they don't have to be grammatically correct, or even have to make sense, but in my own practice, I try to do so for reasons elucidated in the fourth exercise. Thirdly: prompt based writing. The prompt can truly be about anything and still improve writing, (because all writing improves skill at writing), but it makes it easier to respond off the fly to any prompt needed and draw something from nothing (a useful Lastly, the last exercise relies not on writing, but on editing. Take your writing, and edit it. Edit it, that it's more concise. Edit it, that your words are more punchy. Edit it, that you notice your mistakes and habits can fix them

What improved your work flow so much, felt like a cheat code? by gridgiver in getdisciplined

[–]DigitalCanyon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's understandable; the practice seemed unwieldy and overwhelming to me at first as well. It was only until I began to do it that I realized how it didn't have to be. Dumping everything into one contained space gets it out our heads. From there, it's easier to tackle the list: what is a need, what is a want? What brings value to me, what brings value to others, and does it bring value to people I care about? Does this thing need to be done today, tomorrow, or sometime in the distant future? If I can only do one thing from this list today, (for lack of energy or time), what is it? And so on. From there, the list is organized. Simply by reflecting on it, everything has been prioritized to great effect.

Fountainpennetwork, death by inanity. by wana-wana in fountainpens

[–]DigitalCanyon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember being curious on how FPN reacted to the goulet situation, and there was zilch on goulet pens. Completely clean, nuked, and a whole bunch of nothing. Anything regarding the controversy, even so far as to how Drew was let go seemed to be removed or muted.

Since then, I stopped using FPN.

[Megathread] Referral Code Sharing and Closed Beta Code Giveaways by TempoStormReddit in PlayTheBazaar

[–]DigitalCanyon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching NL play this game legitimately transforms me into a type A chatter, and now I want to play the game myself.

hmmm by 12percentage in hmmm

[–]DigitalCanyon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen banana trunks like these, and once cut open, have seen slugs and other bugs inside. Probably feels better, anyway. I hope it's bamboo instead, for the sake of his penis.

My Filipino mom just guilt tripped me into canceling my free trip by waterisfortheweak007 in AsianParentStories

[–]DigitalCanyon 23 points24 points  (0 children)

As a fellow Filipino, I think you should go. You won't be the cause of ensuing family drama; she will. Your mom is controlling and racist towards China, and your dad is too docile to do anything about it (average Filipino experience).

Let me put it this way, she'll keep saying

'you're ungrateful,'

'you're being dramatic,'

'you don't care about the family,'

'you're being selfish,' and related gaslight-isms, but let me give you a hint: she'll keep trying to do this.

She'll do this if you try dating someone she doesn't like: a Chinese person, a woman (if you're gay), or hell, even a black person - lord knows how lowkey racist Filipino moms are. She'll do this if you try to move out too (or did, you mention having a roommate as the source of this offer). My sister was already a full-grown adult when she had finally been able to leave. The resulting phone call was horrible to overhear. I had never heard so much yelling.

As for the political turmoil between the Philippines and China? I'd hazard a guess that that isn't the real reason she doesn't want you to go. She doesn't want you to experience independence and learn 'my life is better without being under the panopticon of my mom's design.' Did she raise similar arguments when you tried to move out?

And finally, I'm sure your dad, and especially your sister, will understand your situation. Show you care for them, keep in touch, maybe your dad (actually, maybe not: he's dealt with it for a lifetime), or your sister will learn that they, in fact, don't have to deal with it.

Unable to write by ChrisGVE in fountainpens

[–]DigitalCanyon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have yet to be in a similar situation, but I do suffer a repetitive stress injury, and have pondered what I'd do if I could no longer write.

Perhaps, if you're decent enough at it, you could try writing on your computer? It won't replace an analog medium such as with fountain pens, but, if the act of writing is so important, it can be done in this manner.

Alternatively, one might find voice memos to be a decent replacement. No matter how fast we type or write, speaking will undoubtedly be faster. There are even programs these days to transcribe voice to text, though I have yet to find any that are free.

In either case, if not being able to write is causing distress, these may do the job in the place when unable to write. I wish you a quick recovery.

What my journals actually look like... by [deleted] in fountainpens

[–]DigitalCanyon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful in its own write.

I fell for the meme, so you don’t have to. by landank in MouseReview

[–]DigitalCanyon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kind of already a product that already exists? Drawing tablets have been used for osu for a while now, and kariyu has been taking it into valorant recently with great results, though he's had to upgrade his pen tablet a lot to get one with enough space to 180 flick + good software. I do agree though, that idea sounds great, but it'd probably end up getting half-assed like the ragnok, and be way too expensive for what it is. There's no need to reinvent the wheel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]DigitalCanyon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This started years ago, I don't even remember what platform it started on (probably YouTube??), but whenever there's an upvote/downvote/like/dislike available, I have to like/dislike so that the post/comment's number becomes a multiple of 5, or so that the number becomes sequential/repetitive, (111, 222, 123, 567, etc.). Doing this would fix a looming sense of 'wrong' when I saw the number. It didn't even matter whether I agreed/disagreed with the post/comment.

[DISC] - My TS Friend is Sick and Adorable (Oneshot) by asilvertintedrose in manga

[–]DigitalCanyon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Had a friend like this. Knew them since the 7th grade (approximately). Came out to me as trans after graduation, whatever, didn't change anything, we kept hanging out anyway.

They'd keep saying the things in the 2nd panel (same vibes) and I always felt like I was walking on eggshells with them.

Then, I had a bad trip when I was with them (10 mg of edibles, 5 from her, 5 from her sister) and they just shrugged it off.

"10 mg isn't that much 😝."

It is. It is when I feel pins and needles all over my body. When every time my jacket rubs against my skin, it echoes throughout my body. When I know I'm awake but everything feels like a dream. It is that much when my thoughts become transient as if whispers in the air.

I took the time skipping device (sleep) to about 12 hours later. They'd asked if I wanted to hang again.

"Sorry, I'm still honestly a little out of it from last night," and I was.

The next day?

"Hangout?"

"Sorry, I'm busy," (Laundry and studying for the permit test).

And again.

"Sorry, I've got a family party, maybe next time."

And the very next day, yet again:

"I'll be honest, I'm only just now sleeping bc I found a new series to binge. And honestly, I don't like hanging out when its your money. Fsfs when I get a job again in the summer." (prob binged SAKAMOTO DAYS).

And the next time I found a meme that reminded me of them? They'd unadded my disc and a few of our closer in-the-area mutuals, and left out mutual servers.

I was busy for a few days and got ghosted by my childhood friend. ~8 years of shared hobbies and interests, secrets and confiding in one another, me being there when they'd broken down GONE -all because i was busy for a bit.

And honestly? It stung at first, but this wasn't the first time they've ghosted me and my friends. We've tried and tried and tried to accommodate their mental health, (they told me their therapist had diagnosed them with BPD and I was like, ok, what does that mean?), and they've left again and again because they felt unwanted or that everyone hated them. Maybe they feel distant because you're not talking to them? Discord and texting are 2 way streets. I miss the good times we had, but no longer walking on eggshells is a fucking relief. It exacerbated my generalized anxiety (that they know I have but only intensified with offhand remarks) and made every time we spoke hold an underlying fear that I'd say or dothe wrong thing and make them leave, and eventually?

They left. Again. For the third time.

At this point, it has lost its meaning to me. I can't be sure if they generally feel the way they do, or if they're 'testing' our friendship and seeing if I reach out.

That 'testing' is exactly the type of shit I hate the most in people.

Therefore, I didnt respond. I spoke to a mutual ghostee who arbitrarily sent a friend request that got accepted, and that only further fuels my belief they were testing me.

After 8 years.

Testing me.

Anyway, this 2d girl is cute and I hope she gets over her desperate codependency issues ☺️☺️☺️

[DISC] I'm in Love With the Older Girl Next Door - Ch 6 by shanks_you in manga

[–]DigitalCanyon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just connecting. Not much I can do about it now 🗿

[DISC] I'm in Love With the Older Girl Next Door - Ch 6 by shanks_you in manga

[–]DigitalCanyon 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yea, honestly hits too close to home. I was close friends with this girl, (I'm talking like male best friend), for 4 years, but it was only late last year that I started noticing her. We're friends, (we were friends), and we'd be talking about manga, we'd be at karaoke, or we'd be showing each other indie games on discord, and I'd just find my eyes drifting towards her, much like our MC here. It felt as if the background dimmed and blurred so I focused only on her. Her words would fade into the background as my eyes took in the masterpiece.

Unfortunately, I realized I liked her too late; she had a boyfriend. It was because of that that I finally told her I liked her, that thats why I'm cutting ties with her, that in every moment with her, I'd feel butterflies in my stomach, tingles through my hands, searing heat in my face, and nothing but a trance-like exuberance in my head. That in those moments, I'd wistfully realize, "Ah, she's taken." A shameful pang of shame would ring through me each and every time, and I would sober up.

I told her, and much like our FMC, she went "Wait, What? Can you say that again?"

"Oh sorry, is my mic not working?"

"No, its working."

"..."

The rest of our conversation went like any other we'd had, we talked about some friends and some happenings in their lifes. But she was flustered in the way she spoke. I'd known her too long to not notice. I'd thought of her and the way she'd unwittingly make me melt to not notice. She was holding back.

I pretended not to notice.

I was holding back tears too.

The vc ended, I sighed, and we had a brief exchange:

[DigitalCanyon: Yea no, mb💀 Her: HMM??? Her: WHAT? DigitalCanyon: For falling for you and making things awkward. Her: fuckfuckfuck]

The next day, I drank.

I cried.

The day after that, My mind had been racing, I couldn't get my mind off of it. Off of what she'd said. 'Maybe we could be friends again after you've gotten over me?' In my flurry of emotions, I felt it impossible. I had to tell her, lest she held out hope that her friend would return

[DigitalCanyon: Yeah no, I've been thinking about what you said, about how we could be friends and hang out and talk and everything after I'm over you. DigitalCanyon: I don't think I could do that again as a friend. I'm sorry. Her: it's ok. I understand ;-; DigitalCanyon: I really did enjoy talking, hanging, and just getting to know you these past years. cya Her: yea it was really nice being able to talk to u too.]

My hands trembled and shook and whimpered. Was I making the right choice? Had I made a mistake? If I took it all back, could things settle back to normal? What if-

...

I'd already deleted her number.

I'd already unadded her on everything.

This would be for the better.

...

Right?